None of this is about religion. It's about theology.
Religions are just collections of intellectual tools that their adherents can use to help them live their lives according to a chosen theological worldview. Once we choose our position regarding the question of "God", we can choose the religious tools that we think will best help us live according to that God-ideal.
That's it. That's religion. That's what religion is, and what religion is for. Religions don't determine what people believe about God, people do. And once they have made that determination, they choose the religion that enables their determination, best. And they also choose the degree to which they engage in the various religious "tools" that religion offers them.
If you want to discuss, debate, or argue with people about religion, that's fine. But religion is not theology, and atheism isn't about religion. It's an aspect of theology. So if you are an atheist, please stop trying to defend your atheism using your objections to religion. It's like blaming science for the misapplication of technology. How we apply or misapply technology is not the fault of science. They are different human endeavors involving different rules and standards.