Q: Can a woman go to a funeral? It has been suggested that in the times of early Islam women were prevented from doing so. Is this true? Are women allowed to physically enter cemeteries or graveyards?
A: There are conflicting Ahadith on this subject. While one set of Ahadith prohibits such practices, another set seemingly goes the opposite way. Those people who reject the idea altogether quote the following Hadith in which the Prophet(SAW) is reported to have said:'Allah has cursed those who often go and visit graves.' Another Hadith relates an incident in which the Prophet (SAW) asked his daughter, Fatima (RA),why she had left her house. She is reported to have replied: 'I went to the family of such and such a dead person and I prayed to Allah to shower His mercy on the person.' The Prophet (SAW) is then reported to have asked whether she went to the funeral and she replied: 'God forbid, how could I do such a thing when I have heard that you have forbidden this?'
However, those looking for evidence to show that women are allowed to visit graves quote some of the following Ahadith: According to one tradition, the Prophet (SAW) is reported - after acknowledging that he had earlier forbade women to visit cemeteries - to have said: 'Now you are allowed to go and visit them, for they remind you of the life to come.' In another Hadith, included in both Muslim and Al-Bukhari, the Prophet (SAW), is reported by Umm Atiyyah to have forbade women from following janazah prayers '... but,' adds Umm Atiyyah, 'he did not stress it'
The question then is: What does the believer gather from all this? After much deliberation, scholars have concluded that women can go to gravesides and cemeteries, providing they fulfil usual requirements - in the same way as, for example, they go shopping or visiting friends and neighbours. This, say scholars, is the best method of combining the two sets of Ahadith which may otherwise appear contradictory.