Men won't buy the cow if the milk is free

[Sunstone]

These posts don't seem to clarify whether they're talking about an open relationship or actual cheating. There's a difference between a betrayal of trust to break an agreement of monogamy, and an initial agreement to not be tied to one partner, for people that want that.

Good point. I'm thinking open relationship. I'd have a problem with cheating. Not because it's screwing around, but because it's breaking an oath.

 

[Monk Of Reason]

These posts don't seem to clarify whether they're talking about an open relationship or actual cheating. There's a difference between a betrayal of trust to break an agreement of monogamy, and an initial agreement to not be tied to one partner, for people that want that.

Open relationship and sex aren't the same thing. I personally am against them as they don't seem to have much psychological evidence that they can be healthy forms of "relationships". Though sex for sex's sake happens.

Though this is hardly the thread to get into it. The thing that I wanted to ask him was if he meant the woman's sexual history isn't a factor or if he meant that he would rather have a smart and accomplished cheater for a partner rather than a faithful ditz.

 

[psychoslice]

A little yellow friend of mine once told me to "not have a cow man", and ever since I haven't lol.

 

[chinu]

Interesting. You seem to know as little about men as you do about women. Better stick to speaking of gods, Chinu.

What little ? or what is more ?

 

[chinu]

I know many men. Some men don't treat women's sexuality like a possession, and some don't feel the need to be jealous about it.

Some cows go to the jungle and eat, No burden to the husbands.
In that cases the story is different.

 

[Alceste]

I would rather be with an experienced lover, personally.

 

[Drolefille]

These posts don't seem to clarify whether they're talking about an open relationship or actual cheating. There's a difference between a betrayal of trust to break an agreement of monogamy, and an initial agreement to not be tied to one partner, for people that want that.

Yup.

Open relationship and sex aren't the same thing. I personally am against them as they don't seem to have much psychological evidence that they can be healthy forms of "relationships". Though sex for sex's sake happens.

Though this is hardly the thread to get into it. The thing that I wanted to ask him was if he meant the woman's sexual history isn't a factor or if he meant that he would rather have a smart and accomplished cheater for a partner rather than a faithful ditz.

Sunstone specified that he didn't mean a "Cheater" he meant a non-monogamous woman. Not all of us non-monogamous women are cheaters. I will not cheat nor participate in cheating. It goes against my ethical code. But neither would I go out to date someone who would expect me to be monogamous if I was not willing to be.

Btw, there's no psychological evidence showing that polyamorous relationships are unhealthy. Why would you presume that they must be proved to be healthy first? (A standard many mono relationships fail.)

Some cows go to the jungle and eat, No burden to the husbands.
In that cases the story is different.

Apparently in your world, men can marry animals.

In mine, they can marry people. Stop calling women cows.

 

[Monk Of Reason]

Sunstone specified that he didn't mean a "Cheater" he meant a non-monogamous woman. Not all of us non-monogamous women are cheaters. I will not cheat nor participate in cheating. It goes against my ethical code. But neither would I go out to date someone who would expect me to be monogamous if I was not willing to be.

Btw, there's no psychological evidence showing that polyamorous relationships are unhealthy. Why would you presume that they must be proved to be healthy first? (A standard many mono relationships fail.)

He did not specify it till later. Which is why he and I are no longer going back and forth on the subject.

If you want to make a thread about polyamerous relationships and the evidence for and against then by all means. However I don't feel like derailing this thread.

 

[Drolefille]

He did not specify it till later. Which is why he and I are no longer going back and forth on the subject.

If you want to make a thread about polyamerous relationships and the evidence for and against then by all means. However I don't feel like derailing this thread.

I don't really feel the need to. I have sufficient anecdotal evidence. In many ways possession/claim/ownership of sexuality is quite relevant to this thread. However, lets be honest, this thread really isn't going anywhere important other than "Calling women cows" vs. "Women aren't cows." So there isn't much to derail.

 

[Yadon]

loyalty means security, and we like to be secure emotionally, financially and socially. thats why not sleeping with everyone is important to some people... if you do, well that must mean they might fall in love with someone too and forget all about poor old you!