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Mental Health

Epic Beard Man

Bearded Philosopher
As some of you know I work with psychiatric patients at my local hospital in Los Angeles California and I've noticed (at least on this forum in Dope's thread) there is a pattern I've learned with psychiatric patients is that a lot of them tend to justify the behavior of others. By justification, I'm not saying they intently justify the destructive behavior (although some drug addicts do) but they tend to say "hey this guy was just tormented" or "hey he is an intelligent guy and rational" yet by doing such waters down the ultimately destructive behavior of that individual. One of the infinitely frustrating things us clinicians face especially in emergency medicine and psychiatry are those that DO NOT WANT HELP.

For example I tend to deal with a lot of homeless individuals who are drug addicts with nowhere to go and what happens is a lot of them utilize emergency rooms as "hotels" of sorts by complaining of suicidal ideation. Usually, when that happens we triage them and place them in a room or a waiting room. A physician will do a second assessment of their medical/mental health. Usually the question is "do you want to harm yourself or others?" The usual response is "yes" the following question is "how would you do it?" The usual answer would be "jump into traffic" or you'll get some interesting answers.

Many of these individuals get placed on holds for 72 hours (5150) then go to our psychiatric facility and get follow up treatment there. I think many of us clinicians (myself included) get jaded are those that receive follow up help care in the form of referrals and other forms which ought to aid them. Most times these patients throw these referrals in the trash. Some try to follow up and just fall off the road (these are the ones I feel sorry for because they're really trying)) but I've noticed a lot of psychiatric patients do not want to get better because it forces them to actually do the work and not have their hand held doing it.

People need to want to get better. I was an idealist before getting into mental health but I've been slightly jaded in the sense that a lot of people overuse emergency rooms as a means to have this cyclical scheme where they're like "hey let me smoke this meth and act crazy, have the police pick me up and place me on a hold and do this all over again." I'm of the opinion that if you want to kill yourself, do it. If you want to give up the life God gave you do it. But it makes no sense that if me or any other clinician sit down and actually look you in the eye and sincerely want you to get treatment, it gets spat back in our face. I mean, suicidal patients have no problem demanding food and juice but wont demand to get better by getting help. But it seems doing the work yourself is too much and this is the additional problem of mental health. People need to have a want to get better, using temporary services like emergency rooms is not the answer.

Edit: I've been suicidal before after my mother's passing and while cleaning my gun one day, assembled my gun back placed one bullet in the chamber coked it back and held it to my head. The only thing that kept me from doing it (aside from being afraid) was I made a promise to my mother I'd graduate college. Also, what would my family think of my brain matter being splattered all over the walls? What would my brother who loves me think? How would that effect him or my extended family? The road has never been easy and I personally continue to fight demons of depression, anger, and rage but God dang it, if I can truck it through I know someone in a far worse situation can. People need to have the mentality of refusing to lay down and die.
 
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Deidre

Well-Known Member
I think that many mental health facilities from what I can tell, also just babysit the patients, and aren't really helping the patient to get better, to have hope for a better future. If these facilities are just babysitting until the patient's time is up, that patient isn't going to be any better equipped to facing the future than he/she was when they entered the facility. I admire the work you're doing.
 

Debater Slayer

Vipassana
Staff member
Premium Member
As some of you know I work with psychiatric patients at my local hospital in Los Angeles California and I've noticed (at least on this forum in Dope's thread) there is a pattern I've learned with psychiatric patients is that a lot of them tend to justify the behavior of others. By justification, I'm not saying they intently justify the destructive behavior (although some drug addicts do) but they tend to say "hey this guy was just tormented" or "hey he is an intelligent guy and rational" yet by doing such waters down the ultimately destructive behavior of that individual. One of the infinitely frustrating things us clinicians face especially in emergency medicine and psychiatry are those that DO NOT WANT HELP.

For example I tend to deal with a lot of homeless individuals who are drug addicts with nowhere to go and what happens is a lot of them utilize emergency rooms as "hotels" of sorts by complaining of suicidal ideation. Usually, when that happens we triage them and place them in a room or a waiting room. A physician will do a second assessment of their medical/mental health. Usually the question is "do you want to harm yourself or others?" The usual response is "yes" the following question is "how would you do it?" The usual answer would be "jump into traffic" or you'll get some interesting answers.

Many of these individuals get placed on holds for 72 hours (5150) then go to our psychiatric facility and get follow up treatment there. I think many of us clinicians (myself included) get jaded are those that receive follow up help care in the form of referrals and other forms which ought to aid them. Most times these patients throw these referrals in the trash. Some try to follow up and just fall off the road (these are the ones I feel sorry for because they're really trying)) but I've noticed a lot of psychiatric patients do not want to get better because it forces them to actually do the work and not have their hand held doing it.

People need to want to get better. I was an idealist before getting into mental health but I've been slightly jaded in the sense that a lot of people overuse emergency rooms as a means to have this cyclical scheme where they're like "hey let me smoke this meth and act crazy, have the police pick me up and place me on a hold and do this all over again." I'm of the opinion that if you want to kill yourself, do it. If you want to give up the life God gave you do it. But it makes no sense that if me or any other clinician sit down and actually look you in the eye and sincerely want you to get treatment, it gets spat back in our face. I mean, suicidal patients have no problem demanding food and juice but wont demand to get better by getting help. But it seems doing the work yourself is too much and this is the additional problem of mental health. People need to have a want to get better, using temporary services like emergency rooms is not the answer.

I believe that one of the biggest compounding factors of some mental illnesses is when people refuse to admit that they need help. For instance, some people with borderline personality disorder refuse to go to the psychiatrist as much as needed because they believe they're fine without one, even though their illness negatively and overwhelmingly affects them and those around them. Generally, I think one of the first steps to solving a problem is to admit it exists, and that applies to health issues too.

As someone who has been to six psychiatrists and two psychologists in addition to trying twelve medications for depression, I strongly believe that you should keep trying. Sometimes a change in doctors or medication is required, but not seeking help at all not only can cause oneself more pain but also can cause a lot of pain to those around the person. Society's responsibility, as far as I can see, is to understand and be helpful to patients in whatever capacity possible. The patients' responsibility, on the other hand, is to be willing to get help or at least make sure they don't unnecessarily burden and trouble those around them when seeking professional help could spare everyone involved effort, time, and pain.
 

YmirGF

Bodhisattva in Recovery
Thank you for a very thoughtful thread, @Epic Beard Man

Metal health has such stigma attached to it. That is sad in its own right. People need to understand that it is OK to need others especially when they are terribly vulnerable.
 

Deidre

Well-Known Member
I think the ''system'' makes it easy for people to stay locked into it, reliant on it. And that also hinders self improvement.
 
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Epic Beard Man

Bearded Philosopher
I think the ''system'' makes it easy for people to stay locked into it, reliant on it. And that also hinder self improvement.

I agree. The problem with the system is in emergency rooms like mines that do initial assessments, we cannot discern whether the individual is telling the truth or not, plus there are legal ramifications of simply shunning people away. Like, we'll have homeless patients come in for a simple head injury and when they get those discharge papers they go right back out in the lobby and tell the triage nurse they're feeling suicidal, they go right back in and get a warm bed and a sandwich and juice. We know they're BSing but hospitals wont take that chance.
 

Spiderman

Veteran Member
I feel sorry for people with tormented Minds and chronic Temptations to do what is sick and wrong , because I've been Afflicted in that way. So I feel very sorry for people with that affliction. I'm not justifying their behavior.

Also I've been hospitalized multiple times , but it was never because I went to the emergency room complaining that I was suicidal.

When I was suicidal I laid down in front of an oncoming train and the train conductor stopped the train and called the police.

Next time I was suicidal I jumped off a building breaking my pelvis, my ribs, my arm, my back, traumatic head injury, and tearing up my knees.

I do want to get better. I go to groups AA meetings, I meet with professionals, I don't do drugs that aren't prescribed to me.

I tried to accumulate positive emotions, find sanity and stability, pray to my higher power for help, and seek answers through meditation.

I'm constantly having to detoxify my mind of unhealthy thoughts. I'm working on it.

I don't want to be this way. Problem is, I don't know exactly how to get better. The mind is wild, all over the place, and unstable. I'm also schizoaffective so there's delusions there as well.

I'm hoping to become a peer support specialist and help out other mentally ill people.

Believe it or not, I've been able to help out other mentally ill people, cuz I can relate to them.

In the end however, it's going to take a miracle for me... However, through prayer and meditation , and restructuring how I think, I went from being a sociopath to being deeply compassionate. That is very rare.

So I know change is possible.
 

Deidre

Well-Known Member
This might be an odd question, but why would a mental health facility let someone out, with no place to go once they leave, knowing that they attempted suicide a few times, and are on strong medications? This seems like it's setting the person up for failure, and it could cause that person harm, or others. Just trying to understand where does the responsibility begin and end with the mental health facility?
 

Spiderman

Veteran Member
Trust me, if I could put myself out of my misery tomorrow , I would do so.

I don't want to be a burden on society costing taxpayers dollars and I don't like being alive.

The problem is, there's no guarantee that the suicide attempt will be successful. All the last one did was put me in a wheelchair and Hospital for 10 weeks and almost put me in a wheelchair for the rest of my life. It also put a bunch of scar tissue around the prostate that needed surgery as well. My 3 months in the hospital cost about $1,000 a day. I don't want to be costing taxpayers that much money.

Putting a gun to my head and shooting myself isn't a guarantee either. I know of a guy who blew both of his eyeballs out of their sockets when he put a gun to his chin and he survived. I know of another woman who blew her face off and survived completely disfigured for the rest of her life.

I don't want to go through the hell of a failed suicide attempt... If euthanasia were legal and I could comfortably be put down, I absolutely would be. I don't see how my existence is good for society.

I've grown up in group homes, foster homes, jails, psychiatric Wards and correctional facilities. Compared to who I used to be, I'm actually doing remarkably well. Some people even would say miraculously well.

My probation officer is actually very impressed with me and thinks I will do well
 

Spiderman

Veteran Member
This might be an odd question, but why would a mental health facility let someone out, with no place to go once they leave, knowing that they attempted suicide a few times, and are on strong medications? This seems like it's setting the person up for failure, and it could cause that person harm, or others. Just trying to understand where does the responsibility begin and end with the mental health facility?
In short, it's because the insurance won't cover something else.
 

Deidre

Well-Known Member
I hope so, I believe you can if you have a good support system when you're released from there. But, has anyone there helped you to figure out at least why you have wanted to take your own life? They seem to prescribe medications and diagnose you as this or that, but if you don't get to the root reasons why you wanted to commit suicide, then how are they helping you?

(this is in reply to post #9)
 

Spiderman

Veteran Member
I hope so, I believe you can if you have a good support system when you're released from there. But, has anyone there helped you to figure out at least why you have wanted to take your own life? They seem to prescribe medications and diagnose you as this or that, but if you don't get to the root reasons why you wanted to commit suicide, then how are they helping you?
The reason I wanted to kill myself is because I hated living , and I wasn't hearing anything from God and I was confused, and God wasn't relieving me of the confusion , so I thought it would be better for society if I put myself out of my misery... I've also hurt other people before and I feel a lot of guilt about that, I feel like if I keep living , I'll just hurt more good people. Basically I jumped because I hated my life and wanted to be a spirit.

I prayed to God that my spirit would rise from the ground and help people. I thought I could do more good as a spirit
 

Evangelicalhumanist

"Truth" isn't a thing...
Premium Member
The reason I wanted to kill myself is because I hated living , and I wasn't hearing anything from God and I was confused, and God wasn't relieving me of the confusion , so I thought it would be better for society if I put myself out of my misery... I've also hurt other people before and I feel a lot of guilt about that, I feel like if I keep living , I'll just hurt more good people. Basically I jumped because I hated my life and wanted to be a spirit.

I prayed to God that my spirit would rise from the ground and help people. I thought I could do more good as a spirit
Is it not just possible that you might have asked yourself the questions that perplexed you, and then examine the answer you, yourself, came up with? Good mental health may, I think, at least begin with supposing that you are okay, and seeing how that works out.
 

sun rise

The world is on fire
Premium Member
@Epic Beard Man I have a MA in psych but never really used it as a clinician. But I do know what you mean. There are people who abuse the system and would abuse any system. They are locked into a pattern of life. Those are the ones that naturally you see over and over and over.

I've also met some who have mental issues who don't recognize that they have an issue and that's sad because there's nothing that can be done for them.

There are others and I classify @PopeADope as one, who are fighters and who know they have a problem and who truly want to overcome their problems but who also struggle every day with the odds against them. These people deserve metals for bravery because it's a hard struggle when the enemy is oneself.
 

Deidre

Well-Known Member
The reason I wanted to kill myself is because I hated living , and I wasn't hearing anything from God and I was confused, and God wasn't relieving me of the confusion , so I thought it would be better for society if I put myself out of my misery... I've also hurt other people before and I feel a lot of guilt about that, I feel like if I keep living , I'll just hurt more good people. Basically I jumped because I hated my life and wanted to be a spirit.

I prayed to God that my spirit would rise from the ground and help people. I thought I could do more good as a spirit
I will hold you tight in my thoughts and prayers. We all will here...well those who pray. :D I'm not really labeling myself with a religion anymore, but I believe there is a higher power, a God who sees all of our struggles. And however we label that higher power, I feel it/him. I feel spiritual more than anything, and if your Catholic faith gives you hope, hang onto it. If studying Islam gives you hope, hang onto it. Whatever it is, hang onto those positive things, that can bring you hope.
 

Evangelicalhumanist

"Truth" isn't a thing...
Premium Member
I was very badly abused as a child. Nearly killed twice by a step-father before I was 7, and made a ward of the state at 4 and again at 7, the latter permanently (until the ripe and very mature old age of 18, of course). My early experiences left me horribly screwed up, and I spent 5 years in an institution in Canada's capital for "emotionally disturbed children." Following that, I was sent to a boy's boarding school run by Quakers because it was obvious I could no longer function in family settings (still can't, except with my partner).

At 17, the Children's Aid dumped me. They paid for 3 months at the YMCA, with 2 meals a day, and then said, "have a happy life." What do you suppose I knew about how to live a "happy life" then?

So, I was gay, no means of earning a living -- but I found one. I sold my body. This was a very bad life, and I was desperate to get out. So, I finally found a job as a clerk, went to school (accounting) at night, worked really hard. I worked for that company for 12 years, and from clerk, I became their cost accountant, then their senior accountant, then accounting manager -- and then bought them their first computer. Then I stupidly learned to program the damned thing, which for me was fascinating.

And on I went from there. Long story short, I eventually (with my grade 11) got to be Vice President of Information Technology for the Canadian arm of one of the world's largest insurance companies. I did that by focussing on what I could know, what I could learn, and how I could contribute.

And I had to accept -- and this was hard -- that I could not blame my problems on the things that happened to me in the past. Everybody has a past, and the past for most of us holds stuff we'd rather had not happened. We do best when we leave it there (in the past) and focus on what's possible going forward.
 

Spiderman

Veteran Member
I was very badly abused as a child. Nearly killed twice by a step-father before I was 7, and made a ward of the state at 4 and again at 7, the latter permanently (until the ripe and very mature old age of 18, of course). My early experiences left me horribly screwed up, and I spent 5 years in an institution in Canada's capital for "emotionally disturbed children." Following that, I was sent to a boy's boarding school run by Quakers because it was obvious I could no longer function in family settings (still can't, except with my partner).

At 17, the Children's Aid dumped me. They paid for 3 months at the YMCA, with 2 meals a day, and then said, "have a happy life." What do you suppose I knew about how to live a "happy life" then?

So, I was gay, no means of earning a living -- but I found one. I sold my body. This was a very bad life, and I was desperate to get out. So, I finally found a job as a clerk, went to school (accounting) at night, worked really hard. I worked for that company for 12 years, and from clerk, I became their cost accountant, then their senior accountant, then accounting manager -- and then bought them their first computer. Then I stupidly learned to program the damned thing, which for me was fascinating.

And on I went from there. Long story short, I eventually (with my grade 11) got to be Vice President of Information Technology for the Canadian arm of one of the world's largest insurance companies. I did that by focussing on what I could know, what I could learn, and how I could contribute.

And I had to accept -- and this was hard -- that I could not blame my problems on the things that happened to me in the past. Everybody has a past, and the past for most of us holds stuff we'd rather had not happened. We do best when we leave it there (in the past) and focus on what's possible going forward.
You are a hero to me. What you've gone through is heroic! Someday you will know how much God loves you. I love you. God loves you a lot more :)

You deserve to be happy, and I wish I was God so that I could give you that happiness. I will pray for you
 

lostwanderingsoul

Well-Known Member
Since this is a religious forum, there is a factor most people either ignore or pretend does not exist. Many of these people are under Satan's influence. There are examples in the Bible where Jesus drove out demons that were tormenting people. Satan and his demons are still on the loose and torment people today. Medicine can do nothing about this, only the power of God can help. Of course a psychiatrist would be laughed at or fired from his job if he mentioned this so these people do not get the help they need.
 

Spiderman

Veteran Member
@Epic Beard Man maybe we can reconcile here... I'm 30 years old, I apologize for not acting my age... I'm sorry that you don't like my posts... Maybe you should ignore them if they offend you.

My intention was not to offend anyone. There's a few people here who said they enjoy reading what I post, and I post for their sake , not to offend people or troll
 
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