Love test.

[Kathryn]

You Love your spouse very much. Sex and Love are two very different things according to you. Your spouse is very much interested in Sex with someone else.

If that is the case, Than can you allow your spouse to have sex with someone else ? ( Just because you Love your spouse very much and you always look forward to complete his/her desires )

Lets test Love

I guess all this is very hypothetical, since in real life I have some serious issues with the whole premise. Here's why:

1. Sex and love are not two very different things according to me. I mean - they CAN be, but they're not in my marriage. In my marriage, sex is an expression of the love we have for each other, as well as the absolute trust and the intimacy that such a level of trust imparts. We absolutely, 100 percent trust the other person and because of that trust, the sex has an added level of intensity and feels very precious and intensely private to both of us. How do I know my husband feels the same way? We've discussed it in depth and we are and always have been on the same page on this.

2. My husband and I are both wired together to be monogamous creatures. That's one of the things that attracted us to each other to begin with, and continues to strengthen our relationship. Besides deeply appreciating the joy that such a deep trust imparts in our marriage, we also simply do not like the drama associated with infidelity or adding other people to the mix. Blech. Totally uninterested. Therefore, the statement "your spouse very much wants to have sex with someone else" is barely fathomable within the context of our marriage. Both of us would be shocked and dismayed if this were to come about.

3. Frankly, being monogamous my entire life and knowing that this is a component to my psyche that is apparently hard wired, and that I LIKE - when I was looking for a mate, I specifically looked only for a mate who would share and treasure this value. So - completing my beloved's deepest desires would simply not include being OK with, facilitating, or even looking the other way when it comes to sex with another person.

 

[Buttercup]

You Love your spouse very much. Sex and Love are two very different things according to you. Your spouse is very much interested in Sex with someone else.

If that is the case, Than can you allow your spouse to have sex with someone else ? ( Just because you Love your spouse very much and you always look forward to complete his/her desires )

Lets test Love

Nope. Not happening at our house for about a million different reasons.

I like the safety of monogamous sex and don't want to have to worry about that issue.

I don't want him to have to pay child support for a child that might pop onto the scene.

If the chick he's in current fascination with suddenly dumps him, I don't want him crying on my shoulder and feeling like I need to console him.

I don't want to lie to my family about why my husband can't come over for dinner because he's on a date with his latest girlfriend.

I don't want my husband buying anyone else but me birthday gifts.

The list could go on for days, but I'll leave it at that.

Anybody who has sex with me never dexsires sex with anyone besides me ever again. Once you go Trout, you can't do without.

Darn. Wish I could have saved my frubal for this post.

 

[Wirey]

Nope. Not happening at our house for about a million different reasons.

I like the safety of monogamous sex and don't want to have to worry about that issue.

I don't want him to have to pay child support for a child that might pop onto the scene.

If the chick he's in current fascination with suddenly dumps him, I don't want him crying on my shoulder and feeling like I need to console him.

I don't want to lie to my family about why my husband can't come over for dinner because he's on a date with his latest girlfriend.

I don't want my husband buying anyone else but me birthday gifts.

The list could go on for days, but I'll leave it at that.

Darn. Wish I could have saved my frubal for this post.

Does this mean we're not dating?

 

[oldbadger]

Anybody who has sex with me never dexsires sex with anyone besides me ever again. Once you go Trout, you can't do without.

What........ me?

....or do you mean my wifey?

I don't know whether to say 'God Bless you' or 'God help you'.
Look... you could try to 'do' my wife, but it would almost certainly end up with you being surrounded by surgeons and big lights.
You'd have to be very very careful with Mrs B. There's only two smallish time-zones in any lunar month when she might.... just might.... be susceptible to your advances, and you've got to know exactly when that is..... she get's this look about her, and wiggles her foot just so when she sits, and stuff. Get it wrong..... rush up in your underpants (or out of 'em) at the wrong time, and, .... oh God.... all them surgeons lights .... and all that pain.

If.... if, you get it right, you've got to know what to do. You won't know what to do..... trust me... :yes:. If you just try to connect and rub yourself and wriggle about... she'll probably bite you in the neck or something, because she has difficult hips.... I'm not a friggin' osteopath so don't ask me why, but her hips can hurt if you just barge in and shove yourself about, or whatever you do.

..... there's more..... more that she don't like that you don't know sh-t about, and the chances of you surviving this encounter is nigh on effing nil.

Now..... do you wan' 'er to know yer?