In my experience it is a lot easier if you don't burden your practice with expectations.
Indeed... grab a handful of sand; squeeze it tightly to hold onto it; what happens? It runs through your fingers and you lose it all. Hold in your open palm; what happens? It stays there. I'm starting to take my own advice on that. Imo 60 seconds of "zoning out" in meditation is better than 60 minutes of fighting to keep the mind focused.