Negativity Resulting from "Likes"/Ratings

[Debater Slayer]

One thing I've noticed about "likes" and ratings is that sometimes they can produce negativity. For example, member X and member Y are on good terms, but they disagree on an issue. Member Z comes along and posts an ad hominem or otherwise hostile post aimed at member X, and member Y likes said post. The result: member X sees that member Y has given the post a like or a positive rating and either wonders what's up or negativity simply develops between X and Y.

Am I the only one who has observed this? It makes me wonder if certain online tools sometimes make it too easy to spread negativity and inject it into positive interactions.

Also, for clarification, my question is not about whether or not any given post is justified; it's about the resultant negativity nonetheless. Some people, such as certain racists I've seen here, can get possessed by a rotten-hummus-eating djinn for all I care. That still wouldn't change the crux of my question, since that's irrelevant to the point of the question.

 

[Sunstone]

I usually don't pay much attention to who has rated some post I largely or entirely disagree with. I just assume it's the usual suspects.

 

[Debater Slayer]

I usually don't pay much attention to who has rated some post I largely or entirely disagree with. I just assume it's the usual suspects.

Don't look... don't look at who just rated your post! It was obviously a usual suspect.

 

[allfoak]

One thing I've noticed about "likes" and ratings is that sometimes they can produce negativity. For example, member X and member Y are on good terms, but they disagree on an issue. Member Z comes along and posts an ad hominem or otherwise hostile post aimed at member X, and member Y liked said post. The result: member X sees that member Y has given the post a like or a positive rating and either wonders what's up or negativity simply develops between X and Y.

Am I the only one who has observed this? It makes me wonder if certain online tools sometimes make it too easy to spread negativity and inject it into positive interactions.

Also, for clarification, my question is not about whether or not any given post is justified; it's about the resultant negativity nonetheless. Some people, such as certain racists I've seen here, can get possessed by a rotten-hummus-eating djinn for all I care. That still wouldn't change the crux of my question, since that's irrelevant to the point of the question.

It doesn't seem to cause any real problems as far as i can tell.
People tend to talk to those who will listen and stay away from those who won't.
This forms it's little clicks and things but it is a lot of what a message board is about.
The experience often brings people together as well as cause clashes of personalities.
I enjoy the whole experience.

 

[Unveiled Artist]

One thing I've noticed about "likes" and ratings is that sometimes they can produce negativity. For example, member X and member Y are on good terms, but they disagree on an issue. Member Z comes along and posts an ad hominem or otherwise hostile post aimed at member X, and member Y likes said post. The result: member X sees that member Y has given the post a like or a positive rating and either wonders what's up or negativity simply develops between X and Y.

Am I the only one who has observed this? It makes me wonder if certain online tools sometimes make it too easy to spread negativity and inject it into positive interactions.

Also, for clarification, my question is not about whether or not any given post is justified; it's about the resultant negativity nonetheless. Some people, such as certain racists I've seen here, can get possessed by a rotten-hummus-eating djinn for all I care. That still wouldn't change the crux of my question, since that's irrelevant to the point of the question.

I've seen that happen. I know Member A and Member B were fussin' an argument and then Member A liked Member B's post. Confused Member A so they had an argument about the "liked" post when Member A said, "the reason why I liked your post is because it was well presented not because I agree with you."

So there are a lot of assumptions behind the likes. I don't know how that can be solved, though.

 

[Neo Deist]

If people are getting bent out of shape over virtual "likes" regarding internet monikers, then they need to grow some thicker skin and get a life.

 

[Deathbydefault]

I'm sure it does happen, but I don't quite understand how adults can let it happen.
I wouldn't develop friendships that can be questioned over something so unimportant.

 

[Deidre]

Actually, there are studies out there showing immense connections between depression and Facebook, social media in general. It's been observed that there is a distinct connection between likes/reputation on social media and depression. Many people build an entire life around social media, so it's sad...but, it's definitely happening, and not something you just notice.

 

[bobhikes]

I usually don't pay much attention to who has rated some post I largely or entirely disagree with. I just assume it's the usual suspects.

I didn't even know you could find out who rated a post. Thanks now I'll have to worry about what others think.

 

[Revoltingest]

If people are getting bent out of shape over virtual "likes" regarding internet monikers, then they need to grow some thicker skin and get a life.

I gave you a retaliatory frubal.
I don't know who I'm retaliating against,
but I'm sure someone will feel that way.

Regarding the OP, I've never noticed that.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

One thing I've noticed about "likes" and ratings is that sometimes they can produce negativity. For example, member X and member Y are on good terms, but they disagree on an issue. Member Z comes along and posts an ad hominem or otherwise hostile post aimed at member X, and member Y likes said post. The result: member X sees that member Y has given the post a like or a positive rating and either wonders what's up or negativity simply develops between X and Y.

Am I the only one who has observed this? It makes me wonder if certain online tools sometimes make it too easy to spread negativity and inject it into positive interactions.

Also, for clarification, my question is not about whether or not any given post is justified; it's about the resultant negativity nonetheless. Some people, such as certain racists I've seen here, can get possessed by a rotten-hummus-eating djinn for all I care. That still wouldn't change the crux of my question, since that's irrelevant to the point of the question.

I've often wondered about that. Frubals were personal and private, but everyone sees the likes and such, giving a potential for a rise in a "us and them" mentality. The funny one can even at times be frustrating to see on certain posts.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

If people are getting bent out of shape over virtual "likes" regarding internet monikers, then they need to grow some thicker skin and get a life.

That's just not how people work. Online socializing is still socializing, and studies I am seeing are showing that it produces many of the same social effects as face-to-face socializing. Of course it's not the same, but the vast majority of people do have empathy over things they read from people online (even sometimes for the empathy impaired). A release of dopamine is triggered from likes. Rather you want to accept it or not, people's emotions seem to be tied into online communications. We may not see faces, but we can see people "high fiving each other."

 

[suncowiam]

This is why we need the following buttons to be added:
Dislike, boring, depressing, threatening, loser and so on...

This will leave less doubt and ambiguity.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

This is why we need the following buttons to be added:
Dislike, boring, depressing, threatening, loser and so on...

This will leave less doubt and ambiguity.

We actually used to have negative Frubals long, long time ago. They were removed, very early on, because it was felt they detracted from the sense of community. It's also why there has never been a "brawling" area allowed, despite what appears to be at times flaring tempers.

 

[Laika]

One thing I've noticed about "likes" and ratings is that sometimes they can produce negativity. For example, member X and member Y are on good terms, but they disagree on an issue. Member Z comes along and posts an ad hominem or otherwise hostile post aimed at member X, and member Y likes said post. The result: member X sees that member Y has given the post a like or a positive rating and either wonders what's up or negativity simply develops between X and Y.

Am I the only one who has observed this? It makes me wonder if certain online tools sometimes make it too easy to spread negativity and inject it into positive interactions.

Also, for clarification, my question is not about whether or not any given post is justified; it's about the resultant negativity nonetheless. Some people, such as certain racists I've seen here, can get possessed by a rotten-hummus-eating djinn for all I care. That still wouldn't change the crux of my question, since that's irrelevant to the point of the question.

Without face to face interaction and all the non-verbal cues, the internet leaves alot to the imagination. its tempting to project our own vunerabilities and fill in the blanks. I find that comes up again and again and is something I have to let go of (often with lots of swearing involved).

 

[suncowiam]

We actually used to have negative Frubals long, long time ago. They were removed, very early on, because it was felt they detracted from the sense of community. It's also why there has never been a "brawling" area allowed, despite what appears to be at times flaring tempers.

I was kidding but my jokes are usually bad.

My only advice is not to take things so seriously. This is why I don't like to walk on egg shells with others. We should just be straight forward so as not to miscommunicate our intentions.

 

[psychoslice]

Just don't take anything too serious, its only the web, its a game for me personally.

 

[Notanumber]

I rate whatever is said in the post. It has nothing to do with the poster.

I may agree with what they say in one post, but disagree in another.

I don’t hold grudges and I have no one on ignore.

.

 

[Rival]

If I like a post I just like it. Who cares? Sometimes I even like Muslims' posts. Shock horror.

In fact, I sometimes even like posts that disagree with Tum-- haha no I don't.

 

[Revoltingest]

This is why we need the following buttons to be added:
Dislike, boring, depressing, threatening, loser and so on...

This will leave less doubt and ambiguity.

No, no, no.....I'd get carpal tunnel syndrome from disliking all my enemies' posts here.
Hear that, @BSM1 ....I'm look'n at you!