Negative Traits

[ChristineM]

Dislike of CATS! That's most of the World!!!

Yup, i have a few very selected friends.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

Lying. I've been lied to enough that I have both trust issues with people and no real amount of patients for it.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

Yes, except it is hard to separate completely from family.
Friends, yes maybe it is easier to just not be friends anymore but family tends to keep coming back into your life.

I've not found it difficult. Anyone who kept up the bs family fighting when my brother died and kept it going even during his funeral, writing them off and purging them from my life was just as easy as taking out the trash.

 

[PureX]

Yup, i have a few very selected friends.

i had a good friend that was a member of MENSA, that liked cats. I was always suspect of his membership precisely because he liked cats. Though he was quite intelligent in other ways. Called them "moving knick-knacks"

 

[Secret Chief]

Considering voting tory. Looking at a pork chop the wrong way. Kissing a leaf of kale. Preferring people over cats. Opera fan. Smoker. Boozer.

 

[JustGeorge]

Violence, mental or physical abuse, serious dishonesty.

A couple of trivial ones I don't think are trivial, lack of cleanliness, dislike of cats

A dislike of cats is not trivial.

Considering voting tory. Looking at a pork chop the wrong way. Kissing a leaf of kale. Preferring people over cats. Opera fan. Smoker. Boozer.

I'm glad we can still be friends.

I never kiss kale. I eat it whole.

 

[Secret Chief]

I never kiss kale. I eat it whole.

You eat kale whole? Ok, I'm still prepared to have PM exchanges.

 

[ChristineM]

i had a good friend that was a member of MENSA, that liked cats. I was always suspect of his membership precisely because he liked cats. Though he was quite intelligent in other ways. Called them "moving knick-knacks"

I know a couple of cat lovers in mensa. Liking cats is not a bar to intelligence but i find it does make a difference to character

 

[Stonetree]

Would it matter if the person was celibate because they just weren't able to find that kind of relationship, or because of a health issue?

Friendships wean. I don't think presupposing a situation and how I can or would react to that situation is predictable....I have violated the trust of others, can I then be such a hypocrite as to judge others more harshly and automatically sever that relationship?...We use a saying to explain some things,"I guess you had to be there". I can't predict my reaction....Why do I believe in God when as far as I know I've never interacted with the Impossible?

 

[syo]

How about you? What personality traits would you find worth severing a relationship over?

Stalking.

 

[Twilight Hue]

After dealing with a former friend yesterday(that's on cordial terms, but definitely not a 'friend' anymore), my husband came in from dealing with him with a lot of sympathy in his heart. The guy's gotten himself into a lot of trouble, chasing greed through inappropriate means. He realizes he's messed up, but isn't able to get himself out of it, as at this point it would mean giving up thousands upon thousands of dollars worth of materials and opportunities. He acknowledged he ruined most of his friendships doing so(including the friendships with us). (He's done this through legal means, fyi.)

We agreed it was a shame he let things get so far out of hand. "But, we can't really let him back into our life. Not after all the dishonesty, both from him, and the person he chooses to spend time with(whom we think is who is fanning the flames on his recent months of nonsense)". My husband wholeheartedly agreed.

Once a person is dishonest(white lies and simple exaggeration excepted), I feel you never know where you stand or what's going on, and a meaningful relationship can no longer be had. I've dealt with anger, impulsiveness/poor choices, addictions, mooching, laziness, and selfishness from folks and still called them my friend, but dishonesty is the absolute deal breaker for me. I can't let a person come back from that.

How about you? What personality traits would you find worth severing a relationship over?

Psychopathic behavior or traits that indicates a lack of empathy on a consistent regular basis.

I endeavor to stay away from those people because I have no doubt they are potentially unpredictable and can turn against you on a dime no matter how charming and loving they may seem.

 

[JustGeorge]

Psychopathic behavior or traits that indicates a lack of empathy on a consistent regular basis.

I endeavor to stay away from those people because I have no doubt they are potentially unpredictable and can turn against you on a dime no matter how charming and loving they may seem.

I second this. I rarely meet such individuals, but when I have its always been to the severe detriment to myself or people around me.

 

[Aštra’el]

I value loyalty… to me. I don’t care if you are a sociopathic, racist, war criminal. I don’t care if you are Mother Teresa. If I resonate with you, and we have developed a connection somehow, and you have proven to me that you have my back… I will have yours. Who you are to the world doesn’t matter. They can hate you or love you all they want. I will make up my own mind about you, and I will return loyalty with loyalty.

Things I do not resonate with: Hypocrisy. Apathy. Lack of discipline over your emotions. Poor self control. A refusal to accept how in control you are over your own life.

I value strength and independence. I value being true to yourself about who you are and who you will to be.

 

[Spiderman]

After dealing with a former friend yesterday(that's on cordial terms, but definitely not a 'friend' anymore), my husband came in from dealing with him with a lot of sympathy in his heart. The guy's gotten himself into a lot of trouble, chasing greed through inappropriate means. He realizes he's messed up, but isn't able to get himself out of it, as at this point it would mean giving up thousands upon thousands of dollars worth of materials and opportunities. He acknowledged he ruined most of his friendships doing so(including the friendships with us). (He's done this through legal means, fyi.)

We agreed it was a shame he let things get so far out of hand. "But, we can't really let him back into our life. Not after all the dishonesty, both from him, and the person he chooses to spend time with(whom we think is who is fanning the flames on his recent months of nonsense)". My husband wholeheartedly agreed.

Once a person is dishonest(white lies and simple exaggeration excepted), I feel you never know where you stand or what's going on, and a meaningful relationship can no longer be had. I've dealt with anger, impulsiveness/poor choices, addictions, mooching, laziness, and selfishness from folks and still called them my friend, but dishonesty is the absolute deal breaker for me. I can't let a person come back from that.

How about you? What personality traits would you find worth severing a relationship over?

I am certain you and your husband are wise to not let this man back into your life.

However, when I was an adolescent, I was very violent, sadistic, cruel, loved war, loved chaos, was a dishonest criminal and even prankster, who loved to pull pranks , vandalize places , schools, and business, and cars, without motive, and plant things that were dangerous, in places, like group homes , just to stir up drama, mystery, chaos, and of course, never be honest about it at that time.

That continued to a certain extent into my adulthood, but when I realized there were supernatural entities who loved me, and I loved them back, it became very clear that I hurt them when I do that, and I realized dishonesty is really ugly, especially when it is hurting someone.

I realized that charity made them happy, so I would give my trays to other inmates and go hungry, in exchange that the inmate had to pray a prayer out loud, when I had no money on my canteen, and people in jail are hungry all the time , even if they eat all three meals, without canteen money.

I was able to do heroic deeds of charity to please these victim souls who were visiting me, primarily women whose dreams were violently stolen and robbed when they were young, even giving 179$ to some one who is a criminal drug dealer, who makes more money than me, and doesn't deserve it, because he desperately needed a new car part, and I believed it was what my friends were asking me to do.

My point being, I didn't used to have any value for honesty or charity, or human decency, and displayed many tendencies of a sociopath, even a sadist who wanted everyone miserable like me, so despised laughter, joy, romance, or happy people, because it made me jealous, they were not sharing my misery.

My point being, you are wise to not let him in your life, but I know, people who display a long deep seated career criminal life, of being people no one should trust, they can actually become virtuous , honest people.

Sadly, my Dad took me off his will, saying I will never go back on, regardless of how much signs of change I show, but still, I am a firm believer that a cold blooded monster can become more honest and charitable than most, and I know it from personal experience.

 

[JustGeorge]

I am certain you and your husband are wise to not let this man back into your life.

However, when I was an adolescent, I was very violent, sadistic, cruel, loved war, loved chaos, was a dishonest criminal and even prankster, who loved to pull pranks , vandalize places , schools, and business, and cars, without motive, and plant things that were dangerous, in places, like group homes , just to stir up drama, mystery, chaos, and of course, never be honest about it at that time.

That continued to a certain extent into my adulthood, but when I realized there were supernatural entities who loved me, and I loved them back, it became very clear that I hurt them when I do that, and I realized dishonesty is really ugly, especially when it is hurting someone.

I realized that charity made them happy, so I would give my trays to other inmates and go hungry, in exchange that the inmate had to pray a prayer out loud, when I had no money on my canteen, and people in jail are hungry all the time , even if they eat all three meals, without canteen money.

I was able to do heroic deeds of charity to please these victim souls who were visiting me, primarily women whose dreams were violently stolen and robbed when they were young, even giving 179$ to some one who is a criminal drug dealer, who makes more money than me, and doesn't deserve it, because he desperately needed a new car part, and I believed it was what my friends were asking me to do.

My point being, I didn't used to have any value for honesty or charity, or human decency, and displayed many tendencies of a sociopath, even a sadist who wanted everyone miserable like me, so despised laughter, joy, romance, or happy people, because it made me jealous, they were not sharing my misery.

My point being, you are wise to not let him in your life, but I know, people who display a long deep seated career criminal life, of being people no one should trust, they can actually become virtuous , honest people.

Sadly, my Dad took me off his will, saying I will never go back on, regardless of how much signs of change I show, but still, I am a firm believer that a cold blooded monster can become more honest and charitable than most, and I know it from personal experience.

I'm glad you got the divine intervention you needed, and have had the opportunity to change so many of what were negative traits.

Actually, one of the things I most appreciate about you is your honesty!

 

[MonkeyFire]

Non-believers! They can’t perceive truth, all they can do is remain unknowing and make no action.