I'm conservative, or traditionalist(fundamentalist is too reactionary for me). Nothings going to change that. But I need a few things cleared up.
1: If Hell doesn't exist, where did Hitler, bin Laden, and Vlad the Impaler go? If a person lives good a morally his entire life, don't you think he or she would get upset that those three are there?
2: I know you emphasis love and forgiveness, a true christian should. However, you're stepping back from the laws makes me feel like you have some humanist fear of the public's opinion. Christ said he is love, but he also said he is the way and that he came to affirm the laws.
3: You say judge them by their fruit, but your more quick to judge your conservative brothers and sisters more than anyone else. I find that to be some kind of misdirection, which again feels like your scared of public opinion.
4: I respect and love others who do not follow as I do. I just don't see why that means I change my belief system simply because their in close proximity to me. Christ broke bread with the thief yes, but he he did not commit theft.
This is no a judgement. These are just the four major issues of your faith that I need clearing up.
If I bundle my self with the liberalists, I would be incorrect; if I bundle myself with the fundamentalist, I might not believe in some of their professed dogma. I am a by-the-Bible believer.
The reason I answer your question is because of the #1 question. There is no life after death, only life after the dead one gets resurrected. Without a resurrection, the dead one remains dead and destroyed. The promise is that "
the soul who sins shall die" (Ezekiel 18:4). It is
not - the soul who is evil shall be tormented forever in hell. Adam was told that he would return to dust, not hell-fire.
Isaiah 26:14: They are dead, they shall not live; they are deceased, they shall not rise: therefore hast thou visited and destroyed them, and made all remembrance of them to perish.
Isaiah 33:1: Ah, you destroyer, who yourself have not been destroyed, you traitor, whom none has betrayed! When you have ceased to destroy, you will be destroyed; and when you have finished betraying, they will betray you.
Psalms 101:8: Morning by morning will I destroy all the wicked of the land; To cut off all the workers of iniquity from the city of Jehovah.
Psalms 103:4: Who redeemeth thy life from destruction; Who crowneth thee with lovingkindness and tender mercies;
Matthew 7:13: Enter ye in by the narrow gate: for wide is the gate, and broad is the way, that leadeth to destruction, and many are they that enter in thereby.
II Peter 3:7: but the heavens that now are, and the earth, by the same word have been stored up for fire, being reserved against the day of judgment and destruction of ungodly men.
In the above, it may be understood that all wicked are destroyed. They are no more. If they were in some kind of hell, being alive there to feel pain, the following could not be true:
Eccl 9:5-10 For the living know that they shall die: but the dead know not any thing, neither have they any more a reward; for the memory of them is forgotten. 6Also their love, and their hatred, and their envy, hath now perished; neither have they any more a portion for ever in any [thing] that is done under the sun. . . . 10Whatever thy hand findeth to do, do [it] with thy might; for [there is] no work, nor device, nor knowledge, nor wisdom, in the grave, whither thou goest. (Webster)
Love
How is Love defined in scripture? Our love of God is defined as strict obedience to God and Christ and that those who do not obey are seen not to love them. Mercy is given for those who in baptism have dedicated their lives to serve Christ and do so at their best ability. There is no mercy for the wicked.
Our love of neighbor is defined as assisting in teaching the things of God, and in providing practical assistance, clothing, and sustenance when needed. The one who ignores the needs of a righteous believer while having in plenty has foregone the faith.
Forgiveness
While we are admonished to forgive, this does not mean that all things must be forgiven. The wife whose husband commits adultery is permitted to divorce and remarry - by scriptures, this is. Our forgiveness, even God's - in no way means that there isn't punishment. At times, God forgives only if the person dies, and then that person may be destroyed forever. Death nullifies all sin, but does not put one in line for God's gifts of eternal life.