Running into people you never want to see again

[jonny]

I don't like the word hate, but there is one person on this planet that I have a very strong disliking for. It's a long story, but to get down to the it, I never ever care to say another word to him. I don't even want to look at him. I refuse to go to events if it's possible that he'll be there and just avoid him. He's a jerk. That's all there is to it. He's the meanest person I've ever met in my life. The funny thing is that it wasn't anything that he did to me. I can't stand the way he treats other people.

Today I was walking in the mall and the person in front of me turned around. It was the dude I described above. I looked at him for a moment and then turned my head and walked past him (he had stopped briefly). I thought for a second about saying hi, but only for a second. He knew I saw him (we were only a few feet from eachother).

So, how do you react when you run into people that you never want to see again? Is there anyone in your life that you never want to see again -or- are close to hating? Do you pretend like everything is cool. Do you ignore them? Do you tell 'em off?

 

[michel]

I don't like the word hate, but there is one person on this planet that I have a very strong disliking for. It's a long story, but to get down to the it, I never ever care to say another word to him. I don't even want to look at him. I refuse to go to events if it's possible that he'll be there and just avoid him. He's a jerk. That's all there is to it. He's the meanest person I've ever met in my life. The funny thing is that it wasn't anything that he did to me. I can't stand the way he treats other people.

Today I was walking in the mall and the person in front of me turned around. It was the dude I described above. I looked at him for a moment and then turned my head and walked past him (he had stopped briefly). I thought for a second about saying hi, but only for a second. He knew I saw him (we were only a few feet from eachother).

So, how do you react when you run into people that you never want to see again? Is there anyone in your life that you never want to see again -or- are close to hating? Do you pretend like everything is cool. Do you ignore them? Do you tell 'em off?

There is one person I don't ever want to speak to again.........not because of dislike, but because I had a very long lasting relationship with her, and she messed me about. The last time I did see her, in Public, I pretended I didn't see her.........I looked straight through her. I knew she had seen me too, but seemed tyo want to ignore me too.

Sad.

 

[ChrisP]

Wow, that's how I react if I see people I LIKE on the street. I only look at you if I don't like you. Guess I'm doing it wrong.

 

[jeffrey]

Love God, love everyone else. It's easy to love people we like. It's alot harder to love the people we dislike. I believe that's close to what Jesus said.

 

[kreeden]

Hmmm ? That is a hard one , being that I am basically anti-social to begin with . Most people that I do kinda like seem to think that I don't like them . So I assume that those that I really don't like KNOW that I don't like them .

The thing is though , if we don't like somebody , it usually is because of our own preferences . I mean , changes are that person does have some friends . So as I see it , the problem lays with me , not them . Which is a good thing , as I then have some control over it .

Now I'm not saying that I have to change my views to the point where I like everyone . As I said , I'm anti-social . But realizing that much of the problem lays in how I view this person allows me to neither let it go , or let them go . If that makes sense ?

 

[NoName]

That is a hard one , being that I am basically anti-social to begin with . Most people that I do kinda like seem to think that I don't like them . So I assume that those that I really don't like KNOW that I don't like them .

LOL!! Same here. If I see people I don't like, I usually pretend I don't notice, but if they insist on talking to me for whatever reason, it usually takes a huge amount of strength to bite my tongue - strength that I rarely have. :biglaugh:

 

[michel]

I have one particular sort of 'naughtiness'; whenever I take my dog for a walk (so I am not thinking about anything in particular), I try to catch the eye of people coming from the other way, and give them a big smile, and mouth 'Hello' - it's amazing how you see eyes light up, a smile, and a 'hello' back from people who looked gloomy a few seconds before.

 

[ChrisP]

I have one particular sort of 'naughtiness'; whenever I take my dog for a walk (so I am not thinking about anything in particular), I try to catch the eye of people coming from the other way, and give them a big smile, and mouth 'Hello' - it's amazing how you see eyes light up, a smile, and a 'hello' back from people who looked gloomy a few seconds before.

Hehehe, yup that's a warm fuzzy alright. If it's local charity collection day in your home town, just walk along the street with your tongue polking out, like kids do when they're concentrating (only not so far you look like a weener).

Apparently (my Comms lecturer taught me this), it's read by other peoples brain as body language that says "I'm so busy thinking like Einstein, you shouldn't disturb me (if you value your life)"

Tried it, once across town without tongue : bothered by 7 collectors
once across town WITH tongue : bothered by noone, not even my mother who I happened to walk past Different routes each time.

 

[jonny]

I have one particular sort of 'naughtiness'; whenever I take my dog for a walk (so I am not thinking about anything in particular), I try to catch the eye of people coming from the other way, and give them a big smile, and mouth 'Hello' - it's amazing how you see eyes light up, a smile, and a 'hello' back from people who looked gloomy a few seconds before.

It's funny. When I lived in Rexburg, Idaho it was almost rude NOT to greet every single person you passed on the street. It was the most strange place I ever lived. Everyone smiled at you and said hi. Some even stopped to ask how you were doing. I've never experienced anything like it anywhere else.

It was such as difference from when I was in Germany. When I first got there I was used to living in Rexburg. An older lady passed me while I was walking down the street and I smiled at her and said hello. She responded with a disgusted look, replied "do I know you," and walked on. :biglaugh:

 

[michel]

It's funny. When I lived in Rexburg, Idaho it was almost rude NOT to greet every single person you passed on the street. It was the most strange place I ever lived. Everyone smiled at you and said hi. Some even stopped to ask how you were doing. I've never experienced anything like it anywhere else.

It was such as difference from when I was in Germany. When I first got there I was used to living in Rexburg. An older lady passed me while I was walking down the street and I smiled at her and said hello. She responded with a disgusted look, replied "do I know you," and walked on. :biglaugh:

The only people who don't seem to respond are the Chinese; they seem to keep their eyes lowered, demurely, and avoid others' eyes.

 

[ChrisP]

The only people who don't seem to respond are the Chinese; they seem to keep their eyes lowered, demurely, and avoid others' eyes.

It's not polite to make eye contact in many asian cultures notably Japanese, but some older Chinese still practise this. Most young chinese over here don't seem to bother. Must be our western degenerate influence.

 

[Abram]

It's funny. When I lived in Rexburg, Idaho it was almost rude NOT to greet every single person you passed on the street. It was the most strange place I ever lived. Everyone smiled at you and said hi. Some even stopped to ask how you were doing. I've never experienced anything like it anywhere else.

It was such as difference from when I was in Germany. When I first got there I was used to living in Rexburg. An older lady passed me while I was walking down the street and I smiled at her and said hello. She responded with a disgusted look, replied "do I know you," and walked on. :biglaugh:

I've been to Rexburg. The people in that town are scary nice, to friendly. In fact I always called it the nicest town in the world... I was in a real bad car accident there with some of the college students. She drove in to a log poll fence and the polls went through the windshield. The driver ended up in ICU for a month and had the have reconstructive surgery. It was 9 years ago. Maybe you heard about it?

As for the guy you can't stand. What you do, is next time you see him, go talk to him. Find something you like about this guy. This may sound stupid, but it's your hang up in this situation, your burden. You pass up events and his presence to hide. This guy is controlling you. By the sounds of it no one likes this guy. He wants to be understood just like all of us. "Keep your enemies close"

or just kick his as#...

 

[Bishka]

Rexburg is a very friendly town, I live there currently with my husband. Random people seem to say hi and wave to me, I don't even know them, but oh well. Whatever floats their boat!

 

[ChrisP]

Rexburg is a very friendly town, I live there currently with my husband. Random people seem to say hi and wave to me, I don't even know them, but oh well. Whatever floats their boat!

Maybe they're really pod people. . . Careful Beck

 

[Bishka]

LOl. Nah, just good LDS people.

 

[ChrisP]

LOl. Nah, just good LDS people.

Like I said. . .

 

[jonny]

Rexburg is a very friendly town, I live there currently with my husband. Random people seem to say hi and wave to me, I don't even know them, but oh well. Whatever floats their boat!

I didn't have a car when I lived there for a few years and I'd always get picked up by random people while I was walking - especially home from the grocery store. My roommates and I would do the same thing when we were driving around. If you saw someone walking out in the cold, you'd just pull over and ask them if they wanted a ride. We made a game out of honking at people and waving the other way when they looked. :biglaugh:

I actually got sick of everyone saying hi to me. Is that bad? :help:

 

[ChrisP]

I didn't have a car when I lived there for a few years and I'd always get picked up by random people while I was walking - especially home from the grocery store. My roommates and I would do the same thing when we were driving around. If you saw someone walking out in the cold, you'd just pull over and ask them if they wanted a ride. We made a game out of honking at people and waving the other way when they looked. :biglaugh:

I actually got sick of everyone saying hi to me. Is that bad? :help:

Hi-daho ay? I hear there's not much else to do there.

 

[Scuba Pete]

Love God, love everyone else is not just another good idea... "It's the law!" Bwahahahahaha!

Time is too precious to waste it on hate!

 

[Fluffy]

I ascribe to the philosophy that everyone has a worst enemy and that the purpose of your worst enemy is to teach you the most important lessons in life. The experience you gain from them drowns out the hurt they may inflict on you many times over.