My name is Racheal and I am almost 21 I can not say that I am saved. I was really young when I "got saved" I do believe in God as well as heaven and Hell. There are so much going on and I am more lost than ever. It is so hard to live right I work all the time so it is hard to go to church I need guidance I feel like I have done so much wrong that God has turned is back on me so I am a lost sole.
I'm not a Christian, but is it not a basic part of Christianity that it is impossible for humans not to sin? That Christians are "found", not through their own miserable efforts, but through the grace and forgiveness of Christ? Might you not need to
stop trying so hard to find salvation and
let salvation find you?
That's not to say that you should give up trying to do what is right and go out and do wrong, when you know what's right and have sufficient control of your impulses to do the right thing. Doing that would amount to actively rejecting the spiritual gifts that have been given to you. No, what I'm saying is perhaps you should recognize the futility, the hopelessness, of trying to be perfect,
or even to be presentable, on your own, and instead surrender yourself, as a hopeless sinner, to God's mercy.
I'm pretty sure God has not rejected you. I don't think God is in the rejection business (that's
our job
). I suspect what's going on is that you're trying the impossible -- to make your petty ego into a holy thing, when really it is quite a despicable thing -- and also that you have become discouraged when the initial good feelings that come from starting down a spiritual path have faded.
Those feelings
do fade after a while. A lot of people of every faith and no faith give up at that point, sometimes figuring it was all wishful thinking, or sometimes simply putting the time when they felt close to the Divine out of their thoughts. But it's when those good feelings fade that the real work begins, and when Christians must learn to lean on faith, the kind of faith that perseveres even when nothing, not even faith, seems right
. "And straightway the father of the child cried out, and said with tears, Lord, I believe; help thou mine unbelief", said the father of the child whose demons the disciples could not cast out. When later his disciples asked Jesus why they had failed, Jesus explained "This kind can come forth by nothing, but by prayer and fasting"-- in short, by struggle.
Expect to struggle. Expect to suffer. Expect to feel "lost" even as you know that it is completely impossible that you could be spiritually lost, so long as you seek. And expect with certainty that through that struggle with your resistant demons (metaphorical, I hope!), what you will build is a spirituality much more durable and much deeper and much more rewarding than that first flush of good feelings and apparent holiness.
As I said, I don't consider myself a Christian, though I do have a deep respect for Christianity. I'm a mystic, someone who knows there is an essential, transcendent, wordless Truth, a Truth that people approach by many names and a Truth that, knowingly or unknowingly, all seek. "Christianity" is one of those names, and it is a straight and true path, as are many other paths (not all-- some have their adherents aimlessly spinning in circles till they get tired of the pointlessness and get out). I'm not a Christian because I'm not good with names But you should follow the way this great Truth calls you to Itself, by the names it calls you through, which is, apparently, Christianity.