Romance is a childish invention of poets and writers

[Clizby Wampuscat]

I met my husband when he was 47 and I was 42 and I'd had a hysterectomy, which he knew all about. If anything, the idea of NOT spreading our genes was an aphrodisiac.

I get it, after my vasectomy it kinda is not having to worry about it.

 

[TagliatelliMonster]

Love , romance, things like that are not strategies.

They are and by now I've explained multiple times how and why they are...
All I got in response is the equivalent of "na-ha" followed by a bear repeat of the claims.

It's opposite a strategy. It's rather selfless within existing relationship. It's more than mere concept. It has qualitative existence beyond emotions within beings.

See... just repeats of the claim. No explanations at all.

 

[TagliatelliMonster]

I get it, after my vasectomy it kinda is not having to worry about it.

Your vasectomy only made you sterile. It didn't strip you of your humanity and human psychology.

 

[Kathryn]

Your vasectomy only made you sterile. It didn't strip you of your humanity and human psychology.

I think he's saying that not having to worry about a pregnancy was an aphrodisiac.

 

[Wherenextcolumbus]

I disagree. I agree with the basic premise that basic human behavior / urges in terms of seeking relationships, sex etc ultimately boils down to the instinctive urge to spread ones genes. Nevertheless, I don't feel at all that that underlying explanation makes any relationship I have any less meaningful on a spiritual and / or romantic level.

Reality is still the same. My bond with my wife is still the same. Our attachment is still the same. The fuzzy feelings we get when we share a candle light dinner remains the same. Regardless if, at bottom, we can explain our "need" for such relationships with instinctive biological urges or not.



This is an assumption.
I assure you they would still experience love like any other human.
Emotions are very real, regardless of the "mechanistic" biological explanation.



But it is............
Why would you be angry about that?
We are social creatures. We thrive in groups, we seek out companionship, we have psychological urge for "belonging" etc.
I don't see how this makes any of those things less meaningful.

I agree with you for the most part except this part:

“I assure you they would still experience love like any other human.”

Not all humans experience love or have the same range of emotions, but I agree with the rest

 

[Clizby Wampuscat]

Your vasectomy only made you sterile. It didn't strip you of your humanity and human psychology.

Never said it did.

 

[TagliatelliMonster]

I agree with you for the most part except this part:

“I assure you they would still experience love like any other human.”

Not all humans experience love or have the same range of emotions, but I agree with the rest

I'm talking in general off course. I was explicit in adding it in most places.

Yeah, we have all kinds of "exceptions" what with things like sociopaths, psychopaths etc who don't experience human emotions like "in general".
But those are not the norm.