Treated Badly at Work?

[Treks]

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Community Service Announcement
Do not trust your colleagues/managers/etc. They are your coworkers, not your friends. Do your job to the best of your ability, but stay detached from your workplace and the people in it. Your loyalty will not be rewarded, you are expendable, they will stab you in the back and/or hang you out to dry. Stay loyal to your real friends instead, your family, and the people in your actual life. Work is not your life - don't make that mistake.
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Have you been burned at work? If your anonymity is assured, and you name no names, please, do share your wisdom here.

 

[Lyndon]

I run my own business fixing violins, and I must admit, the boss is sometimes less than competent, highly opinionated, prone to fly off the handle, swears a lot, not very productive at all, and spends much more time on the computa than actually working.

 

[Terrywoodenpic]

it would be strange indeed if everyone in the workplace share exactly the same agenda.
I am retired and only have myself to consider on a day to day basis.

But both in personal life and at work, always do what you say you will do, on time and to the best of your ability. This is what people pay for, be it a boss or a customer.
Mostly people are not sufficiently interested in you to do you down, or see you other than as an asset to be used.
Loyalty has some value both ways, but rarely an overriding one.
It is simply a way of extending a personal value a short way in to the future.
The expectations of loyalty, are a balance of future paid employment, against expectations of future work to be done.

When there is no work, or prospect of work, do not expect loyalty to have much value.

 

[Revoltingest]

I run my own business fixing violins, and I must admit, the boss is sometimes less than competent, highly opinionated, prone to fly off the handle, swears a lot, not very productive at all, and spends much more time on the computa than actually working.

Do you work for me.....Bob, is that you?

Anyway, I've always found that work is life.
I've always been treated well when I was an employee or contractor.
But I'll wager that some of the people I've fired harbor ill feelings.
Some people just don't accept responsibility for their improper actions having major consequences.
A word to the wise......
Don't steal, threaten violence, or subvert the business's goals.

 

[lewisnotmiller]

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Community Service Announcement
Do not trust your colleagues/managers/etc. They are your coworkers, not your friends. Do your job to the best of your ability, but stay detached from your workplace and the people in it. Your loyalty will not be rewarded, you are expendable, they will stab you in the back and/or hang you out to dry. Stay loyal to your real friends instead, your family, and the people in your actual life. Work is not your life - don't make that mistake.
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Have you been burned at work? If your anonymity is assured, and you name no names, please, do share your wisdom here.

Awwww....

 

[BSM1]

I run my own business fixing violins, and I must admit, the boss is sometimes less than competent, highly opinionated, prone to fly off the handle, swears a lot, not very productive at all, and spends much more time on the computa than actually working.

And if you're lucky you might get to hook up with his wife/girl friend.

 

[Akivah]

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Community Service Announcement
Do not trust your colleagues/managers/etc. They are your coworkers, not your friends. Do your job to the best of your ability, but stay detached from your workplace and the people in it. Your loyalty will not be rewarded, you are expendable, they will stab you in the back and/or hang you out to dry. Stay loyal to your real friends instead, your family, and the people in your actual life. Work is not your life - don't make that mistake.

You can be friends with people at work. However, a business is not an entity that survives solely by nurturing personal relationships. A business ultimately survives by making a profit. If a person isn't functioning correctly in a business, then a business has the right to terminate the relationship.

 

[Quintessence]

Reasons why I like the fact that I work in the public sector, not the private sector...

 

[Shadow Wolf]

I've had problems with people at work, sure, but I also met my best friend at work and her family has been more of a family to me than my own family.

 

[Nietzsche]

Work is not your life - don't make that mistake.

But..but killing is my business, and business is good!

 

[Koldo]

Reasons why I like the fact that I work in the public sector, not the private sector...

In my opinion, the public sector is even worse than the private sector in my country.

 

[Thief]

it would be strange indeed if everyone in the workplace share exactly the same agenda.
I am retired and only have myself to consider on a day to day basis.

But both in personal life and at work, always do what you say you will do, on time and to the best of your ability. This is what people pay for, be it a boss or a customer.
Mostly people are not sufficiently interested in you to do you down, or see you other than as an asset to be used.
Loyalty has some value both ways, but rarely an overriding one.
It is simply a way of extending a personal value a short way in to the future.
The expectations of loyalty, are a balance of future paid employment, against expectations of future work to be done.

When there is no work, or prospect of work, do not expect loyalty to have much value.

We a different set of problems.
I don't mind doing all that I can.....but it should not include the other guys labor.

Currently the company is short on 'change-over people'.
So they want the toolmakers to pick the work.
I wasn't hired for that.

So the lying bunch of rats are twisting the language of the contract.

They will burn in hell.
So I believe.

 

[Thief]

and then there's the article I read about millionaires who lost it all...but had the savvy to do it over.

One guy was fine with friends and family on the payroll....until.....orders increased.
Then he had to hire 'strangers'.

His friends and family sat down for coffee.
He had to hire more 'strangers'.

Still unable to keep up with demand.....sales fell off.
Then came the layoffs.
Then the bottom fell out.

When he succeeded with a new start up......no friends....no family.

 

[Terrywoodenpic]

We a different set of problems.
I don't mind doing all that I can.....but it should not include the other guys labor.

Currently the company is short on 'change-over people'.
So they want the toolmakers to pick the work.
I wasn't hired for that.

So the lying bunch of rats are twisting the language of the contract.

They will burn in hell.
So I believe.

Most contracts I have known have said you can be asked to do any Job that is required to be done.
At one reorganisation that meant me doing most of the work of two other managers as well as my own.
As it turned out the Managing director was absolutely right in reorganising the structure, It actually made my Job easier to organise,. The other two had been just getting in the way.

 

[Jainarayan]

They are your coworkers, not your friends. Do your job to the best of your ability, but stay detached from your workplace and the people in it.

My feelings and policy exactly. I do not socialize with anyone, at or outside of work. When there are luncheons, family day, the year end party or other events, I do not attend.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

But..but killing is my business, and business is good!

That deserves a million frubals!

 

[bobhikes]

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Community Service Announcement
Do not trust your colleagues/managers/etc. They are your coworkers, not your friends. Do your job to the best of your ability, but stay detached from your workplace and the people in it. Your loyalty will not be rewarded, you are expendable, they will stab you in the back and/or hang you out to dry. Stay loyal to your real friends instead, your family, and the people in your actual life. Work is not your life - don't make that mistake.
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Have you been burned at work? If your anonymity is assured, and you name no names, please, do share your wisdom here.

I would add don't put yourself at risk for another employee's problem. Encourage them to take care of it themselves and back them up if necessary. It took me a few times to learn this lesson. Taking the lead to try and help a coworker and then they back down or worse insist they never had a problem and I did this on my own.

Just recently a minor event. An employee was complaining and complaining how unfair it was he was getting so much overtime. So I arranged with a friend to take some of his overtime. He suddenly didn't want to give the overtime up. I was ready, I gave up mine. This one was easy because I would rather not work overtime but I was majorly effected with past betrayals.

 

[Musty]

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Community Service Announcement
Do not trust your colleagues/managers/etc. They are your coworkers, not your friends. Do your job to the best of your ability, but stay detached from your workplace and the people in it. Your loyalty will not be rewarded, you are expendable, they will stab you in the back and/or hang you out to dry. Stay loyal to your real friends instead, your family, and the people in your actual life. Work is not your life - don't make that mistake.
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Have you been burned at work? If your anonymity is assured, and you name no names, please, do share your wisdom here.

I've had difficulties at work with certain people but since I've been doing my Buddhist practice and look inwards for peace of mind rather than trying to find it in external things that are beyond my control I've been much more content. I've learned over the years that ultimately the needs of the business come first but as long as I'm not being taken advantage of and my manager doesn't make unreasonable demands on me I'm relatively content. I find being mindful throughout the day helps me become aware of when I'm becoming stress and I can relax the body and prevent it escalating.

 

[dust1n]

Oh, jeez, don't get me started...

 

[Revoltingest]

I've had difficulties at work with certain people but since I've been doing my Buddhist practice and look inwards for peace of mind rather than trying to find it in external things that are beyond my control I've been much more content. I've learned over the years that ultimately the needs of the business come first but as long as I'm not being taken advantage of and my manager doesn't make unreasonable demands on me I'm relatively content. I find being mindful throughout the day helps me become aware of when I'm becoming stress and I can relax the body and prevent it escalating.

It also helps to try taking some responsibility for things nominally beyond one's control.
One often has more power to change things & prevent strife than one might initially think.
Tis a shame it took me so long to learn that. But it sure worked for me.