Loyalty and divorced families

[Treks]

Greetings

I'm curious about other people's take on this scenario.

How would you feel about your husband's family maintaining contact (via Facebook) with his ex-wife, when you've been married to him for 6 years and they've been divorced for 11 (and your husband and his ex-wife don't get along)?

Is it OK to feel like this is a betrayal of loyalty, or should I just try to ignore it?

Thanks

 

[Karl R]

Is it OK to feel like this is a betrayal of loyalty, or should I just try to ignore it?

I don't understand why you would feel that it's a betrayal of loyalty.

If two of your friends had a falling out, would you feel obliged to break up with one of your friends out of loyalty to the other? How would you feel if one of them expected you to break up with the other one?

My wife is friends with my older sister. They're both sweet, thoughtful women who share several common interests. If my wife and I were to start having marital difficulties, both of them would still be the sweet, thoughtful women who share several common interests. My wife and sister met because of the familial relationship, but that's not the reason they like each other. If the familial relationship falls apart, their reasons for liking each other will still remain.

Unless the ex-wife has done something to demonstrate that she's a horrible person, there's no reason for the other family members to take a dislike to her.

 

[Brickjectivity]

It depends upon your situation, but I think a lot of people would feel betrayed. Anxiety is the rough side of love. Maybe it affects your sense of privacy, too. They might feel a strong need to stay in contact though, so what can you do?

 

[Assad91]

Reminds me of a Modern Family episode.

Have you spoken with your family?

 

[CynthiaCypher]

Are there children involved?

 

[Treks]

Thanks for the replies.

Yes, my husband and his ex-wife have two children, they are aged 18 and 20.

 

[Pegg]

Greetings

I'm curious about other people's take on this scenario.

How would you feel about your husband's family maintaining contact (via Facebook) with his ex-wife, when you've been married to him for 6 years and they've been divorced for 11 (and your husband and his ex-wife don't get along)?

Is it OK to feel like this is a betrayal of loyalty, or should I just try to ignore it?

Thanks

I would take it as a positive. His family must have had a great relationship with her to keep in touch...thats definitely a good thing. And obviously if children are invovled, then its best to keep the relationship in tact.