Therapists want to help us throw out what is unwanted and keep only
what is wanted. But what is left may not be very much. If we
try to throw away what we don’t want, we may throw away
most of ourselves.
Instead of acting as if we can dispose of parts of ourselves, we should
learn the art of transformation. We can transform our anger, for example,
into something more wholesome, like understanding. We do not need surgery to
remove our anger. If we become angry at our anger, we will have two angers
at the same time. We only have to observe it with love and attention.
If we take care of our anger this way, without trying to run away from it,
it will transform itself. This is peacemaking. If we are peaceful in ourselves,
we can make peace with our anger. We can deal with depression, anxiety,
fear, or any unpleasant feeling in the same way.
~ Thich Nhat Hanh