Poll: An effect of pornography?

[Truth in love]

My boyfriend watches porn every day but only wants sex once a month

I’m a 29-year-old woman, my boyfriend is 32 and we have been together for more than a year. We moved in together a month after meeting. At the beginning, we had an amazing love life, often having sex daily. But after six months it was only once a week and it is now just once a month. I tried to talk to him about his lack of desire but he said that just made it worse. Recently, I found out he watches pornography every day and masturbates, which he doesn’t want me to know about. I don’t understand why he doesn’t want to have sex with me but likes watching porn. Is it because he wants other girls, or he’s bored by what we get up to? He said he loves me and he does show it in other ways. Do you think things will change? I love him, but I want to have a good sex life, too.

So, however we might interpret this issue, what would you do if in the female's position? Probably worth looking at the comments too. Whether this is a case of addiction to pornography or not we might not be able to judge but it sure seems to be a case on first looks - as to him getting more from pornography than any sexual experiences with her.

So what do you think as to such, and voting accordingly?

Step 1 Understand that this can be an addiction to rival any chemical we've ever devised.
Step 2 Understand that it is not about you.
Step 3 He may be willing to get help maybe not. Stay or go is a tough call, but without a lot of help he's not going to get better.

 

[PoetPhilosopher]

That was the point of my response to your urging that she talk to him.
Then dump him if no sign if progress.

Right. And I was just pointing out not to decide there should be progress until she hears his ideas and what he has to say.

 

[Aštra’el]

Make better fitness and nutritional choices, workout more to train and develop the body, and among other things it will make yourself healthier and more desirable.

Just a suggestion.

 

[SkepticThinker]

Why not suggest to him to try watching porn together?

 

[Mock Turtle]

Make better fitness and nutritional choices, workout more to train and develop the body, and among other things it will make yourself healthier and more desirable.

Just a suggestion.

Still might have an addiction to confront though, and if he can't do this (by whatever means and perhaps with her help too), I doubt the relationship will get any better - at least for her that is. He is just being far too selfish, or so it seems.