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Namaskaram ji
all these thigs Near Death Experiences , glimpses of past lives dont we just need these things to allow us to understand Shastra ? ...without these experiences Shastra may appear as it does to some to be alagorical , analogous or mythalogical , ....well it is not and the more real experience we have the more confirmation we have of its validity , ....
this may be so but just because it took one person ten lifetimes that need not set the rule that it will be the same for you or for me , ..
Opps sorry I will try to slow down , ....
it is lucky that I have a sence of humor , .....how can I be so absorbed in chanting and lofty persuits when I am spending so much time talking to you ??? ....you have my full attention Ji ......I am listening
Ok Ok , ...let me try to explain something , ....its not the chanting that matters it is the mind behind the chanting that realy matters , ...
and what have I accheived ? ...peace of mind !
...when I first went to the temple it was because I was sort of lonely , but I could no longer be assed with superficial freindshipsI had sort of out grown them , I had lost everything that I had worked very hard for over the previous ten years, ... amazingly enough my so called friends also lost interest in me when I had nothing left , but what loss ? ....they were realy great freinds they even stole from me , ...and my dearly beloved who had asked me to marry him changed his mind when he realised we couldnt afford to have a jazz band at the wedding , ...Wow did I have a lucky escape , .. this guy was only interested in having a big party and some great photos to put on the shelf , ....and with these freinds who enemys !
.....I became a little fatalistic I began to ask what is this life for , what are we doing ? ....and yes even when you have been totaly kicked in the teeth by the people you loved and trusted , still you want to find some real friends , ...but quite understandably one begins to ask questions , ...are human beings even capable of freindship , ..can they even be trusted , ...in all honesty they canot , ....I remember coming to the conclusion that it was all my own fault for not realising the true nature of mundane life and the mundane mind , it canot help but be self serving so can I blame them ? ...No , ..they were just like children in a sweet shop , they canot handle temptation , ....can I hate them for what they did ? ...No , ...because like children they dont do it out of deliberate badness they just dont have enough experience or appreciation of life to draw on they just grab and enjoy, that is their animal instinct , I canot blame them for their lack of maturity , .....so who can I trust ?
my self , because I am the only one who is going to get me out of here I am the only one who is going to get over expectations .....the omly other person I can trust is Krsna because he is the only one who dosent need anything from me he has everything but because he has everything he can give so much more in return you give one small morcel of love to him and he returns it tenfold
......So how you cant convince me to give up krsna, .....
I think there are two ways the long systematic path of study and practice , ....and the short path of surrender , .....I am not inteligent enough for study I have learnt a lot from self observation the remainder I put down to the mercy of God be that the Buddha's or Krsna , ....but improving oneself as you say through Yamas and Nyamas is cetainly an important part of any path.
just becoming aquainted with the principle of Sanatana Dharma gave me great hope , ....I followed it , It has never let me down , ...I wish you the same joys , .....
I mostly rely on the Bhagavata Purana and what I get from there as well as from Buddhism is to be self-reliant. To come up with an example from my life when I was in a crisis I thought I needed "love", so I ended up in an abusive relationship. I also needed friendship, but I finally made a friend when I helped someone without the intent of making friends. I just had acted selflessly and it took me one entire year to build that friendship. People will notice if you're "needy" and I don't think they are attracted by that unless they're abusive.
As for the "lofty goals of Hinduism", I too appreciate the practical approach of Hinduism. I don't think the goals of Hinduism are "lofty" unless one puts oneself under pressure and takes a black or white / all or nothing approach. I know there are groups who do this, but I don't think they are typical for Hinduism. Take care.
As the saying goes , it is better to learn from other's experience and knowledge than one's own, in order to save oneself from misery and suffering that is bound to be there in the material world.
If you try to learn everything based on your own life experiences it will take a lot of lives along with the pain and suffering that goes with it. No matter how well endowed and complete you are in the material world, you will still feel unfulfilled , as we are all connected to the Infinite spirit, and anything finite is bound to make us feel unfulfilled even if surrounded by all material pleasures and gratifications.
Even in terms of joy and happiness, you will find it of a permanent nature more in the Spirit rather than in the pleasures of the world which are transient and impermanent.
The experience of the spiritual joy and pleasures will also help you to climb out of the material pleasures which you have mentioned. If you have experienced truly spiritual bliss, you will know that there is just no comparison between it and material pleasures.
Indeed, this is one of those things that convinced me of the validity of Hinduism. One of the reasons why I became atheist in my early adult years was the scientific contradictions that religion faced, but then later to discover a religion that was entirely consistent with science(e.g. the scientific facts I mentioned in a thread I started) and actually had a lot scientists who were its fans, confirmed the religion for me. So even these other less accepted areas of science like parapsychology are relevant to me, as I do not buy into the materialist dogmas that parapsychology is unscientific just because it attempts to study the paranormal. I have seen some really good research in this field and it is has further increased my faith in Hinduism(sharadda)
This is what is making me think too, as I am experiencing similar disappointments over and over again from my "friends" I am also feeling lonely, but well I have been lonely most of my life and sort of learned to live with it earlier on, until I opened that 'pandoras box' a few years ago, now I crave contact and I settle for the base of contact like sex and pubs and bars. I have considered exactly as you say whether real friendship and love exists. Is it just what we see in movies? Is it a fantasy? I am afraid of becoming cynical. I remember what Satre said "Hell is other people"
That is most of the problems in your life actually come from others --- anger, jealousy, pride, sorrow, fear. The more and more you get involved with other people, the more politics and drama there is. These are the things that hurt the most in life.
I still would to believe true friends and true love exists, but I am simply just looking in all the wrong places. Accepting a life without friends and love is a depressing thought to me..
Please do not mind the bluntness of the question, but what is the difference between your Krishna and an imaginary friend? This question extends to everybody who talks to God. including myself sometimes. Krishna is just as invisible, just as mute and just as in your head as an imaginary friend is.
If somebody who has no friends turns to an imaginary friend, we consider the situation very sad --- like Thomas Hanks character in Cast away turns a ball into his friend. The ball cannot really talk, answer any questions, answer any prayers, give back any love.
I think here is where my atheist tendencies are manifesting -- I find the whole idea of talking to imaginary God who can't talk back, cannot answer any of your questions, cannot confirm or disconfirm anything for you --- silly. Instead, we end up talking back, answering the questions and confirming and disconfirming on our own behalf --- "God said this, God said that, God did this, God did that"
I would never do such a thing. My questions to you regarding the importance of having a personal God in your life is not to undermine your faith, but to understand how it can be useful and are we actually being authentic to ourselves by having such imaginary personal gods in our life. At least two Dharmic traditions Jainism and Buddhism have felt no need for such a thing, and they have still been able to reach "enlightenment"
The only means to liberation is by pursuing truth with intensity and going where that takes one. Liberation is the central feature of Hinduism. It determines the dharma that one practices. That pursuit of truth takes one to the path where God is stirred to come to the aid of the yogi. Scriptures are not a means to liberation. The pursuit of truth is.I have a burning question regarding actually practising Hinduism in real life. Hinduism is more of a religion of practice than it is of faith or belief. It really doesn't matter what you believe in Hinduism, even if you believe in Brahman, there is no salvation just through belief. I want to extend this further and say it doesn't even matter what scripture you have read, how many scriptures you have read or how many philosophies you have mastered in Hinduism, all of this is just conceptual knowledge, or as Sanata Kumara says to Narada in the Upanishads, all of this is just name. The knowledge actually sign posts you to the practice.
Now, here is my problem. I am finding the practice of Hinduism too lofty for me to practice. Living a pure sattvic life is so difficult, because I have so much rajas and tamas. Everytime I try to live a pure sattvic life, my dominant gunas of rajas and tamas just take over. In particular rajas, the desire for pleasure(kama) is very strong in me. I had no idea it was so strong in me until I opened the Pandora's box so to speak about 6 years ago. I use to live a simple life of no alcohol, almost pure celibacy, vegetarian, barely swore and practised regular meditation --- almost close to a monks life. However, I felt very repressed, and like a Tantrik on the vama-marga(left path) I decided to shake things up, so I started drinking alcohol, going clubbing, having causal sex, eating meat, swearing a bit and stopped meditating. That was it, all my previous spirituality went out of the window, it has taken over my life, it is has completely consumed me, the pleasure seeking drive has taken control. I get bored if I am not out there partying now and it is the only thing I look forward to in the week -- cum weekend so I can go out and get pissed and laid. My life is like 50 shades of grey. It is the biggest about turn I have ever done in my life.
Now, what is unfortunate, I am doing this with all that sublime, cosmic and lofty knowledge of Hinduism. I know that this material body is not me, I know that sensory pleasures are temporal and seeking them brings one to destruction. I have read what Shankara has to say "Sensory pleasures are more venomous than a cobra, because while a cobra has to actually bite you for the venom to get to you, sense objects poison you at mere sight" or "the fish is attracted by taste, the bee to smell, the mosquito to sight, the elephant to touch, and the deer to sound, all meet destruction, but what of the human whose attracted by all 5" I agree, as this has become the modus operandi of my life currently, it does actually feel self-destructive. The damage I have done to my self physically, mentally and emotionally in pursuit of these sense objects is probably great, whose consequences I may have to bear in later life.
So you may ask me "Why don't you just stop" Well, as Krishna said to Arjuna, I can't help it, the gunas are compelling me. I have tried to stop a few times and I just get bored, depressed and crave it, think about it all the time and even dream about it(it almost like an addiction) So my question is am I even supposed to stop? Perhaps I need to just ride this one out, pay the price for doing it, and come out wiser at the end of it. It is said in the Yoga shastra, that nature(prakriti) keeps providing the experiences that the soul(purusha) needs, until the soul develops discrimination(viveka) and no longer needs it. This may take several lifetimes. Although I am equipped with the wisdom of the Upanishads, Bhagvad Gita, it is not actually my own experiential knowledge. No matter how many times I say to myself "I am not the body" I still can't stop looking in the mirror to see if I look good enough to go out(yes, I am very vain)
It seems to be implied in Hinduism when it says that it takes millions of lifetimes of good deeds before one gets liberation, that it is expected that you are not going to succeed in a single lifetime, that you are in fact going to make millions of mistakes as you evolve and through the souls accumulated experience it gradually matures. This makes sense to me. However, I want to pose a question to you, to provoke a philosophical discussion: Do we need to just go through the experiences to learn or can we catalyse our learning by the learning from knowledge from the scriptures? Is knowledge gathered from scripture a true substitute for life learning?