Poll for Heterosexuals—Please!

[yuvgotmel]

My interest in this forum began the day that I saw a poll concerning gays in the military. The statements I made that day reflected what I had seen, as far as the overall group dynamics, in the military. I addressed certain issues concerning prevalent homophobia as well as the living conditions in the military (such as living quarters, etc.). From that day forward, I have continued to read threads on this forum concerning the views on homosexuality. Sadly, if this forum is (even minutely) indicative of what the gay community has to face on a daily basis, it is no surprise why there are so many hurdles to overcome. That is why I decided on this poll. This thread was created to address fears--real ones--and honestly.



Thank you all in advance.

 

[Quoth The Raven]

Well, the only things on the list are showering and undressing in front of, but as I don't generally do that in front of anyone but my significant other anyway, that has nothing to do with the other person being gay and everything to do with the fact I'm not in the habit of getting my gear off in front of people.

 

[robtex]

i have done all of those things except babysit, drink from same cup and private home lessons but am ok with those things too just not applicable for me. There wasn't an option of ok to do all of those things so i didn't vote. Also, in drinking from the same cup lots of people won't let anyone drink from their cup irregadless of sexual orientation.

in college showers were public in the dorms and three of dorm mates on my floor were gay. all the hetro's showered in front of them and vice versa and nobody thought anything of it. the gay men didn't pay any particular notice to the others showering. That was for a duration of four months.

 

[ChristineES]

There are only two things I would not do in front of a known gay: undressing and showering and I don't even do that in front of anyone, including my family and my husband since those are private things. I don't care who my doctor or babysitter sleeps with or loves or lives with, it is none of my business.

 

[Bishka]

Sadly, if this forum is (even minutely) indicative of what the gay community has to face on a daily basis, it is no surprise why there are so many hurdles to overcome. .

So basically, this is a thread to bash those people who do not feel comfortable doing EVERYTHING in front of gay people? There are some people who are uncomfortable, it doesn't mean they don't like them or support them, just uncomfortable.

 

[Moni_Gail]

I would normally say bathe because I bathe alone. However, I didn't choose it or vote at all because I'm assuming that one stems from the military discussion. Otherwise, I can't see me showering in my home with any one other than my husband.

So yeah, none of those apply to me.

 

[Moni_Gail]

So basically, this is a thread to bash those people who do not feel comfortable doing EVERYTHING in front of gay people? There are some people who are uncomfortable, it doesn't mean they don't like them or support them, just uncomfortable.

Calm yourself Becky. *giggle* Ya don't have to vote.

 

[robtex]

So basically, this is a thread to bash those people who do not feel comfortable doing EVERYTHING in front of gay people? There are some people who are uncomfortable, it doesn't mean they don't like them or support them, just uncomfortable.

i think she is just trying to gage comfort level by varying hypothicals.

 

[Engyo]

Shower or bathe with the person, if we are speaking about in a single bathroom/tub at the same time. If you are talking about a locker room situation, no problem. If you are talking about taking turns with the single bathroom, no problem.

 

[Bishka]

i think she is just trying to gage comfort level by varying hypothicals.

Yep.

Some people may feel more comfortable in these situations, some might not. As we see by the answers, some people aren't comfortable doing those thigns in front of hetereosexuals, so why would they be comfortable doing it in front of homosexuals?

 

[standing_alone]

Yep.

Some people may feel more comfortable in these situations, some might not. As we see by the answers, some people aren't comfortable doing those thigns in front of hetereosexuals, so why would they be comfortable doing it in front of homosexuals?

So then what's the problem? If people are worried their votes may be misunderstood (i.e. the people who are uncomfortable in certain situations regardless), they can explain themselves in the thread. No one else has had a problem with that so far.

 

[MaddLlama]

None of the above.

 

[Rough_ER]

None. Actually, I do most of them quite regularly.

 

[yuvgotmel]

So basically, this is a thread to bash those people who do not feel comfortable doing EVERYTHING in front of gay people? There are some people who are uncomfortable, it doesn't mean they don't like them or support them, just uncomfortable.

Becky, I don't intend to bash anyone on this thread. In fact, I hope that people will be honest enough in their answers. The poll is anonymous too. If I really wanted to bash anyone, I would have shown the names. However, I really don't want to do that.

This thread addresses some serious things--that carry over into other areas of our social lives, such as the military, work relations, our personal opinions/decisions and more..

 

[Ciscokid]

I would do all of the above.

 

[Bishka]

So then what's the problem? If people are worried their votes may be misunderstood (i.e. the people who are uncomfortable in certain situations regardless), they can explain themselves in the thread. No one else has had a problem with that so far.

I'm not saying I had a huge problem, just the way it came across to me. It just seemed that yugotemel eqauted intolerance and homophobia with uncomfortableness (is that even a word), when it really isn't. Seem people just aren't comfortable, but that doesn't mean they are homophobic (in some cases it does, but there are many that aren't). Did that make any more sense?

 

[love]

I think of a homosexual male as a person having a heart, and maybe more likely to understand the feelings of a female and be able to passionately love another male.
But personally the thought of physical intercoure between two males is not a natural thing and not something I want my mind to think about.
I think I can draw my own lines a long time before any physical attraction developes.

 

[Bishka]

I think of a homosexual male as a person having a heart, and maybe more likely to understand the feelings of a female and be able to passionately love another male.
But personally the thought of physical intercoure between two males is not a natural thing and not something I want my mind to think about.
I think I can draw my own lines a long time before any physical attraction developes.

What did that have to do with the everyday choices posted?

 

[Radio Frequency X]

Nothing that involves nudity. I don't take showers with heterosexual women who I am not married to, nor with homosexual males that I'm not married too. I suppose a homosexual woman, on the other hand, wouldn't be an issue on principle, but as I'm married, I'm not showering or bathing with anyone other than my wife. I have had several uncomfortable encounters with gay men in locker rooms at gyms. Its not a place where one likes to be hit on, its a little rude and annoying too.

 

[robtex]

Nothing that involves nudity..

were you either in the military or in a college dorm? if so aren't community showers the norm? They were for me in college. as far as locker rooms go i never had any problems at the ymca when I was in my 20's and there is a large difference between undressing infront of someone and someone making a pass at you. one is passive and one is active. from my interpretation of the poll the acts are passive in nature which means you are in the same vicintity of the gay person as opposed to actively ingaged in some way with the gay person.