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Racheal21

Racheal21
My name is Racheal and I am almost 21 I can not say that I am saved. I was really young when I "got saved" I do believe in God as well as heaven and Hell. There are so much going on and I am more lost than ever. It is so hard to live right I work all the time so it is hard to go to church I need guidance I feel like I have done so much wrong that God has turned is back on me so I am a lost sole.
 

LuisDantas

Aura of atheification
Premium Member
Hi, Racheal. Welcome to RF.

I hope you find relief. Maybe you would like to post at the Seekers DIR.
 

Quagmire

Imaginary talking monkey
Staff member
Premium Member
Hi Racheal,

Not to sound condescending but I'm having a hard time imagining what anybody could possibly do in the short space of 21 years that would qualify as "so much wrong" :p

Especially since you have "working and being a mom" listed under "interests" in your profile. If I were God, I would see "working all the time" to support two kids, and at the ripe old age of 21, as grounds for cutting you a whole lot of slack.

Again, if I were God, and considering how busy you are and how much you have on your plate, if you didn't show up at my house I'd understand and I'd probably make it a point to show up at yours. ;)
 

Katzpur

Not your average Mormon
Hello, Racheal. Welcome to RF. I hope you'll enjoy yourself here and come to feel less discouraged and more hopeful in your spiritual path.
 

Zardoz

Wonderful Wizard
Premium Member
Welcome to RF! Here, you will see many paths to peace. May you find one...
 

Starsoul

Truth
My name is Racheal and I am almost 21 I can not say that I am saved. I was really young when I "got saved" I do believe in God as well as heaven and Hell. There are so much going on and I am more lost than ever. It is so hard to live right I work all the time so it is hard to go to church I need guidance I feel like I have done so much wrong that God has turned is back on me so I am a lost sole.

welcome to Rf, hope you find the right way without much further delay :) just be patient and be persistent in your search, best of luck :)
 

HCSpirit

Hard Core
My name is Racheal and I am almost 21 I can not say that I am saved. I was really young when I "got saved" I do believe in God as well as heaven and Hell. There are so much going on and I am more lost than ever. It is so hard to live right I work all the time so it is hard to go to church I need guidance I feel like I have done so much wrong that God has turned is back on me so I am a lost sole.

I'm not a Christian, but is it not a basic part of Christianity that it is impossible for humans not to sin? That Christians are "found", not through their own miserable efforts, but through the grace and forgiveness of Christ? Might you not need to
stop trying so hard to find salvation and let salvation find you?

That's not to say that you should give up trying to do what is right and go out and do wrong, when you know what's right and have sufficient control of your impulses to do the right thing. Doing that would amount to actively rejecting the spiritual gifts that have been given to you. No, what I'm saying is perhaps you should recognize the futility, the hopelessness, of trying to be perfect, or even to be presentable, on your own, and instead surrender yourself, as a hopeless sinner, to God's mercy.

I'm pretty sure God has not rejected you. I don't think God is in the rejection business (that's our job ;)). I suspect what's going on is that you're trying the impossible -- to make your petty ego into a holy thing, when really it is quite a despicable thing -- and also that you have become discouraged when the initial good feelings that come from starting down a spiritual path have faded.

Those feelings do fade after a while. A lot of people of every faith and no faith give up at that point, sometimes figuring it was all wishful thinking, or sometimes simply putting the time when they felt close to the Divine out of their thoughts. But it's when those good feelings fade that the real work begins, and when Christians must learn to lean on faith, the kind of faith that perseveres even when nothing, not even faith, seems right. "And straightway the father of the child cried out, and said with tears, Lord, I believe; help thou mine unbelief", said the father of the child whose demons the disciples could not cast out. When later his disciples asked Jesus why they had failed, Jesus explained "This kind can come forth by nothing, but by prayer and fasting"-- in short, by struggle.

Expect to struggle. Expect to suffer. Expect to feel "lost" even as you know that it is completely impossible that you could be spiritually lost, so long as you seek. And expect with certainty that through that struggle with your resistant demons (metaphorical, I hope!), what you will build is a spirituality much more durable and much deeper and much more rewarding than that first flush of good feelings and apparent holiness.

As I said, I don't consider myself a Christian, though I do have a deep respect for Christianity. I'm a mystic, someone who knows there is an essential, transcendent, wordless Truth, a Truth that people approach by many names and a Truth that, knowingly or unknowingly, all seek. "Christianity" is one of those names, and it is a straight and true path, as are many other paths (not all-- some have their adherents aimlessly spinning in circles till they get tired of the pointlessness and get out). I'm not a Christian because I'm not good with names ;) But you should follow the way this great Truth calls you to Itself, by the names it calls you through, which is, apparently, Christianity.
 

Racheal21

Racheal21
I know that I am only 21 but you wouldn't believe the stuff ive been through and done. I know there is much worse than me so I try to think about those who are much worse but Thank you for your reply.
Hi Racheal,

Not to sound condescending but I'm having a hard time imagining what anybody could possibly do in the short space of 21 years that would qualify as "so much wrong" :p

Especially since you have "working and being a mom" listed under "interests" in your profile. If I were God, I would see "working all the time" to support two kids, and at the ripe old age of 21, as grounds for cutting you a whole lot of slack.

Again, if I were God, and considering how busy you are and how much you have on your plate, if you didn't show up at my house I'd understand and I'd probably make it a point to show up at yours. ;)
 

Racheal21

Racheal21
Thank you:) it is just hard to explain just through my whole life i have been a big disappointment I feel. I have just strayed big time. I really need better friends.
 

Autodidact

Intentionally Blank
I hope you will find this a safe place to explore and give you support. Please ask for any help we can give.

If you are a Christian, then you believe that Christ can forgive anything.

If you're not, then you don't need to worry about sin, and you can concentrate on making your life what you want it to be.

Let us know how we can help.
 

Autodidact

Intentionally Blank
Thank you:) it is just hard to explain just through my whole life i have been a big disappointment I feel. I have just strayed big time. I really need better friends.

It sounds like you're looking at your situation and deciding what you want to improve, and that's an excellent start.
 
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