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Mrs. Mycroft thinks...
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I agree with her.
You'd better too.
Mycroft
Ministry of Serendipity
You darn grumpy scotsman!
Disagree, to a point. Emotions are part of who we are as animals and form a large and important part of our psyche. generally speaking, if we are unhappy- it is worth looking into the reasons why and to see what we can do to help ourselves feel better. it is in our general well-being to take what we feel into account, though what we want to do and what we can do can often be at odds. that is where it gets tricky. however, in other cases such as phobias and prejudice emotions are a really "superfical" guide for what is actually going on and we have to use reason to recognise and possibly unlearn them.
You don't want Mrs Mycroft being grumpy.
Jumi
Well-Known Member
If you're sure what you are feeling, you can trust that you know that you're feeling it.
I think that feelings are arational and often conflicting, should be paid attention to, and how we respond to them can be rational or irrational.
psychoslice
Veteran Member
I agree with Mrs Mycroft, feeling like murdering someone doesn't make it right, and that is how a psychopath can feel, his feeling to him is right.
I agree that feelings often are conflicting and should not be trusted. I do not agree that feelings are irrational. Feelings are a response to real stimuli. Should a person have no physical response to anything?
Buttercup
Veteran Member
Does she say she loves you? According to her philosophy, you shouldn't trust her feelings.
Better pack your bags, bud.
I agree, to a point. Feelings are, technically, irrational. They often conflict and they're affected by a hundred different factors that have nothing to do with whatever decision's being considered.
On the other hand, I wouldn't want to forgo them entirely. Emotions motivate. They're why we get out of bed in the morning, and, while it's true they can incite all manner of mischief, they can also prompt people to do great and altruistic things.
Like fire, useful, but handle with care and keep away from flammable ideas.
On the other hand, I wouldn't want to forgo them entirely. Emotions motivate. They're why we get out of bed in the morning, and, while it's true they can incite all manner of mischief, they can also prompt people to do great and altruistic things.
Like fire, useful, but handle with care and keep away from flammable ideas.
YmirGF
Bodhisattva in Recovery
Feelings should be compared with observable reality. If the 2 do not align, then the feeling should take a back seat.
There are times that feelings can act as major warning signs after which one gets a lot confirmation. (I.E. You meet someone and get a really bad feeling about them. Later, you find out they have some rather unsavory character attributes you would just as soon not mingle with.)
As @Buttercup alluded to love is a feeling and it can be a very irrational period in a human animal's life, but it is a bit silly to fling that profound feeling aside because it doesn't make a lot of sense. Again though, compare your feelings with observable reality and go from there. Life is not an exact science.
Long story short, no, don't implicitly trust your feelings, but do not ignore them either. You have them for good reasons.
There are times that feelings can act as major warning signs after which one gets a lot confirmation. (I.E. You meet someone and get a really bad feeling about them. Later, you find out they have some rather unsavory character attributes you would just as soon not mingle with.)
As @Buttercup alluded to love is a feeling and it can be a very irrational period in a human animal's life, but it is a bit silly to fling that profound feeling aside because it doesn't make a lot of sense. Again though, compare your feelings with observable reality and go from there. Life is not an exact science.
Long story short, no, don't implicitly trust your feelings, but do not ignore them either. You have them for good reasons.
Feelings can lead us astray because they are ever changing. But at the same token, if you feel tense or scared around certain people in life for example, that might be your emotions steering you away from a toxic person, etc. So feelings aren't always fickle, sometimes they can keep us safe.
DawudTalut
Peace be upon you.
Peace be on you both.
Some related sources:
http://www.calmclinic.com/anxiety/signs/irrational-thoughts
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_dissonance
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ambivalence
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Seems she needs un-distracted attentions of her good husband.
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Mycroft
Ministry of Serendipity
Pretty sure you said something, but I'm too distracted by your avatar.
Mycroft
Ministry of Serendipity
She's never said it. But then we both operate on the principle that love is actions, not words.
Taylor Seraphim
Angel of Reason
I agree.
Buttercup
Veteran Member
Wow, that's unusual. But, if it works for you two, that's what matters.
Still, when you give her any sort of compliment, that's an action based expression of your feelings of love for her. It's a word-based action, but it still counts.
I agree in a sense about feelings being irrational sometimes, although I prefer to say that feelings can be fickle when the emotion is love oriented.
I always trust my feelings but sometimes I have to force myself to discern if how I feel makes sense.
Mycroft
Ministry of Serendipity
Wow, that's unusual. But, if it works for you two, that's what matters.
Anyone can say 'I love you,' and not mean it. Within the actions, however, is where meaning it truly lies. Not in grandiose gestures, but in the little things: Peeling her orange, because you know she doesn't like to, she remembers that you like unsalted butter best, you remember her dog likes a certain kind of snack, she remembers your favourite stoic philospher.... and so on.