MY Girlfriend has a Mental Disability

[Sha'irullah]

But is that a healthy relationship, seeing her as a daughter and her seeing you as her dad ?.

It makes her smile, she trusts me, I spoil her, and give her a chance to be outside of her environment. I do not treat her like a child but she does look up to me an awful lot.

 

[psychoslice]

It makes her smile, she trusts me, I spoil her, and give her a chance to be outside of her environment. I do not treat her like a child but she does look up to me an awful lot.

I think, not been nasty, that you need to grow up, I don't know how old you are but you don't sound that old in what you share ?.

 

[Sha'irullah]

I think, not been nasty, that you need to grow up, I don't know how old you are but you don't sound that old in what you share ?.

I do not know what you are talking about now. Having told me of all people to grow up, it's like telling a billionaire he is poor

 

[psychoslice]

I do not know what you are talking about now. Having told me of all people to grow up, it's like telling a billionaire he is poor

But your not a billionaire, you are pure being, and you are wasting your beautiful life being stuck in a illusion that you cannot see through.

 

[Watchmen]

Everybody needs love and everybody needs to have a somebody and she has somebody to care for her and I have somebody who is the only person I have any genuine care for next to my pets. Taking me away from her is like ripping a child from her father.

Sure. Everyone needs love and everyone needs to be taken care of. I have no idea the parameters of the relationship, but I confess I'm a little weirded out if she is truly disabled and child-like and you're having an adult relationship with her.

 

[Sha'irullah]

Sure. Everyone needs love and everyone needs to be taken care of. I have no idea the parameters of the relationship, but I confess I'm a little weirded out if she is truly disabled and child-like and you're having an adult relationship with her.

I do not mean child like in the sense that she is just this totally helpless person with no mental capacity. I mean child like in the sense that she has infatuations akin to a 12 year old like collecting Pokemon plushes and not understanding adult things like taxes, or making a living, etc.

She is not stupid or retarded if that is what you are thinking. The term mental disability is thrown around a lot but I do not mean it like that. Technically learning disability is a better phrase but she is not dysfunctional for the most part. She does see a psychologist to help her cope since she is fully aware of her shortcomings.

You did prove something though in that you judged her for something far worse than what she really is. This is my fear since my girlfriend will do and say a lot of silly stuff that makes her seem really odd. I am not manipulating her or controlling her in any shape or form. But I know some people may think that

 

[Watchmen]

I do not mean child like in the sense that she is just this totally helpless person with no mental capacity. I mean child like in the sense that she has infatuations akin to a 12 year old like collecting Pokemon plushes and not understanding adult things like taxes, or making a living, etc.

She is not stupid or retarded if that is what you are thinking. The term mental disability is thrown around a lot but I do not mean it like that. Technically learning disability is a better phrase but she is not dysfunctional for the most part. She does see a psychologist to help her cope since she is fully aware of her shortcomings.

You did prove something though in that you judged her for something far worse than what she really is. This is my fear since my girlfriend will do and say a lot of silly stuff that makes her seem really odd. I am not manipulating her or controlling her in any shape or form. But I know some people may think that

Nope. I wasn't judging her. I repeated the information you provided, admitted I don't know the parameters of your relationship, and stated that IF it was adult-based that could be concerning.

Let me be blunt. If an adult is having sex with a mentally disabled person (i.e., an adult with the mind of a child) that could be a problem. Again, I don't know the parameters. I'm just going by your initial use of the phrase childlike. Maybe I'm way off. I don't know her true condition (or yours).

 

[Sha'irullah]

Nope. I wasn't judging her. I repeated the information you provided, admitted I don't know the parameters of your relationship, and stated that IF it was adult-based that could be concerning.

Let me be blunt. If an adult is having sex with a mentally disabled person (i.e., an adult with the mind of a child) that could be a problem. Again, I don't know the parameters. I'm just going by your initial use of the phrase childlike. Maybe I'm way off. I don't know her true condition (or yours).

I was referring to you judging me not her . Doesn't matter though. I shall put it like this, she is mentally challenged the same way a person with bipolarism is cognitively challenged yet you have relationships like this occur all the time. She is not anywhere as severe as you think.

We do all the things a normal couple would do including under the bed sheets. It is nowhere near as perverse as you are assuming.

I just don't want you thinking I am some sort of creeper here .

 

[psychoslice]

I was referring to you judging me not her . Doesn't matter though. I shall put it like this, she is mentally challenged the same way a person with bipolarism is cognitively challenged yet you have relationships like this occur all the time. She is not anywhere as severe as you think.

We do all the things a normal couple would do including under the bed sheets. It is nowhere near as perverse as you are assuming.

I just don't want you thinking I am some sort of creeper here .

Well what's the big deal here ?.

 

[Sha'irullah]

Well what's the big deal here ?.

That my own family will think I am a monster and if having such a girl proposes a future problem in my life. I personally say it does not, but I really want to see if I can find anybody who knows firsthand.

 

[psychoslice]

That my own family will think I am a monster and if having such a girl proposes a future problem in my life. I personally say it does not, but I really want to see if I can find anybody who knows firsthand.

Well let your family think what they want, who cares what they think, do you all have to agree on everything thing, don't you have your own beliefs, well then stuff them and grow up !,.

 

[Jumi]

I don't think strangers on the internet can advise who you are with and sometimes advice can even be harmful. You are making her happy, something others can't do? Does it matter then, if she is not wise to common sense things like tax returns... I think not. Most people that aren't average, have to deal with this some way. She's not average, you're not average, nothing you can do about it.