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Married Folks: Is Your Spouse Your Best Friend?
- Thread starter ChristineES
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I love action and adventure. I love travel that has the dicey side and dodgy circumstances in some cases. Lots of "characters" and fellow adventurers as "friends"...
Because of that, if it weren't for my wife, a partner of long standing now, I probably would be dead by now. Dang straight, yes she is my best friend.
Because of that, if it weren't for my wife, a partner of long standing now, I probably would be dead by now. Dang straight, yes she is my best friend.
Father Heathen
Veteran Member
Dawn is very much my best friend. 
Well...it's possible your best friend is not someone you find attractive, so you marry your second best friend.
(erm...I'm kinda being pedantic/a knob, aren't I? Apologies in advance!)
Kilgore Trout
Misanthropic Humanist
Actually, I dated a few people who were considerably more physically attractive than my wife. My wife is the perfect level of attractiveness for me - attractive enough for me to find her sexy, but not so attractive that she suffers from the psychological and emotional issues that tend to plague people who are too physically attractive.
dawny0826
Mother Heathen
Dawn is very much my best friend.
And you are mine.
s2a
Heretic and part-time (skinny) Santa impersonator
Yep, understand. I thought my wife was physically attractive before I knew her, and attractive (overall) after I did. There have been others who were physically attractive, but after getting to know them they just didntvseem attractive at all.
Treks
Well-Known Member
Getting to know someone can impact their attractiveness I suppose. Sometimes quirky mannerisms can put you off.. or something in their personality that you only notice after a little while of getting to know them.
The reverse can also happen, someone you didn't find particularly attractive can become more attractive as you get to know them, their mannerisms may become endearing to you and their positive personality and confidence can be attractive in itself.
But that doesn't have much to do with them being your bestie.
The reverse can also happen, someone you didn't find particularly attractive can become more attractive as you get to know them, their mannerisms may become endearing to you and their positive personality and confidence can be attractive in itself.
But that doesn't have much to do with them being your bestie.
Alceste
Vagabond
Absolutely, yes. We've been together 8 years, married for 2, living in tiny homes with no personal space for 7, and we still really enjoy one another's company. I start to miss him if I don't see him for two days, longer than that feels just... wrong. Like the colour has all leached out of the world. I get bored and find other people more boring.
It's a real blessing to have found someone I can have unrestrained conversations with IRL, and he's cute, too.
It's a real blessing to have found someone I can have unrestrained conversations with IRL, and he's cute, too.
Buttercup
Veteran Member
My husband is definitely my best friend, most loyal supporter and confidant. However, at the risk of sounding sexist, D) there are a couple of subjects where I feel the need to talk to my female friends exclusively as he just "doesn't get it" nor does he care to understand. I don't hold this against him as I find it cognitively impossible to talk about the Detroit Tigers every day and therefore he needs male companionship for this endeavor.
D) there are a couple of subjects where I feel the need to talk to my female friends exclusively as he just "doesn't get it" nor does he care to understand. I don't hold this against him as I find it cognitively impossible to talk about the Detroit Tigers every day and therefore he needs male companionship for this endeavor.
Alceste
Vagabond
My husband is definitely my best friend, most loyal supporter and confidant. However, at the risk of sounding sexist,
Aw, hell, we all need to vent from time to time. Guys to guys and girls to girls, and people to other people who are not directly involved in our daily frustrations with our partners.
My husband is my best friend, but I nevertheless share my petty frustrations about him with my girlfriends. I also share my petty frustrations about my girlfriends with him, so it all balances out in the end.
Aurelia
New Member
[Yes, most definitely. We both just came out of bad first marriages and I had seen him out and about with my aunt and uncles, but I didn't actually meet him 'til a month later. He asked me out upon meeting, I was 19 and he was 31. He asked me to marry him on our first date. I thought about it for a few minutes and said yes. I figured it couldn't be worse than my first. So he said now, let's go to Vegas, so we did. He died 1 month after our 34th anniversary. I know, TMI. This is the first time that I've even mentioned him since he died 5 yrs. ago. Thanks for listening./LEFT]
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Thanks for sharing. Maybe the bad first marriage turned out good in the long run? Helps appreciate how things can be versus how they are.