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I understand. Nevertheless ...
When I was in my 20s, I read the Tao Te Ching for the first time, and it made me a bit angry. Because it seemed to me to be deliberately contradicting itself in every statement it presented.
"The tao that can be told
is not the eternal Tao
The name that can be named
is not the eternal Name.
The unnamable is the eternally real.
Naming is the origin
of all particular things."
And so on, verse after verse. I read it, but I threw it away afterwards.
But then some ten years later I had occasion to come across a copy of it, and remembering how frustrated I was with it years before, I couldn't help taking a new look. And to my surprise, this time some of it began to make sense to me. I understood that it was not contradicting itself just to frustrate me, it was presenting it's message through sets of opposites. Sort of like presenting both sides of the coin as a way of conveying the coin's 'fullness'. Still, though, I was unable to decipher a lot of the verses, and eventually I gave up and moved on to other things.
And another ten years passed, with all the requisite life experiences that tend to come with time, here. And I decided to go get a copy of the book, and look into it, again. And this time, to my surprise, I not only understood it, but I found it funny in many places. I saw that the author was not only very wise, but had a keen sense of humor about himself and the world.
My point is that sometimes these things take a long time to digest.
Here are a couple of quotes from the Tao Te Ching that I think are especially applicable to this conversation, that you might try to consider.
"When people see some things as beautiful,
other things become ugly.
When people see some things as good,
other things become bad."
"Being and non-being create each other.
Difficult and easy support each other.
Long and short define each other.
High and low depend on each other.
Before and after follow each other."
"Colors blind the eye.
Sounds deafen the ear.
Flavors numb the taste.
Thoughts weaken the mind.
Desires wither the heart."
And finally this:
"There was something formless and perfect
before the universe was born.
It is serene. Empty.
Solitary. Unchanging.
Infinite. Eternally present.
It is the mother of the universe.
For lack of a better name,
I call it the Tao."
"It flows through all things,
inside and outside, and returns
to the origin of all things."
"The Tao is great.
The universe is great.
Earth is great.
Man is great.
These are the four great powers."
"Man follows the earth.
Earth follows the universe.
The universe follows the Tao.
The Tao follows only itself."