Namaskaram Shantanu ji
Hello Ratikalaji, namaskar
Yes to we must strive to please Sri Krishna. When we have surrendered to Sri Krishna whole heartedly and carry out His wishes for us we are doing that. But is it possible that He has different things to say to each one of us depending on our individual circumstances, whether we are a baba, a householder with a spouse who has different views that need to be accommodated if one wishes to save one's marriage becuase one feels that marriage should be preserved once one has gone into it.
in this incidence I am sure Krsna will completly understand your possition , ....what Krsna says in the Gita is what is preferable for all of us , this is the guideline by which we should try to live , ...but for you if your wife is unwilling to give up meat eating and you are feeling that you canot complain because she is kind enought to cook for you then it will be very hard for you to disrupt the household . then Krsna will understand .
I do not follow Bhagavad Gita as a presribed path by Sri Krishna for all mankind. I follow the truth path which has found God as Sri Krishna and has totally surrendered to Him. Even with my reluctant non-vegetarianism He did not abandon me.
as you have surrendered fully to Sri Krsna then without doubt he will
''cary what you lack'' .....at this moment you lack the capacity to follow the instructions on avoiding meat eating but because of your surrender Krsna will forgive this because of the circumstances but another person eating meat due to laziness or to satisfy the palate this Krsna would not be so happy with , this does not mean that he does not understand Krsna does not frown even on the most ignorant as he is more mercifull than we can possibly understand , in the Gita he is giving recomendations which will be benificial for us and which will help us to break free from ignorance
I fully agree with you that satvic diet of veganism is best and I would have been quite content with that kind of living except that my wife will not like it. It will put too much pressure on her to be doing her job that sustains us as a family as I am unemployed still waiting for my pension to come in 5 months time. In these circumstances she would have to cook separately for my preferred veganism. I found that Sri Krishna understands that limitation that I have to want to survive in dignity with my marriage intact. That is in my truth path and I sincerely believe that doing so pleases Sri Krishna more than I would have if I imposed myself on my wife to make her cook vegan food for me all the time. I eat what I get on my plate. My wife takes care of me, an unemployed and unemployable 60 year old. I can guarantee you this much. Sri Krishna has never abandoned me through all my life's trials and tribulations because I eat meat when it is provided to me by the charity of my wife on whom I am dependent.
Krsna will never abandon you , I am so glad that despite your material dificulties , your unemployment and the tribulations of life , that still you have not forgotten Krsna and that you steadfastly rely upon him .
I respect people like you who have been able to maintain a vegeratian or vegan lifesytle and are simultaneously in the service of Sri Krishna. I believe He loves what you do, but He never once abandoned me because I eat meat products. I believe this is becuase of the simple reason that I am helpless and must survive with dignity. That dignity comes from surrendering to God for He will chart my future, no one else.
Does this make sense to you?
yes certainly , Now you have explained I understand your position entirely , ....but may I make a suggestion , ....when we married we took vowes , I am sure you also took similar vowes if you had a hindu wedding ? ...these vowes were carefuly explained , we were agreeing to support each other in both material life and in our progress in our spiritual life , the wife is to serve the husband as her lord and the husband is to protect and serve the entire family , ..you have said that you are un able to work , this will happen to many of us as we grow older , which ever partner this happens to first the whole family will rally to support that person this is everyones Dharma , what ever happens be it sickness or the missfortune of not being able to find work , this is just an obstical in ones material life , but where there is an obstical in ones spiritual life , we must allways feel that we can discuss this with our partners , where it is the problem of meat eating , one partner does not see the harm in meat eating and wants the other to behave as they do then the duty of the one who sees and understands the instructions of Krsna to be benificial to persuede the other to change their ways , ... your wife is a very good wife and takes good care of you even in difficult circumstances , I canot say she is bad , she is doing her very best , but perhaps she does not fully understand the implications of meat eating , it is not so much that it displeases Krsna as Krsna can understand our ignorance , but it is more that we are hurting other Jiva souls , when a person realises this meat eating will become distastefull , we will not want to harm other jivas as we will understand we would not want our loved ones harmed , perhaps you can very gently and lovingly explain this to her ? ...this is also our duty , ...I had to persuede my husband , fortunatly for me it was not so difficult as he had been vegetarian before but because of people arround him he had given up , but my duty as a wife to be was to threaten him that I would not even go out with him if he ate meat and to explain why it was so important , but he was very good in making change quickly , he likes to cook so I taught him to cook many very nice vegetarian meals so I am very lucky he cooks most of the time , ... even some years after we got married I decided that on ethical grounds I could not take any milk or dairy whilst we lived here in UK because of the misstreatment of dairy cattle , I made an imidaite vow , I did not think even to consult him , but after he said to me does that mean me too ? ....I had to say to him no it must be your descision , but if you would follow me I would be very happy , .... kindly he supported me immidaitly .....
this made me very happy , .....this is what Krsna means when he says in the Gita ,
''such a preson is very dear to me'' , ...he means that he is not angry at one who does not follow every injunction , but what he does say is that he is especialy pleased with one who does , ....when a person does the right thing , in this instance it is to behave with compassion for other jivas by not eating meat , then Krsna becomes delighted , ....
now what I would like to suggest , is .....can you talk to your wife and explain how very important ths is for a devotee of Krsna ? can you explain about the Jiva in the heart of all beings and explain that it is your greatest wish to fullfill this vow and that if she would support you in ths way you would be eternaly greatfull , perhaps even you can offer to help with the cooking to give her some free time , perhaps she will like this ? maybe you can cook one whole meal each week , if this meal is pure vegetarian you can offer it to Krsna then the whole family will recive Krsna prasada , this will be benificial for all the family , then who knows , Krsna may persuade your wife to become vegetarian too, this would be very nice ,