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[SageTree]

I am in a dilemma right now. Someone just insulted me in a debate in Religious Debates. I ignored it but part of me wanted to make a stinging response to the person. I had to stop myself from doing this, because of what Jesus said about turning the other cheek and all that. Being a human, I still get a bit irritated by such things. I get a little hurt when someone just makes fun of my posts and I get upset when I see it happen to others as well. The responses being made fun of by me and others were not stupid or anything, but it sure made me feel stupid and I am sure that it makes others feel stupid, too, when it happens to them and embarrassed.

I am sure that others have had the same experiences a lot of times. Do you just let it go, or do you make a comeback? Does making a comeback make you feel better or does just letting it go make you feel better.

Jesus didn't say this... but these words are attributed to the historic Buddha:

"[FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Hatred is never appeased by hatred in this world. By non-hatred alone is hatred appeased. This is a law eternal"

Some translations say Animosity or Anger and Love is sometimes in place of 'non-x'.

Another way to look at it is "when you try to throw hot coals at someone, you're the one who gets burned."

My Mom says "you catch more flies with honey than vinegar...."

The best thing you can do it ignore it or respond in kind.

Love transforms....
Hatred begets hatred....

And the only person who you really effect with a snipe back is yourself because you know it's not being true to yourself and what you believe.


tldr; mean people need hugs
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[connermt]

I am in a dilemma right now. Someone just insulted me in a debate in Religious Debates. I ignored it but part of me wanted to make a stinging response to the person. I had to stop myself from doing this, because of what Jesus said about turning the other cheek and all that. Being a human, I still get a bit irritated by such things. I get a little hurt when someone just makes fun of my posts and I get upset when I see it happen to others as well. The responses being made fun of by me and others were not stupid or anything, but it sure made me feel stupid and I am sure that it makes others feel stupid, too, when it happens to them and embarrassed.

I am sure that others have had the same experiences a lot of times. Do you just let it go, or do you make a comeback? Does making a comeback make you feel better or does just letting it go make you feel better.

If it will make you feel better, say something. If not, don't. Why does it have to be so complicated?

 

[dyanaprajna2011]

If I think there might have been a miscommunication between me and the other party, I'll try to clarify what I meant, and try to get the other side to do the same. If it indeed was a personal attack, I just let it go. There's no point getting all worked up over someone else's ignorance. And this, as well as firing back, are only going to end up hurting yourself in the end. And the chances that a firing back will hurt the other person are, in reality, slim to none. So it's pointless to let it drag out. Just let it go. It's better for you.

 

[ChristineES]

I would like to thank most of the posters in this thread for all your words of wisdom.

 

[dyanaprajna2011]

I would like to thank most of the posters in this thread for all your words of wisdom.

Most? That begs the question, was it one of the posters here who is the culprit? Actually I'm just prying, pay no attention to me.

 

[ChristineES]

Most? That begs the question, was it one of the posters here who is the culprit? Actually I'm just prying, pay no attention to me.

No. But someone's response (a person who will remain nameless) wasn't very supportive at all. I chose to just ignore it. And no, it wasn't you.

 

[Revoltingest]

Figger out what you believe is the right thing to do, & also what would be true to yourself.
A good response would leave no lingering bad feelings.
That's why I usually pounce viciously....it gives me a warm feeling.

 

[ChristineES]

Figger out what you believe is the right thing to do, & also what would be true to yourself.
A good response would leave no lingering bad feelings.
That's why I usually pounce viciously....it gives me a warm feeling.

I wish I could do that. But I would feel guilty. Sadly, I just couldn't find that right thing to say back that was both polite and biting. I bet you don't have any heartburn trouble!

 

[Debater Slayer]

I tend to respond when it happens in the middle of an argument, because if I just walk away they might think that their insults "won" them the debate. However, I don't really bother when the insults are too blatant. I find reporting posts like those to be the best remedy, especially if I manage to get rid of the perpetrator in the process.

 

[michel]

I am in a dilemma right now. Someone just insulted me in a debate in Religious Debates. I ignored it but part of me wanted to make a stinging response to the person. I had to stop myself from doing this, because of what Jesus said about turning the other cheek and all that. Being a human, I still get a bit irritated by such things. I get a little hurt when someone just makes fun of my posts and I get upset when I see it happen to others as well. The responses being made fun of by me and others were not stupid or anything, but it sure made me feel stupid and I am sure that it makes others feel stupid, too, when it happens to them and embarrassed.

I am sure that others have had the same experiences a lot of times. Do you just let it go, or do you make a comeback? Does making a comeback make you feel better or does just letting it go make you feel better.

I have reacted "badly" on a few occasions - and have felt a) bad for doing so b)I have merely prolonged the "argument/slur/disagreeement" - I think it is best to drop it, both according to your faith, and your own peace of mind.

 

[Revoltingest]

I wish I could do that. But I would feel guilty. Sadly, I just couldn't find that right thing to say back that was both polite and biting. I bet you don't have any heartburn trouble!

Seek, & ye shall find peace in a considered response.
Sometimes, I must ruminate a while before it comes to me.
It will be different for each of us.

 

[Kathryn]

When someone gets snarky or starts making intentionally offensive remarks, I usually point it out, tell them I'm not going there, and then ask them if they'd like to stick to the topic at hand and continue on a higher level. If they snark back again, I usually just ignore their posts altogether till they simmer on down or at least start acting more mature.

Of course if they get ridiculous I report them - but I've only reported a handful of posts with fingers left over the years. Usually other posters will point it out anyway, and the other person only ends up looking foolish.

It's just the internet. Nothing said on here has the power to bother me very much. If I get irritated, I just put the mouse down and go do something more interesting.

I DO admit though, to hastily typing out a scathing response - and then deleting it and laughing it off. Sometimes that's therapeutic!

 

[Revoltingest]

I DO admit though, to hastily typing out a scathing response - and then deleting it and laughing it off. Sometimes that's therapeutic!

I'm not the only one?

 

[Kathryn]

I'm not the only one?

You should see some of my deleted responses to YOU, Mister!

 

[Father Heathen]

I am in a dilemma right now. Someone just insulted me in a debate in Religious Debates. I ignored it but part of me wanted to make a stinging response to the person. I had to stop myself from doing this, because of what Jesus said about turning the other cheek and all that. Being a human, I still get a bit irritated by such things. I get a little hurt when someone just makes fun of my posts and I get upset when I see it happen to others as well. The responses being made fun of by me and others were not stupid or anything, but it sure made me feel stupid and I am sure that it makes others feel stupid, too, when it happens to them and embarrassed.

I am sure that others have had the same experiences a lot of times. Do you just let it go, or do you make a comeback? Does making a comeback make you feel better or does just letting it go make you feel better.

In my opinion, you should retort, tit for tat. It's fun.

 

[Phasmid]

In response to the OP I cite #3 of this

Top five regrets of the dying | Life and style | guardian.co.uk

Be well, and kick ***

 

[Sgloom]

i would just ignore it. sometimes people dont realize some the things theyre saying to people might be hurtful or offensive, i may have offended some people on here, i hope not though. if someone is just trolling or really being a jerk, i think its best to ignore them, unless they keep doing it to you, then i would speak up.

 

[Renji]

I am in a dilemma right now. Someone just insulted me in a debate in Religious Debates. I ignored it but part of me wanted to make a stinging response to the person. I had to stop myself from doing this, because of what Jesus said about turning the other cheek and all that. Being a human, I still get a bit irritated by such things. I get a little hurt when someone just makes fun of my posts and I get upset when I see it happen to others as well. The responses being made fun of by me and others were not stupid or anything, but it sure made me feel stupid and I am sure that it makes others feel stupid, too, when it happens to them and embarrassed.

I am sure that others have had the same experiences a lot of times. Do you just let it go, or do you make a comeback? Does making a comeback make you feel better or does just letting it go make you feel better.

I counter them decently and "intelligently". I'm not going to get down to their level. If that doesn't work, I ignore them. But yeah, lately, I feel some sort of emotional disturbance (probably because of my meds and the stress because of the shoulder pain) that makes me go like "Shut up your ******* ***". So I've been sticking to the jokes forum lately, instead of "trolling the trolls".

 

[Renji]

And if I feel that a post is too much insulting and stuff like that, I'm pretty generous on using the report button.

 

[ChristineES]

I'm not the only one?

It would hard to be insulted with you, Revoltingest, since you are so funny with your sarcasm.