@InChrist
I can try to give some perspective of why in general one would despise something another finds love in. I know it sounds contradicting. I mean, many christians loathe pagan rituals etc as if they will catch some demonic disease from in it. Nothing is further than the truth. Id assume likewise the opposite but we just cant see it from your perspective. I guess its a two way thing.
Here are my thoughts. My point is above and the green leaves if you like to skip.
Death brings life
I dont mean to be harsh but in its simplest terms, thats how Christianity sees/defines paganism: the sacrifice of people, animals, gods etc all for their own god/s but not for the One True God.
Christianity has pagan sacrifices. It just limits it to one god.
However, most pagans I know and myself included don't sacrifice people. We dont give up things for our god/s in place of the one true god because like the one god there are so many others on that same level (from an outsiders view). Its like arguing over whose god gets the sacrifice (or in other terms "offering")
But pagans (people not of abrahamic religions) offer all sorts of things. We offer candles, incense, to food and water.
But never a child and never as a self sacrifice to save others that are only vows to their god not the physical saving of someone by loosing a life. Its like an army going into war with an invisible enemy and their country congradulates them for saving their country. The soilders say they did it for their commander.
Can you see why outsiders would be confused? A bit befundled over using death and non-present means to save someone today that the vow and claimed action was only written in the past?
I wouldnt despise christianity for using sacrifice as a means of salvation. Even more so, using that death to tell others they should die spiritually in the same manner that Christ did physically.
Then you have to understand not everyone feels they are spiritually dead and need a savior.
Many people despise christianity because of how many christians share this death-->life as a no way out but my way out deal. Its as if the soilders are unhappy that you arent rooting for the country when half of us dont see any enemies you killed for your country. A lot of it is behavior. I had one priest yell at me and another one spent four hours with me in confession. Some people told me I can loose my salvation. When I joined the Church, they said no I cannot.
People say the most contradicting and harsh things.
Anyway, I went off my points. Another reasons is the most famous "does god exist?"
Think about this InChrist without thinking about God/Christ.
If two men side by side asked me if I needed a ride and one guy says "I will take you. Dont worry. I have a criminal record. I murdered over fifty people because the didnt like me. I held one guy for ransom. But dont worry," he says in a very honest, nice, and loving voice, "come with me. I will take you where you need to go?"
The other guy has a husky voice. Baggy pants and a slight slur in his walk. He tells you he is from the city and grown up there all his life. He tells you "I didnt do anything wrong. I live around people who do bad things and people who do good. I live in the hood." then he says "did you want the ride or not? Stop staring at me." You dont like his tone.
But compared to the guy that murdered people, which guy would your ride with? Pretending that these two are telling the truth.
To many people god is like the first guy. You read in the Bible that he is a nice guy. People take rides from him and for some odd reason they get where they need to go. Then that outsider reads the Bible more and finds out this guys criminal record. That would make him so uncomfortable that to be a friend with a criminal (and not just one mind you) is like you befriending a pagan that insults your faith just by how she interacts with you. Im not saying that criminals cant be your friend.
Just my point is, why be with someone you are uncomfortable with?
Especially people who value life. Why trust a guy who takes the lives of the very same people he gave life to?
I wouldnt despise god for this contradition and long example (sorry)...just it makes people uncomfortable and when treated unfairly and not given a chance to be open about their disagreements, of course they will despise. Not specifically to the religion (more than likely) just the people who represent it.
I started reading the Bible to my grandmothers now when I light a candle. They are christian and thats the best way I connect. This is what I read from just spontaneouslly opening a page:
But not so are the wicked, not so! They are like chaff drivenb y the wind. Therefore the wicked will not arise at the judgement nor will sinners in the assebly of the just because the Lord knows the way of thejust but the way of thewicked leads to ruin.
then the Lord says
You are not a god who delights in evil. No wicked person finds refuge with you the arrogant cannot standbefore your eyes. You hate all who do evil you destory those who speak fasley, abloodly and fradulent man the Lord adhors.
How in the world does a Christian find inspiration in this? The first guy, the murderer, is a guy just like you and I. Some non christians despise christianity because the wicked are just as use regular joe smoes. Why not help the wicked? Why call them wicked?
I have a co-worker who sliped something from her mouth, "I dont know where
you will go in the afterlife," she paused, and re-adjusted herself, "anyway, um..." We were talking about religion and her hint was since Im not christian Im not going to heaven.
The Bible prompt her to think this.
When I read the Lotus Sutra and any other Sutra of the Buddhas none of them prompt any advice and motive that has anyone killing someone else because of disbelief in the Buddhas teachings. It is all positive. Its like a breathe of fresh air when coming from the bible. Because you are reading about life not death.
Anyway, I could go on.
For me personally, I found both life and death in the Church. Mass starts with being sinful. You come in with and get the blessings from god. Then you anoint your head to remember your baptism. As Mass comes along, so does your resurrection in Christ. The priest takes the sacrifical meal and offers it to the congregation. Now you have died in Christ. It doesnt end there. The rest of Mass marks his resurrection through his death. Its not the other way around.
So there is a lot of beauty in the Christianity.
Just people despise it because it is a contradicting faith not just on the little things as sat vs sun but on the big things like life vs death.
Take your time reading this if you are interested (nicely saying). Just wanted to give some insight.