Rules You Live By (2 part question)

[The Sum of Awe]

What are some social-related rules/morals you live by? By social-related, I mean, rules that guide you in the social life with friends and family and people that you simply walk by at the mall.

And, how did you learn that rule, why is that a rule to you?

A few off the back for me I have come up recent:

1. Don't judge others for their likings. I learned not to after judgement against me, people criticizing me is very annoying and hurtful, and I constantly do my best not to criticize others even in my own head, we all have our different feats, a monkey judging a fish on climbing a tree... etc.

2. Not to talk about others behind their back, whether speaking positive or negative about them. Yet again, learned from experience; if this person happens to overhear you say their name, this could lead to bad interpretation of what you're saying of them, if it was not about their bad repetition in the first place. If they are nowhere around, even still, it's their personality and therefore the subject involved should always be involved, in my opinion.

3. Talk more about the other person. Why I believe this is an important rule is because of two reasons; people generally are always interested in showing who they are or what they've accomplished. And 2, the less I say tends to mean more interest from others. Also, you learn so much about other people's psyche and personality if you listen to them, even if this person is telling lies about themselves, you learn of them so well.


Those are my main 3, obviously I have a lot more, but I only listed 3 that I deemed worthy of sharing. And you?

 

[ChristineES]

I have a few to share:

1. I try to treat people the way I wish to be treated myself.
2.I Never say anything about a person that you wouldn't want to say to his/her face.
3. I try and be polite when you can and when it's possible.

 

[lewisnotmiller]

I have a few to share:

1. I try to treat people the way I wish to be treated myself.
2.I Never say anything about a person that you wouldn't want to say to his/her face.
3. I try and be polite when you can and when it's possible.

I'd agree with these.

 

[1137]

- People earn respect, it is not inherent and can be lost

- People have a right to be stupid

- Watch out for those you love, as in watch their backs and help them

- Be the better person, better than those around you and better than you yourself currently are

 

[KrsnaDasa]

1. Be a lady or gentlemen. Just because it's polite.
2. Let them feel comfortable. Some people are sically awkward, so I just try to be kind, act as if I don't notice and that it's all gooooood when around me. I use this one just because I have been around socially awkward people and I just want them to feel comfortable.
3. Leave them in a better mood then they were in before they talked with me. I don't know why I do this one, kind of like a nice little goal to set.

 

[StarryNightshade]

Here are a few of mine.

1.) People are people and they should be treated according to their actions or deeds; not because of their faith or lack thereof.

2.) Try to remain as objective as possible in any given situation (this one can be tricky :yes.

3.) Not everyone is going to like you or what you say and do. So try not to get too upset when that reality comes up.

4.) Always keep up the pursuit of knowledge and to change one's perspective if and when experience or reason dictates otherwise.

 

[Twilight Hue]

Be wary of karma. Keep mindful of your actions.

Compassion and patience serves well.

Lincoln's quote, "Endeavor to persevere".

 

[Me Myself]

If someone asks your opinion about something they care about, dont sugar coat the truth or lie to them unless they specifically ask you to do so.

Avoid religious subjects in public unless others have said they are comfortable talking about em.

Just say you are a veg if it is immidiately necessary. Refusing some food generally makes it immidiately necessary as a means to others not thinking I am trying to offend them. I subjects about vegetarianism try to be as passive in the conversation as possible. People easily feel they are being lectured, so if they ask you or lead the conversation in a way where they want to debate vegetarianism quickly point out "I have no problem talking about this if you want to, but lets be clear, do you want to talk about this? There is no problem if you dont. Most people dont feel cfortable about it"

If you admired something about someone, tell em.

If someone looks like they are not fine, ask em about it. Ask again and they generally say what is actually in their mind after a "yeah, its just a ..." . Listen and ask questions if relevant. If they keep talking and talk a lot when they were before very quiet, they probably needed that.



This is not a rule, but I justaturally do it most of the times:

You know you cant know someone by one exposition. Even frequent expositions tend to be insufficient for knowing someone. Whatever you have seen of this person is just a part of this person, whether it is good or great or it is bad or horrible. This means dont assume for a fact a person is an angel given a good exposition or a spawn of satan given a bad eexposition. Applies the same to several expositions. Its more helpful to see how it happned that a person reacted in a way than to just assume they are X (an ***********, a good person, bad with X, etc)

 

[Me Myself]

- People earn respect, it is not inherent and can be lost

- People have a right to be stupid

- Watch out for those you love, as in watch their backs and help them

- Be the better person, better than those around you and better than you yourself currently are

Aside from the first one, I love those.

I agree people can lose their respectaiblity, but I do respect someone until s/he proves otherwise.

Then again, my way of respecting people is alien to humans

 

[Gjallarhorn]

"The man of knowledge must be able not only to love his enemies but also to hate his friends." (aka, it's okay to disagree with people you like, and agree with people you don't)

Treat others not how you wish to be treated, but how they wish to be treated, when the two do not conflict.

Don't waste your breath.

Don't get caught.

 

[1137]

Aside from the first one, I love those.

I agree people can lose their respectaiblity, but I do respect someone until s/he proves otherwise.

Then again, my way of respecting people is alien to humans

I'll give benefit of the doubt respect to people I've had no or little interaction with. But nobody inherently deserves more than that except in certain contexts. For example, I respect Hawking as a scientist, but I owe him no respect as a person.