Poll for Heterosexuals—Please!

[Tiberius]

There are several of those options i'd be uncomfortable doing with someone I didn't know, but if I knew them and considered them a friend, I'd do them, even if they were gay. I'd only be uncomfortable with it if I didn't know them.

The only choice that doesn't come into this is bathing or showering with a gay person. I wouldn't do that with anyone, gay or otherwise, unless I was in a relationship with them or knew them intimately well (ie; had been in a relationship, and even then only if I wasn't now in a relationship with someone else).

 

[yuvgotmel]

yes, i know what the poll is for, i was just wondering if someone had gotten confused and thought you had to tick the things that you would do, or if someone actually would refuse to do those things...

It's possible....anything's possible.

Also, just so you know, I did make it private to ensure people's personal privacy on this issue. It was something that I did in hopes that more people might feel more comfortable in being honest.

 

[Moni_Gail]

I take my nakeness as something private and I have all of my life. I am not afraid to be naked with my woman but it is not for publc display.I am not ashamed of my nakedness and if put put in certain circumstances I could swing it around and show off too.

:biglaugh: I needed that one! Thanks!

 

[zombieharlot]

Wow. I can't even participate in the poll as there isn't one thing in there I wouldn't do with a homosexual. I wouldn't, perhaps, undress or shower with one, but I wouldn't really do those with a straight person either.

 

[jmaster78]

it may be a cheche, but one of my closest friends is gay, he isn't what you would call a stereo typical gay with the lisp and funny walk (camp so to speak), he's a regular guy like me so i don't notice anything different about him than any of my other friends, therefore i wouldn't treat him any differently. and even if he was very obvious about his sexuality i still wouldn't treat him differently. so as far as the list goes, it's not a case of what i would or wouldn't do with a gay person as what i would or wouldn't do with anybody!

 

[ChristineES]

I was in the Navy a long time ago, and I had roommates who were admittedly gay (but not officially, lol). I had no problem whatsoever with these women. I got along the same with them as with heterosexual roommates. I did have to shower in Basic Training with the whole group, and I had to tolerate it or be stinky with bo for 2 months, lol.

By the way, I laughed when they talked about letting gays in the military and thought the leaders at that time very naive for not knowing they were already there!

 

[Sunstone]

I was in the Marines, so, I have,
-Showered with an entire platoon of women

You get to do that in the Marines? Oh, why didn't I join when I was younger!

 

[angellous_evangellous]

I would normally say bathe because I bathe alone. However, I didn't choose it or vote at all because I'm assuming that one stems from the military discussion. Otherwise, I can't see me showering in my home with any one other than my husband.

So yeah, none of those apply to me.

At first glance, that's the only one that I wouldn't do either.

However, if I were in a public bath, I wouldn't care if there were homosexuals around...

 

[methylatedghosts]

I voted on the bathe/shower with them - because I would feel uncomfortable showering/bathing with most people, and it depend on how well I knew them.

EDIT:

I would however feel perfectly comfortable sharing a bed.

I think it's of mild amusement that you didn't include that in the poll.. ^_^

 

[James the Persian]

I can't tick a single box. There are a few things on the list that I wouldn't do with a gay but I wouldn't do them witha heterosexual either. Most of them, though, I may or may not do with anyone depending on the person. If I knew that someone was really attracted to me, it's that that would stop me sharing a hotel room with them, not whether they happened to be male or female, for instance. I can't think of a single thing where my decision would be swayed solely on the issue of what gender a person is attracted to. That being said, it seems that you've forgotten the 'None of the above' option and I'd also like to point out that you probably need to clarify what sex the homosexual person is - I can't think of many unattached heterosexual men who would refuse to shower with an attractive woman simply because she happens to be a lesbian, for instance.

James

 

[Shadow Wolf]

Shower, undress, share a drink from the same cup, and greet the person with a hug. But, I don't shower with anyone, I don't undress in front of anyone (save for my girlfriend, and only for sex), I do NOT share drinks with anyone, and I'm not a "huggable" person.

 

[yuvgotmel]

EDIT:

I would however feel perfectly comfortable sharing a bed.

I think it's of mild amusement that you didn't include that in the poll.. ^_^

Sharing a bed is a less common situation to run into in routine daily lives. The poll was not meant to be very in-depth. It was merely to gauge reactions in more commonly occurring circumstances.

 

[yuvgotmel]

I can't tick a single box. There are a few things on the list that I wouldn't do with a gay but I wouldn't do them witha heterosexual either. Most of them, though, I may or may not do with anyone depending on the person. If I knew that someone was really attracted to me, it's that that would stop me sharing a hotel room with them, not whether they happened to be male or female, for instance. I can't think of a single thing where my decision would be swayed solely on the issue of what gender a person is attracted to. That being said, it seems that you've forgotten the 'None of the above' option and I'd also like to point out that you probably need to clarify what sex the homosexual person is - I can't think of many unattached heterosexual men who would refuse to shower with an attractive woman simply because she happens to be a lesbian, for instance.

James

I agree that perhaps there should have been a "None of the Above" option, but I think the poll is ok like it is too. Either way, it's a private poll.

As far as defining whether the other person was of the same gender or not, I did not have a lot of space in the polls' heading to define all the parameters. I could have detailed that a bit more in the opening remarks. Still, I think people get the overall gist of it...at least it seems so from the previous responses.

And yes, there are things that people wouldn't do in the presence of a homosexual person or even a heterosexual person, for that matter, such as anything having to do with nudity, simply because people tend to be self-conscience of their bodies, generally speaking.

Though there are people who would voluntarily "swing it around" for just about anyone if they were given the opportunity, most people are not exhibitionists. And too, many people feel as if a homosexual of the same gender is the equivalent of a person of the opposite gender, when it comes to certain issues (such as nudity).

When it comes to sexuality and nudity, this is where America is much different as a society, than say some European countries. I remember years ago when I went to get a massage from a Russian female. Besides the pain she inflicted on me, she also was a bit insulting, constantly telling me to relax, "You Americans are the most self-conscious of your bodies!" She told me that in Russia her clients did not use a towel; however in America, she has to cover the areas that she isn't massaging. She was nice, even through her ranting, and I learned something that day about the difference of perception in Americans and other Europeans.

Perhaps it is for similar reasons that the United States' military does not allow open homosexuality yet. Many people compare the US military to other European nations, which allow open homosexuality, but they don't take into consideration the differences in overall perceptions (of the people in the different countries). ...just look at the commercials! The Europeans are much more accepting of public nudity than Americans.


(Sorry--I just had to throw that comment in there about "swinging it around". I thought it was funny.)


ADDITION: Just think a couple of years ago when the "Clothing Malfunction" happened during the Superbowl's halftime event. The Americans and the media went hysterical. Now multiply that in the general public (of Americans) when they are faced with certain circumstances. The Americans are still very immature.

 

[James the Persian]

I agree that perhaps there should have been a "None of the Above" option, but I think the poll is ok like it is too. Either way, it's a private poll.

As far as defining whether the other person was of the same gender or not, I did not have a lot of space in the polls' heading to define all the parameters. I could have detailed that a bit more in the opening remarks. Still, I think people get the overall gist of it...at least it seems so from the previous responses.

And yes, there are things that people wouldn't do in the presence of a homosexual person or even a heterosexual person, for that matter, such as anything having to do with nudity, simply because people tend to be self-conscience of their bodies, generally speaking.

Though there are people who would voluntarily "swing it around" for just about anyone if they were given the opportunity, most people are not exhibitionists. And too, many people feel as if a homosexual of the same gender is the equivalent of a person of the opposite gender, when it comes to certain issues (such as nudity).

When it comes to sexuality and nudity, this is where America is much different as a society, than say some European countries. I remember years ago when I went to get a massage from a Russian female. Besides the pain she inflicted on me, she also was a bit insulting, constantly telling me to relax, "You Americans are the most self-conscious of your bodies!" She told me that in Russia her clients did not use a towel; however in America, she has to cover the areas that she isn't massaging. She was nice, even through her ranting, and I learned something that day about the difference of perception in Americans and other Europeans.

Perhaps it is for similar reasons that the United States' military does not allow open homosexuality yet. Many people compare the US military to other European nations, which allow open homosexuality, but they don't take into consideration the differences in overall perceptions (of the people in the different countries). ...just look at the commercials! The Europeans are much more accepting of public nudity than Americans.



(Sorry--I just had to throw that comment in there about "swinging it around". I thought it was funny.)

I mostly agree with you, though in my case it's got nothing to do with being self-conscious about my body (my wife would certainly confirm that I do not suffer from such) but more to do with reserving certain things for being between my wife and I (and I wasn't really talking about simple public nudity either, which doesn't really bother me so much, though I wouldn't go out of my way to participate in it either).

James

 

[yuvgotmel]

I mostly agree with you, though in my case it's got nothing to do with being self-conscious about my body (my wife would certainly confirm that I do not suffer from such) but more to do with reserving certain things for being between my wife and I (and I wasn't really talking about simple public nudity either, which doesn't really bother me so much, though I wouldn't go out of my way to participate in it either).

James

Ok... Then I must have misunderstood you. What are/were you speaking of then?

 

[NoahideHiker]

I said the showering thing and the undressing thing. This is just regular old modesty. I don't do those two things with my hetero friends. Everything else I'm fine with.

 

[RevOxley_501]

the only thing i could say i wouldnt do woult be shower\bathe



i frequently neither bathe nor shower with individuals other than my wife



besides

i wouldnt want to tempt anyone with my sexiness

 

[James the Persian]

I agree with RevOxley. It's the shower/bathe thing that I was most thinking of - I won't do that with people other than my wife and I consider that to be rather more than simple public nudity.

James

 

[RevOxley_501]

i like to keep my privates private!

 

[MysticSang'ha]

I would do them all. I'd undress in front of gay women in a locker room. Heck, I usually have had to undress in quick costume changes in the wings for a show, where there were dozens of crew standing around and I had no choice but to reveal T&A! In show business, a lot of times modesty has to go right out the window. I'd also shower with gay women in public showers. Already have. I've even showered in the same area as heterosexual men when seperate showers in the theatre weren't available.


Never had an awkward moment. Ever.



Peace,
Mystic