In the Old Testament, the words for love is, 'āhēbh, 'ahăbhāh. Basically it is a very simple word. It just means to give or I give. I love you... I give. Thats nice, thats simple, good and profound. Thats spiritual love... I give.
In the New Testament, we have the word agápē. We have a little different explanation for that; a complex emotion arousing appreciation or delight in and desire for the presence of its object; as well as to please and promote its welfare.
Now, I got this out of the Concordant Keyword Dictionary, because its so much better than all the other dictionaries and Dr. Strong combined. I mean Ive gone over definitions of this word, agapao and agape, for many hours and its really difficult to nail it down. Dr. Strong in his Exhausted Concordance, translates agape one way and then translates agarao the verb, differently, like its two different words.
I contended for so long with this thing of, aion and aionios and that no adjective can take on a different or greater meaning than the noun from which it is derived. Yet they take the word aion, which means an age, and turn it into eternity. Its stupid, its grammatically wrong.
You dont take the word hour and then when you say you work hourly, you mean yearly. No, it still means hourly. It doesnt change just because you change it from a noun to a adjective or a verb, an adverb, or something else.
So now I can see some better distinctions. It, agape, is a complex emotion, arousing appreciation or delight in and desire for the presence of its object; as well as to please and promote its welfare.
Now here is the word phileo. We understand the word Philadelphia, the city of brotherly love - Philadelphia. It means to be fond of, responsive, affection based on approval and regard. Thats a little complicated, basically its this. God of love -agape, is a one-way street, God loves, He gives. Its not based on whether the ones He gives it to, loves Him back.
While we were yet sinners, Christ died for us, right. Why? Because He loves us, for God so loved the world. That includes all these drug dealing, wife beating, God defying people. He so loved the world, did they love Him back? No, very few people love God back. Its a one-way street... He loves. Hes the One that loves, not getting anything back for it, He loves.
But phileo love, is where two people are fond of each other and theyre responsive to each other. It has to do with affections, based on the approval of the one youre giving out to, you see. Why are people friends? Because they reciprocate, right.
Bob and I go to lunch once a week. If we didnt reciprocate in how we think and talk to each other and build up each other when we are down, then I think that would come to an end rather quickly.
Seriously, when you have a close friend, is that somebody that never shows you close affection? I dont think so.
A close friend, a phileo, a friend that reciprocated, its a two-way street. Although God is agape, you would say thats the ultimate. But it is not as intimate as phileo. All my life I heard this pyramid of love. At the top there was this agape, the ultimate. Is it really?
A couple of things, I have a very important note here: There are two kinds of love, for two kinds of people.
LOVE is what God is.