Marrying Into the Faith

[jeffrey]

nutshell, I truely wish you and your wife the best. May God bless your marriage.

 

[nutshell]

nutshell, I truely wish you and your wife the best. May God bless your marriage.

Thank you, jeffrey.

 

[Quiddity]

What if love runs out in your marriage? But you aren't really fighting either?

 

[nutshell]

What if love runs out in your marriage? But you aren't really fighting either?

I'm not sure how you're asking, but I'll post my own opinion. When we are married we are making a promise to each other and we should stick with that promise. If there are no kids involved, maybe I'm OK with ending the marriage, but couples need to stick together when there are kids. To do otherwise will devalue the importance of marriage in the kids' eyes and kids need both their parents. I'm sure the liberal left will disagree with me. I just hope when you post you don't attack my beliefs, but enter a constructive dialog. Thanks.

 

[Quiddity]

I'm not sure how you're asking, but I'll post my own opinion. When we are married we are making a promise to each other and we should stick with that promise. If there are no kids involved, maybe I'm OK with ending the marriage, but couples need to stick together when there are kids. To do otherwise will devalue the importance of marriage in the kids' eyes and kids need both their parents. I'm sure the liberal left will disagree with me. I just hope when you post you don't attack my beliefs, but enter a constructive dialog. Thanks.

You understood it just fine. Why would you think I am going to attack you?
What if there was no kids? Same answer?

 

[nutshell]

You understood it just fine. Why would you think I am going to attack you?
What if there was no kids? Same answer?

I'm sorry. I didn't mean to imply you would attack me, but I know there are some who would that are lurking out there. I guess I've just become paranoid on these forums.

If no kids then I still think the couple should try to work it out since they've made a promise to each other, but, in the end, if it doesn't work out and there are no kids I say let them break that promise if they must (as in, there is no other option).

 

[jonny]

I honestly believe love is only one of many components that are needed for a successful marriage. If "all you need is love" were true, then many more marriages would be successful.

I was in an inter-racial, interfaith marriage, but about three years into into it my wife converted and became LDS. We had a secular marriage (til death do we part), but are preparing to go to the temple and be sealed for eternity, probably in the next few months.

And if you're wondering she is Japanese and before converting she was an atheist/buddhist if there is such a thing.

It's kind of off-topic, but I've noticed a lot of inter-racial marriages in the LDS church among my friends lately. My brother married a girl who is Japanese/Fillipino. I've had lots of roommates marry girls who are Hispanic or Asian also. It's an interesting trend that I've noticed and I'm excited to see the changes that will happen in the church as the members become more diverse and unified!

On the topic, I would never marry a girl who was not an active, faithful member of the LDS church. I agree that love isn't enough. Just about every couple who gets married was in love at one point or another. Many of them end up in divorce.

I believe that having common goals for your life and family is even more important than love. When the love dies out for brief times, if you're not working together for the same purpose as one, you probably won't last.

For me, the purpose of this life is to raise up a family that will be sealed together for eternity. I can't do this with someone who is not a member of my faith.

Anyway, I'm a 26-year-old single Mormon, so I'm pretty much a failure when it comes to relationships, but that's my take on the matter.

 

[nutshell]

Anyway, I'm a 26-year-old single Mormon, so I'm pretty much a failure when it comes to relationships, but that's my take on the matter.

You better hurry. You only have less than a year before you become a menace to society according to Brigham Young.

 

[jonny]

You better hurry. You only have less than a year before you become a menace to society according to Brigham Young.

I still have time? I thought I was already there at 25. :bounce

 

[Quiddity]

I'm sorry. I didn't mean to imply you would attack me, but I know there are some who would that are lurking out there. I guess I've just become paranoid on these forums.

No prob. It happens and will happen for most of our lives.

If no kids then I still think the couple should try to work it out since they've made a promise to each other, but, in the end, if it doesn't work out and there are no kids I say let them break that promise if they must (as in, there is no other option).

Does your church decide this?

 

[Buttons*]

Marriage of the same faith is going to be next to impossible for me. All i could possibly aim for is an open-minded individual... not that i want to get married any time soon.

 

[jonny]

Does your church decide this?

The church doesn't really decide anything on the civil side (as far as I know). On the religious side, if you were married in the temple I believe that you need to get a temple annulment or something from the First Presidency in order to get married in the temple again.

Someone correct me if I'm wrong...I'm not an expert in "temple divorces," but this seems to be what my uncle went through when he got remarried.

 

[Quiddity]

The church doesn't really decide anything on the civil side (as far as I know).

I'd be surprised if any religion can do this....

On the religious side, if you were married in the temple I believe that you need to get a temple annulment or something from the First Presidency in order to get married in the temple again.

Someone correct me if I'm wrong...I'm not an expert in "temple divorces," but this seems to be what my uncle went through when he got remarried.

This is what I was looking for. Thanks.