Sexual orientation and different kinds of love

[McBell]

So... is objective love when oxytocin is released as a result of ones attachment to another

Define "objective love"

 

[picnic]

It seems to me there is also a male/female role in relationships. Probably the roles change depending on the problem. Like one person might take the lead in dealing with waiters at restaurants while the other person might take the lead in dealing with family budgets.

In dealing with my possibly bisexual friend over the years, I sometimes felt uncomfortable if I felt he was doing too much for me. For example, once he wanted to get me a job at a company he was working. Another time, he wanted to take me on an overseas trip he was making for his work. He was trying to help me, because my life has not been very good for the past 15 years, but I didn't like to be in an unequal situation where I was not contributing as much. I'm not a macho, he-man type at all, but it made me uncomfortable. I kept thinking about the possible romantic relationship between J. Edgar Hoover and Clyde Tolson. I was raised in a traditional family where my father was more dominant. I always insecure about my masculinity growing up.

To be honest, I've never been comfortable with either same sex or opposite sex relationships. I've never had either kind, because there is a weird policeman in my psyche that always jumps up and says "no/stop". Now I'm older and it doesn't matter, but sometimes I wonder about my own sexual orientation.

Isn't everybody bisexual somewhat? Some more some less?

 

[dust1n]

Not when it makes you suicidal and it lands you in the ER. Trust me, I know from experience.

I guess I'm unaware of the love that makes people want to commit suicide when it is gone.

 

[Saint Frankenstein]

I guess I'm unaware of the love that makes people want to commit suicide when it is gone.

Maybe you've never really been in love, then. Lol.

 

[Deathbydefault]

Define "objective love"

The physical process in your brain that creates a reaction to an emotional situation of strong devotion.
That is what love is on the physical spectrum, and this is the easiest explanation I have.

 

[dust1n]

Maybe you've never really been in love, then. Lol.

Would be a surprise to me.

 

[picnic]

The physical process in your brain that creates a reaction to an emotional situation of strong devotion.
That is what love is on the physical spectrum, and this is the easiest explanation I have.

Does that physical process happen when a person admires a teacher or hugs a cat?

 

[Saint Frankenstein]

Would be a surprise to me.

Nah, it's just that people experience and deal with love in various ways. I was joking.

 

[dust1n]

Nah, it's just that people experience and deal with love in various ways. I was joking.

That's true. I don't doubt it happens. I just don't understand it. The things that make me feel suicidal exist independent of love, and persist whether or not I'm love or not. I've been upset before because of love, but I guess I always just figured it was a possibility anyway.

 

[Deathbydefault]

Does that physical process happen when a person admires a teacher or hugs a cat?

I am completely unsure.
Totally dependent on someones emotional state.

 

[McBell]

Maybe you've never really been in love, then. Lol.

Or perhaps you haven't?

 

[McBell]

The physical process in your brain that creates a reaction to an emotional situation of strong devotion.
That is what love is on the physical spectrum, and this is the easiest explanation I have.

Thank you.

However, I am more interested in psychedelicsoul defines it.

 

[Saint Frankenstein]

Or perhaps you haven't?

I said I was joking.

 

[Deathbydefault]

Thank you.

However, I am more interested in psychedelicsoul defines it.

Oh, sorry.
I was the one who originally brought it up so I felt a need to leave a comment

 

[McBell]

Oh, sorry.
I was the one who originally brought it up so I felt a need to leave a comment

Fair enough.
I do appreciate your taking the time to present your definition.

I noticed that psychedelicsoul doe snot always use a standard definition for some words and am looking to get a clarification from him as to if this is another term he deviates with.

 

[delizzle]

Love is not a feeling. It is an action. Anytime time you put others ahead of yourself it is an act of love. You can still show love to someone you are not attracted to. You can even show love to people you dislike.