Catholicism's sexual teachings are very unworkable and even cruel. It can and does cause psychological problems. But the Catholic Church doesn't really have any moral authority at this point. They've also changed doctrine before, like the 180 they did on "outside the Church, there is no salvation" in Vatican II, throwing out centuries of dogma on the matter. They also exclude Jews from being proselytized, violating Jesus' call to "make disciples of all nations". Then Francis changed the Catechism to make capital punishment totally impermissible, when that was never the teaching beforehand. So I guess it comes down to what your personal limits are. My limits with that Church are far since transgressed.I've spent most of my time here as a defender of the Catholic faith. Nonetheless my commitment to said faith has varied in intensity throughout the years. From periods of commitment to periods of indifference. And while a back and forth between commitment and indifference is no doubt normal for every believer the overall trend for me these past couple of years has been one of growing disillusionment with religion all together.
Part of it has been my frustration with the Catholic Church as an institution. Liberal dissent is to be expected in the current cultural climate. But it undermines the credibility of the Catholic religion when the Church itself coddles that dissent. That coddling combined with the spiteful suppression of traditional worship is a clear indication of where the regime in Rome really stands in my opinion.
Another part of it has been my growing skepticism towards sectarian claims. My belief in the existence of a higher power as well as the continued existence of the soul after death hasn't waned, but the notion that this higher power has revealed a religion and has staked our happiness in the next life on the acceptance of that religion (which may or may not require divine predestination) is something I find increasingly hard to accept.
The irony is that as my commitment to religion wanes the more sympathetic I become to the liberal dissent I mentioned above. At least on issues of sex and sexuality. Which let's be honest is what the current fighting in the Church is ultimately about. The insistance on an ascetic ideal of complete abstinence makes sense for monastics, but it's downright cruel to require it from all who are unmarried on pain of eternal damnation. To teach a teenager that they will burn in Hell for eternity if they masturbate or even consent to a sexual thought is frankly deranged. It has probably screwed me up more than even I realize. And to teach a married couple that they must be open to the possibility of procreation with each and every intimate act on pain of mortal sin is also extravagant. There's a reason that teaching has been so ignored in practice even by the Church.
At the end of the day, a medieval teleology that reduces human sexuality to procreation is far too reductive. It probably does harm people. And yet I stand by my position I made clear in another thread that the Catholic Church can't part with it without undermining its claims to divine moral authority. It's as if the Church is buckling under the weight of its own claims.
If nothing else it will be interesting to see how things play out in the Catholic world going forward. If Pope Francis or his successor further entrenches a liberal drift within Catholic teaching and practice he will further undermine the notion of Catholicism as truth. If a conservative successor swings things back towards orthodoxy he will further commit the Church to an increasingly unpopular message in the world. Which admittedly does not matter if it's actually true.