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The reasons I am celibate

I'll probably regret posting this in the morning, but for right now, I feel like getting this off my chest. In no particular order other than what comes to mind:

1. Sex is gross. Seriously. Naked people, sweating, swapping bodily fluids, swapping spit, their bodies slapping together. Just, ick. Why?

2. Sex is pointless. It's a lot of effort and BS for a few muscle contractions for orgasm. Men or women. It's a cost-benefit thing, and the cost WAY outweighs the benefit.

3. I hate children. I hated them even when I was one. Sex in my mind is only useful if two people are trying to have children, and thankfully I am infertile so there is 0% reason for me to engage in sex.

4. Time. The time both men and women spend on trying to get laid is just mind boggling. Why? What are you getting besides a pat to your ego? Why not focus that time into a hobby or learning a new skill? Wow.

5. Lies. Both men and women lie like crazy about their sexual histories. Men lie and say they have more experience than they really do (average for a 40 year old man is 8 partners), and women lie about how many men they've had sex with (average for women is 18 men, and at least 50% are with two or more at the same time). Why all the lies. You both suck at sex, and you both lie. Come clean. If you can't own your past, why live in the now?

6. Spirituality. This one is purely my own opinion, but I don't think spirituality and sexuality can live in the same house. I'd much rather be close to God than I would to get my wiener touched by some woman ever again.

7. Misogyny. I'll admit it - I hate women. I always have. I learned to hate women when I was young and I saw what a POS woman my mother was and how she was a man-hating *****. I don't trust women. I am suspect of women. Women are catty. Women are shallow. I don't like women. Unfortunately, I have to deal with them on occasion, so I try to remain polite and cordial, but I am NEVER friendly to a woman. My major professor in grad school is a woman, so I am polite to her, but I keep her at an arm's distance.

There are more, but it's hard to type as drunk as I am and I want to go downstairs to mix another drink. Toodles.
 
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Terese

Mangalam Pundarikakshah
Staff member
Premium Member
Forewarning: I'm drunk tonight, so my honesty filter is disabled. I'll probably regret posting this in the morning, but for right now, I feel like getting this off my chest. In no particular order other than what comes to mind:

1. Sex is gross. Seriously. Naked people, sweating, swapping bodily fluids, swapping spit, their bodies slapping together. Just, ick. Why?

2. Sex is pointless. It's a lot of effort and BS for a few muscle contractions for orgasm. Men or women. It's a cost-benefit thing, and the cost WAY outweighs the benefit.

3. I hate children. I hated them even when I was one. Sex in my mind is only useful if two people are trying to have children, and thankfully I am infertile so there is 0% reason for me to engage in sex.

4. Time. The time both men and women spend on trying to get laid is just mind boggling. Why? What are you getting besides a pat to your ego? Why not focus that time into a hobby or learning a new skill? Wow.

5. Lies. Both men and women lie like crazy about their sexual histories. Men lie and say they have more experience than they really do (average for a 40 year old man is 8 partners), and women lie about how many men they've had sex with (average for women is 18 men, and at least 50% are with two or more at the same time). Why all the lies. You both suck at sex, and you both lie. Come clean. If you can't own your past, why live in the now?

6. Spirituality. This one is purely my own opinion, but I don't think spirituality and sexuality can live in the same house. I'd much rather be close to God than I would to get my wiener touched by some woman ever again.

7. Misogyny. I'll admit it - I hate women. I always have. I learned to hate women when I was young and I saw what a POS woman my mother was and how she was a man-hating b*tch. I don't trust women. I am suspect of women. Women are catty. Women are shallow. I don't like women. Unfortunately, I have to deal with them on occasion, so I try to remain polite and cordial, but I am NEVER friendly to a woman. My major professor in grad school is a woman, so I am polite to her, but I keep her at an arm's distance.

There are more, but it's hard to type as drunk as I am and I want to go downstairs to mix another drink. Toodles.
Woah God Damn at number 7. I'm sorry you feel that way, feeling hatred every time you see a woman. Is it exhausting? I'm not being sarcastic.
 
Woah God Damn at number 7. I'm sorry you feel that way, feeling hatred every time you see a woman. Is it exhausting? I'm not being sarcastic.

No. If you do something long enough, it becomes second-nature. I don't have to expend energy to hate women. It's just natural to me now.
 

George-ananda

Advaita Vedanta, Theosophy, Spiritualism
Premium Member
6. Spirituality. This one is purely my own opinion, but I don't think spirituality and sexuality can live in the same house. I'd much rather be close to God
I'll give you half a point for that one. Indulging the senses becomes addictive and consuming and not conducive to a spiritual life detached from the addictive lower physical drives.
 

Riverwolf

Amateur Rambler / Proud Ergi
Premium Member
Forewarning: I'm drunk tonight, so my honesty filter is disabled.

Noted, and accounted for. :D

1. Sex is gross. Seriously. Naked people, sweating, swapping bodily fluids, swapping spit, their bodies slapping together. Just, ick. Why?

2. Sex is pointless. It's a lot of effort and BS for a few muscle contractions for orgasm. Men or women. It's a cost-benefit thing, and the cost WAY outweighs the benefit.

Sounds like you might be a sex-repulsed asexual.
 

Riverwolf

Amateur Rambler / Proud Ergi
Premium Member
Yeah, that tracks. I've been a member of AVEN for a couple years, and I've figured I am pretty much as asexual as the day is long.

Sounds like it. Your description of sex is not unlike that of a friend of mine, also sex-repulsed asexual.

(He once described ejaculation as "p***ing white.")

Also... "that tracks"? I've never heard that idiom before.
 

Deathbydefault

Apistevist Asexual Atheist
I see you as an asexual, so correct me if I am wrong on that.
1. Sex is gross. Seriously. Naked people, sweating, swapping bodily fluids, swapping spit, their bodies slapping together. Just, ick. Why?

Agreed. I find sexual actions rather strange and depleting.
Kissing is as far as I can bring myself to go, and only ever with one girl.

3. I hate children. I hated them even when I was one. Sex in my mind is only useful if two people are trying to have children, and thankfully I am infertile so there is 0% reason for me to engage in sex.

I hate people in general, but get along okay with children (mainly my youngest sister.)
They are entertaining small people between their toddler and teenage stages, otherwise I agree.

7. Misogyny. I'll admit it - I hate women. I always have. I learned to hate women when I was young and I saw what a POS woman my mother was and how she was a man-hating b*tch. I don't trust women. I am suspect of women. Women are catty. Women are shallow. I don't like women. Unfortunately, I have to deal with them on occasion, so I try to remain polite and cordial, but I am NEVER friendly to a woman. My major professor in grad school is a woman, so I am polite to her, but I keep her at an arm's distance.

I find that I am the opposite depending on the situation.
Perhaps it's something I've developed in my middle and high school years, when they helped me get out of being bullied.
Of course not all women are great, and there are only two I know of that don't repulse me on sight (and one male).
That's just me, I normally dislike people for being people and not necessarily for their gender.
 

Thana

Lady
Forewarning: I'm drunk tonight, so my honesty filter is disabled. I'll probably regret posting this in the morning, but for right now, I feel like getting this off my chest. In no particular order other than what comes to mind:

1. Sex is gross. Seriously. Naked people, sweating, swapping bodily fluids, swapping spit, their bodies slapping together. Just, ick. Why?

2. Sex is pointless. It's a lot of effort and BS for a few muscle contractions for orgasm. Men or women. It's a cost-benefit thing, and the cost WAY outweighs the benefit.

3. I hate children. I hated them even when I was one. Sex in my mind is only useful if two people are trying to have children, and thankfully I am infertile so there is 0% reason for me to engage in sex.

4. Time. The time both men and women spend on trying to get laid is just mind boggling. Why? What are you getting besides a pat to your ego? Why not focus that time into a hobby or learning a new skill? Wow.

5. Lies. Both men and women lie like crazy about their sexual histories. Men lie and say they have more experience than they really do (average for a 40 year old man is 8 partners), and women lie about how many men they've had sex with (average for women is 18 men, and at least 50% are with two or more at the same time). Why all the lies. You both suck at sex, and you both lie. Come clean. If you can't own your past, why live in the now?

6. Spirituality. This one is purely my own opinion, but I don't think spirituality and sexuality can live in the same house. I'd much rather be close to God than I would to get my wiener touched by some woman ever again.

7. Misogyny. I'll admit it - I hate women. I always have. I learned to hate women when I was young and I saw what a POS woman my mother was and how she was a man-hating b*tch. I don't trust women. I am suspect of women. Women are catty. Women are shallow. I don't like women. Unfortunately, I have to deal with them on occasion, so I try to remain polite and cordial, but I am NEVER friendly to a woman. My major professor in grad school is a woman, so I am polite to her, but I keep her at an arm's distance.

There are more, but it's hard to type as drunk as I am and I want to go downstairs to mix another drink. Toodles.

I've never really understood things like misogyny and misandry. We're all individuals, And I'm not sure if gender effects one's personality to any significant degree. I think it's partly irrational and partly fear, but I digress.

But yeah, sex is kind of a bother to me. As in, I don't want to bother with it. Been there, done that and got the postcard.
Honestly I'm kind of hoping my next parter will be asexual, Although maybe not since in my experience as people they're much more high maintenance.
 

SpeaksForTheTrees

Well-Known Member
Forewarning: I'm drunk tonight, so my honesty filter is disabled. I'll probably regret posting this in the morning, but for right now, I feel like getting this off my chest. In no particular order other than what comes to mind:

1. Sex is gross. Seriously. Naked people, sweating, swapping bodily fluids, swapping spit, their bodies slapping together. Just, ick. Why?

2. Sex is pointless. It's a lot of effort and BS for a few muscle contractions for orgasm. Men or women. It's a cost-benefit thing, and the cost WAY outweighs the benefit.

3. I hate children. I hated them even when I was one. Sex in my mind is only useful if two people are trying to have children, and thankfully I am infertile so there is 0% reason for me to engage in sex.

4. Time. The time both men and women spend on trying to get laid is just mind boggling. Why? What are you getting besides a pat to your ego? Why not focus that time into a hobby or learning a new skill? Wow.

5. Lies. Both men and women lie like crazy about their sexual histories. Men lie and say they have more experience than they really do (average for a 40 year old man is 8 partners), and women lie about how many men they've had sex with (average for women is 18 men, and at least 50% are with two or more at the same time). Why all the lies. You both suck at sex, and you both lie. Come clean. If you can't own your past, why live in the now?

6. Spirituality. This one is purely my own opinion, but I don't think spirituality and sexuality can live in the same house. I'd much rather be close to God than I would to get my wiener touched by some woman ever again.

7. Misogyny. I'll admit it - I hate women. I always have. I learned to hate women when I was young and I saw what a POS woman my mother was and how she was a man-hating b*tch. I don't trust women. I am suspect of women. Women are catty. Women are shallow. I don't like women. Unfortunately, I have to deal with them on occasion, so I try to remain polite and cordial, but I am NEVER friendly to a woman. My major professor in grad school is a woman, so I am polite to her, but I keep her at an arm's distance.

There are more, but it's hard to type as drunk as I am and I want to go downstairs to mix another drink. Toodles.
Get help with the drink , alcohol is not a stimuli is a depressant .
Reason is a perpetual circle of misery , with alcohol it twists your ability to reason without you even being aware.
Alcohol is as bad as herion once dependant imho
 

Sunstone

De Diablo Del Fora
Premium Member
Digital Monk, I've been celibate for more than twenty years, but I seem to have very different, and very much simpler, reasons for being celibate than any of the reasons given in your OP. With me, it boils down to just one thing: I've felt like being celibate.

That is, I don't reject sex, I don't hate women, I don't think sex is incompatible with spirituality, I didn't take any vows to be celibate. Instead, I've just felt a need to be celibate.


Forewarning: I'm drunk tonight, so my honesty filter is disabled.

May I assume your accuracy filter is not disabled?

Spirituality. This one is purely my own opinion, but I don't think spirituality and sexuality can live in the same house. I'd much rather be close to God than I would to get my wiener touched by some woman ever again.

We probably have very different notions of what spirituality entails, but in my view, any person who needs to distance themselves from sex, or women, or men, or beauty for the sake of their spirituality is denying life. That's their choice to make, but they shouldn't delude themselves into thinking that they have any special insight into the spirituality of their stronger brothers and sisters who are competent to deal with sex, women, etc. For instance, they shouldn't assume sex and spirituality are incompatible for everyone just because sex and spirituality "can't live in the same house" with them.
 
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