Another interesting article -
The more I practice as a therapist, the more it seems that the problems we face, whether
depression, anxiety, or lack of satisfaction in life, contain a common thread. That thread is a terrible relationship with ourselves. Maybe terrible isn’t strong enough. Perhaps hideous is more appropriate! Think about it, when you feel embarrassed, when you are having a rough day, when you feel you have screwed up an important conversation, what does your inner dialogue sound like?
For many of us, non-constructive criticism is our main operating mode. This is how we attempt to shape and motivate ourselves. We come down hard when a mistake is made or a vulnerability surfaces. There is no
self-compassion in these moments. But treating ourselves this way causes anxiety. If you can never feel OK about yourself, how can you ever really feel calm? Something will always feel amiss. If you acknowledge what you see as your inadequacies exclusively, how will you ever feel happy or peaceful?
For more -
Self-Compassion