I've yet to see a theist say that those that are separated from god are happy and filled with a sense of well-being and freedom.
If one does, then sure, that's not suffering, and that's not much of a hell.
I think this is one of the problems. The idea of hell being fire and brimstone is so engrained with one type of hell they can't see anything else.
Being separated from God does not mean that one has to be suffering, and that still can qualify as well. It may feel unbearable, but that doesn't equate to suffering. Life seems unbearable at time, and it may feel one depressed, but people can live with it and still have somewhat of a happiness.
The concept of hell is still changing. It is tending to go to more of a state of loss. But again, that is not suffering per se.
To keep such a narrow view of hell simply does not do well when the concept has been changing for quite some time.
Or it shows that they are wrong. Those that believe in and condone eternal suffering are showcasing negative attributes of themselves that they would do well to address.
Or they were simply taught that way from a young age and those ideas die hard. Especially for those who do not think of the idea very much at all. There are many more factors involved that you are seemingly giving credit to.
It's not a misunderstanding of god or hell. There are a variety of conceptions hell.
For eternal ones:
-Some believe god sends people to be eternally tortured.
-Some believe that god set up a system that allows people to end up in a place of eternal torture, but they "send their selves there".
-Some believe that god merely separates a person from him, and that they suffer for an eternity as a result in darkness or whatnot.
-Some believe that all go to the presence of god, but that his presence causes some to feel eternally joyful and some to feel eternal suffering.
-etc.
And then there are temporary ones, such as:
-Buddhist or Hindu temporary hells that one exists in until negative karma is spent.
-Purgatory; some type of cleansing that causes suffering of some sort.
And then there are more advanced things that aren't really hells, such as:
-People simply staying dead.
-People realizing the error of their ways, which causes them some suffering but allows them to grow and change.
Any scenario that involves God causing or allowing eternal suffering lacks benevolence and love, and is instead malevolent and barbaric.
First, you are missing many ideas of hell. And you are too quick to say that some aspects would be considered suffering. Do you think you would suffer if there was a God, who, after you died, made you live in a realm distant from him? I highly doubt it.
However, your definitions of love and benevolence are too black and white. Does a mother who calls the cops on her son for committing an atrocity, fully knowing that she is essentially sending her son to prison for the rest of his life, not love that son? Is she barbaric and malevolent? Now, if she is an atheist, and believes that this is the only life one has, wouldn't that be unloving? For all intensive purpose, she is sending her son to a place that can be described as hell.
By what you're saying, she must not love her son, and she must be malevolent and barbaric. However, that does not need to be the case. Instead, she could greatly love her son, but be aware that he needs to be punished for his deeds. Yes, we don't have the term eternal here, but I think that is a minor point in this regard. Because the fact is, one can still be loving, yet see that people need to be punished. That there needs to be a sort of justice out there.
You're utilizing straw men. I never said that not being able to go to heaven means god is evil. I said eternal hell is.
I never said you did. I was simply talking about different ideas of justice. And really, this requires a broader term of hell. Having such a narrow one simply does not work. The reason being that the concept of hell is still changing.
Hell does not require torturing. It could simply mean that a person has to live on Earth, away from God in heaven.
You've used straw men since your first post in here. The OP asked how people can hold a hellfire belief, and specifically an eternally tormenting one, and still believe in a good and loving god.
The OP based his question on a very narrow mindset, that honestly is quite ignorant. Looking at other posts of his, I see no reason not to assume this post is more about attacking the idea of the Abrahamic God than anything else. He has a tendency to do so, and usually they are based on ignorant and narrow minded ideas.
Because of that, I see that it is more productive to use a broader view of hell, especially since the concept has been changing for quite some time.
Either way, people obviously can hold such a narrow view of hell, and still see God is good and loving. Many are quite educated folk.
Finally, the OP was more about calling the Abrahamic God evil than anything else.
You responded by saying he has a lack of understanding, and began bringing up all sorts of other beliefs like hells that supposedly aren't that unpleasant, or temporary hells, which is a complete straw man of his original post.
Not at all. It shows that he has a lack of understanding. The fact that he would hold such a narrow view shows that he has a lack of understanding. Because really, the view he is putting forth is not necessarily the most predominant view of hell anymore. It is one that is loosing ground among various groups; especially the more liberal crowd, which is growing in the Christian community.
Focusing an argument on a flawed idea does not make for a great argument. That is what the OP did. He assumed that if hell exists, it has to be one of fire and brimstone. And thus God must be evil. Instead, he should have questioned whether or not that narrow view is the correct one.
It's as though someone has criticized the color yellow, and you've responded by saying they don't understand, and then began talking about green and blue.
Not a very good analogy. It would be more like someone looking at a color tv and saying it all looks black and white to them. Then me responding and detailing the color of the set.
If you don't believe in hell and conclude that God is loving, that's not a contradiction. Why even mention it?
It seems I left some information out. I was referring to the idea that I can still see God as loving even if I take that narrow view of hell.
The conclusions are based on logic.
Flawed logic.
Allowing or causing eternal suffering is, by definition, a lack of benevolence and love. You haven't addressed that at all. It's not a preconceived idea; it's what the words mean.
No it's not. Maybe a lack of benevolence, but that is besides the point. We are talking about loving. One does not have to be benevolent to be loving. The two do not rely on each other.
God can love everyone, yet if God seeks equal justice, that could mean people being punished. Perhaps that punishment is torturing, yet that doesn't mean God doesn't love that person. In fact, as far as we know, that could weigh very heavily on God, and he could be tormented by the fact that is what he ends up finding to be justice.
Your definition of love is not fitting here. Many parents have to punish their kids in ways that they believe is torture. Does that mean they don't love them? Some parents have to send their kids to prison, which can be like hell on Earth, does that mean they don't love them? No.
Benevolence means wishing to do good to others. Love means to have affection for and the concern for others. Empathy means the ability to identify with the feelings of others. Compassion means the feeling of sorrow or sympathy for another, and the desire to alleviate suffering. To cause or allow suffering is to do the opposite of good for them, unless it improves them in some way. Eternal suffering cannot improve anyone, and is not desirable.
We are talking about love. So your other definitions really don't factor in. More so, you can't say that eternal suffering cannot improve anyone, and is not desirable. You are assuming that. For all we know, it could greatly improve some people. Maybe it would make them understand the pain that they caused others and thus become better people. You really can't say so.
More so, God can send people to hell and still have affection and concern for those people. For all you know, it could be very difficult for God to issue that punishment.
Therefore, to cause or allow eternal suffering is not benevolent, loving, empathetic, or compassionate. To believe in and condone eternal suffering is not benevolent, loving, empathetic, or compassionate.
We are talking about loving. And really, your logic here is flawed. You are using the assumption that everyone who is loving must be all those other qualities. That they could do nothing that would harm or allow suffering. That simply is not true.
You are using narrow view of God, hell, and the nature of both. That simply doesn't work. And really, in order to battle an ignorant view, such as the idea of hell being an eternal place of fire and brimstone, it doesn't work to attack it with other ignorant views, that hell is a place of fire and brimstone and thus God must be evil. It will get nowhere. That is a place where the OP is flawed greatly.