Mixed Marriages

[bp789]

How many of you would be willing to be part of an interracial marriage? What about an interfaith marriage?

 

[Kathryn]

Most of my family is in mixed marriages. My exhusband is a different race than I am. So obviously I have no problem with it.

Our family photos look like a UN delegation!

I would not marry someone who did not share my religious faith, however.

 

[England my lionheart]

Why should it be a problem

 

[Alceste]

I'd hypothetically be OK with either, although I don't believe in "race". I'll interpret it to mean "culture" for the purpose of discussion. If their cultural experience was too different from mine, I'd probably be put off trying to have a relationship. As to whether I'd marry a person of faith, it depends on which faith. A YEC Fundamentalist, obviously not. In fact, any of the Abrahamic religions would put me off, as they are inherently misogynistic (IMO), but it would depend on how fanatical the prospective mate was about it. A Buddhist, sure!

 

[Gentoo]

To me, it's not about race or religion (especially since I'm already involved with someone of a different belief than me)... it's about how much I love them.

 

[T-Dawg]

Interacial marriages are morally ok, although I'm not sure how they would work out genetically. It's all about genetics. If it came down to deciding between races and factoring out everything else, I would not mate with another white person, for example, because white people are designed to fare better in colder weather, and I plan to be moving to India (where I'll presumably be reproducing, if I ever reproduce), which is generally hot and humid. Therefore, mating with a white person would be decreasing the evolutionary chance of my descendents' survival in their climate. I would want to mate with a race that evolved in a hot, humid climate, such as African, Indian, Southeast Asian, or tropical Islander, in order to implant proper genes into my descendents. Of course, being white myself, I would not be a good choice for whoever my mate happened to be... =/

That being said, genetics have little effect in practice. My hormones don't care about my descendents' evolutionary future, and other things, such as the personality and religion of the potential mate matter far more.


Religious faith is VERY important in choosing a mate. Conflict is bad for any relationship, and different religions definitely face conflict and always will. People (including me) will usually try to shrug off religious differences at first, while their hormones are running wild, but as the relationship grows, the religious differences start to interfere. A couple HAS to connect religiously and politically at first to be successful, otherwise it's like trying to build a tower and starting with a small block and stacking bigger blocks on top of it. It topples.

 

[Terrywoodenpic]

I have only some reservations about mixed marriages. These do not include any problems relating to race.

I would not marry any one practicing the following religions...

Any religion that is exclusive...
Muslim... (I do not share a world or religious view)
Jewish...( I have 1/4 jewish blood but for same reason as Muslim)
Any religion based on magic or satan...
Scientology.

 

[DallasApple]

I would marry another race than me.Or a differrent faith.

As long as we both had common ground on how we believed our marriage should be together.Basically as long as we had fun together and cared about each other as human beings thats pretty much the best it can get.

Love

Dallas

 

[ChristineES]

I am the product of a mixed marriage- my mom is white and my father (her ex-husband) is Navajo. My mother's current husband is Japanese. My husband is white- so in a way, I am in a mixed marriage, too. My best boyfriend (before I met my husband) was an agnostic- we got along so well and we never discussed religion or faith.

 

[Alceste]

I would marry another race than me.Or a differrent faith.

As long as we both had common ground on how we believed our marriage should be together.Basically as long as we had fun together and cared about each other as human beings thats pretty much the best it can get.

Love

Dallas

Wouldn't your husband disapprove?

 

[T-Dawg]

As long as we both had common ground on how we believed our marriage should be together.Basically as long as we had fun together and cared about each other as human beings thats pretty much the best it can get.

Even if you knew you would not be seeing him in heaven? Personally, if I married someone who was a different religion than myself, I would go insane worrying about their enternity. It's impossible to truly love someone without religion getting involved at some point, unless neither of you are religious at all. When you genuinely believe that someone is going to go to hell for eternity if you don't convert them, it's hard to say you love them and still allow them to continue down their path (of course, only Christians believe that. I dunno how a non-Christian paired with a different non-Christian would have such problems, maybe they get along fine. Gee, Christianity sure is divisive).
Come to think of it, I'm a hypocrite. Most of my friends on RF are of different religions, yet I have never tried to convert them...

 

[Panda]

Hypothetically I have no problem with either. In reality it is unlikely I would ever have a Mormon or Fundamentalist spouse. We would just be so totally different neither of us could be happy.

 

[DallasApple]

Wouldn't your husband disapprove?

Probably not. Because he likes it a LOT when we have fun together and treat each other like human beings!

Plus he is an agnostic (again) right now.Or some sort of thing.I cant figure him out..Makes it interesting.

He blames God every time Im not nice to him and says there is no God.Which kind of makes me his Goddess now doesnt it?:flirt:

Then another time he told me that "aliens"(the outer space kind) wrote the Bible and left it here so that humans wouldnt get depressed and kill themselves.

Love

Dallas

 

[Caladan]

Then another time he told me that "aliens"(the outer space kind) wrote the Bible and left it here so that humans wouldnt get depressed and kill themselves.

Love

Dallas

Well he is right in a way, the Jews wrote it
and as you can see we already have two posters who consider Jews to be too alien to marry to.
in all sincerity its their loss, not everyone is worthy of a Jewish princess (or a prince!)

 

[monta]

I am the product of a mixed marriage , well sort of :biglaugh:

YouTube - Dara Ó Briain - Catholic & Protestant Mixed Marriage (Full)

 

[DallasApple]

Even if you knew you would not be seeing him in heaven? Personally, if I married someone who was a different religion than myself, I would go insane worrying about their enternity. It's impossible to truly love someone without religion getting involved at some point, unless neither of you are religious at all. When you genuinely believe that someone is going to go to hell for eternity if you don't convert them, it's hard to say you love them and still allow them to continue down their path (of course, only Christians believe that. I dunno how a non-Christian paired with a different non-Christian would have such problems, maybe they get along fine. Gee, Christianity sure is divisive).
Come to think of it, I'm a hypocrite. Most of my friends on RF are of different religions, yet I have never tried to convert them...

I do NOT believe my husband is going to hell anymore than I believe I am.

Im more worried about him getting his diabetes under control than I am "converting him" to any religion.

He is an intelligent man and he has been exposed to Christianity(his roots) and he can decide what he believes or doesnt believe.Im not the boss of him.

In fact one of the times he was the biggest pain in the arse(I said ONE of the times) was when he started going back to church ...

We can journey "together" but his "soul search" is his search and mine is mine.

Love

Dallas

 

[Gentoo]

I'm just glad Guitar's Cry is willing to listen to my crazy spiritual ideas/beliefs... or at least he's kind enough to humor me

 

[T-Dawg]

I do NOT believe my husband is going to hell anymore than I believe I am.

I wish I could believe this, but it doesn't sound right that people of two different religions will somehow be able to make it to the same eternity. Speaking of which, does anyone know the part of the Bible that actually mentions the existence of hell (besides stuff Paul wrote)?

We can journey "together" but his "soul search" is his search and mine is mine.

So it doesn't bother you that you probably won't be together in whatever afterlife?

 

[Kerr]

If I love someone, I love them, and then their faith or race does not matter.

 

[T-Dawg]

If I love someone, I love them, and then their faith or race does not matter.

But faith prevents you from loving them. For example, would you, an atheist, marry a republican, fundamentalist YEC Christian?