True Love does it exsist ?

[Absolute Zero]

Does the concept of True Love exsist ? Is it okay to wait a life time for that special someone to come into our life with only eyes for you ? If so how do you recagonize this and not losse what you have been searching for ? Am I stupid for still beliving in a concept most in this day in age fine outdated ?

 

[Shuddhasattva]

no. no. don't p*ss your life away. no.

 

[Absolute Zero]

Any scientfic backing or real life example Shuddhasattva ?

 

[Shuddhasattva]

you're asking me to prove a negative. any scientific backing that "true love" exists outside of fools dreams?

 

[Madhuri]

Firstly, can the OP define 'true love'?

 

[Absolute Zero]

Firstly, can the OP define 'true love'?

Yes.Yes he can. By defintion will mine anyway True Love is the feeling of giving your all to a person IE heart,brain and synapes fire to bear it all towards our love one and...Rofl.JK

Seriously though True Love is in my opinion having a feeling when you see someone that you will sacrfice your outmost atomic structure,soul exstince/being for that person. Along with being in synic in the sence that you care for each others company and wish to cheerish every moment you have together,fearing and knowing not when your lifes will meet there end. This is my defintion of true love since to my knowledge it has never been define by science ever as of having actual substance etc.

 

[Alex_G]

Does the concept of True Love exsist ? Is it okay to wait a life time for that special someone to come into our life with only eyes for you ? If so how do you recagonize this and not losse what you have been searching for ? Am I stupid for still beliving in a concept most in this day in age fine outdated ?

I dont think that there is simply just 1 person out there for you. I mean if that was the case, it’s a miracle these people find themselves. Quite the coincidence that a person’s true love often lives nearby, or goes to the same work or has a friend overlap.

But saying that, the value in the love that people experience need not be diminished by statistics. Its always struck me as odd that its often implied that in order for love to be 'true' or 'real' it needs to also be a staggering statistical rarity. ‘Looking for your soul mate’, ‘it was meant to be’, ‘one true love’ etc, all loaded language that focuses on the rarity of the phenomenon. The truth is, love isnt that rare, and theres a lot of people you could fall in love with depending on time, place and circumstance. But just because that’s so, doesn’t suddenly make it 'not true love' when it happens.

 

[Lady B]

Your a romantic indeed. Let me tell you what true love really is....
I drive a lot, and travel a lot and I am one of those princess women who have no clue what makes a car go other then a gas card and oil change. So one day I looked out my window at my little car and noticed it had a flat tire. I got busy and forgot to ask my husband to fix it and the next day Got in the car for a road trip. I arrived safely at my destination and then remembered that tire, I went to look at it and it was a brand new tire! I called my husband to thank him and he said, awe shucks woman,you would kill yourself If I didn't check your car before each trip!
That is love, to care so much for the safety of your partner and not need to be asked or even thanked. Lust goes dim, fires smolder, But love abides and becomes that which really matters

 

[Kerr]

True love? I dont know. But I know people who have been together for many decades and who wont leave each other. That may or may not be true love, but if not its pretty close.

 

[atanu]

I dont think that there is simply just 1 person out there for you. I mean if that was the case, it’s a miracle these people find themselves. Quite the coincidence that a person’s true love often lives nearby, or goes to the same work or has a friend overlap.

But saying that, the value in the love that people experience need not be diminished by statistics. Its always struck me as odd that its often implied that in order for love to be 'true' or 'real' it needs to also be a staggering statistical rarity. ‘Looking for your soul mate’, ‘it was meant to be’, ‘one true love’ etc, all loaded language that focuses on the rarity of the phenomenon. The truth is, love isnt that rare, and theres a lot of people you could fall in love with depending on time, place and circumstance. But just because that’s so, doesn’t suddenly make it 'not true love' when it happens.

The way we take birth in a particular family/environment, there may be a destined (?) partner?

 

[atanu]

Yes.Yes he can. By defintion will mine anyway True Love is the feeling of giving your all to a person IE heart,brain and synapes fire to bear it all towards our love one and...Rofl.JK

Seriously though True Love is in my opinion having a feeling when you see someone that you will sacrfice your outmost atomic structure,soul exstince/being for that person. Along with being in synic in the sence that you care for each others company and wish to cheerish every moment you have together,fearing and knowing not when your lifes will meet there end. This is my defintion of true love since to my knowledge it has never been define by science ever as of having actual substance etc.

You are sure that this kind of altruism is not driven by lust? Usually when you want to get close these feelings arise. When the same person becomes fat, the feeling may change. If there is this kind of love then why it should be for one person? what is the reason?

 

[rusra02]

Does the concept of True Love exsist ? Is it okay to wait a life time for that special someone to come into our life with only eyes for you ? If so how do you recagonize this and not losse what you have been searching for ? Am I stupid for still beliving in a concept most in this day in age fine outdated ?

I assume you are referring to romantic love between a man and (hopefully) a woman? I think the answer is there is romantic love but we can find happiness with any number of compatible mates. Persons who lose mates to death or divorce often find another. True love in the spiritual sense has nothing to do with romance. It is selfless concern for another, and manifests itself in qualities and actions. (1 Corinthians 13:4-8) This is love based on principle, not passion.

 

[Badran]

Does the concept of True Love exsist ? Is it okay to wait a life time for that special someone to come into our life with only eyes for you ? If so how do you recagonize this and not losse what you have been searching for ? Am I stupid for still beliving in a concept most in this day in age fine outdated ?

Defined as this:

Seriously though True Love is in my opinion having a feeling when you see someone that you will sacrfice your outmost atomic structure,soul exstince/being for that person. Along with being in synic in the sence that you care for each others company and wish to cheerish every moment you have together,fearing and knowing not when your lifes will meet there end.

I think it definitely does. But also:

I dont think that there is simply just 1 person out there for you.

I think the above is true. There's no reason to assume that it's just one person who is capable of meeting this description. Adding this special sense to it, this mystical, spiritual or perhaps magical sense to it can be cool, but it's not necessarily too helpful as it might make things more difficult than they need to be.

I mean if that was the case, it’s a miracle these people find themselves. Quite the coincidence that a person’s true love often lives nearby, or goes to the same work or has a friend overlap.

That made me laugh out loud.

 

[Kilgore Trout]

True love is continuing to love someone and put in the hard work of maintaining a long-term relationship after those initial intense feelings of lust and desire fade.

 

[Gui10]

Yea sure think its possible. If you find that person.

 

[MysticSang'ha]

I don't define true love with romantic love, but with friendship.

 

[Wherenextcolumbus]

I do believe in true love, I don't believe in Hollywood/Disney true love where everything falls into place without any effort. I believe true love involves wanting to TRY and be with that person, not expecting love at first sight and no hard work. It's true love when you know that person is worth it. My partner says he is a strong believer in true love and that two people can love each other and stay happy together until they die.
I also don't think true love is outdated even if it may not be all that cool to admit you want it. I think most people want to be loved and understood by someone.

 

[Sunstone]

There are different kinds of love. So far as I can see, none are truer than the others. But I suspect what people mean by "true love" is that, perhaps among other things, it lasts longer than some other kinds of love. I wouldn't say, though, that one love was truer than another simply because it lasted longer. Of more importance than duration, might be the quality of a love -- whether it inspires us to affirm life, for instance.

 

[Desert Snake]

Not really.

 

[Penumbra]

I think it's pretty clear that there are relationships that consist of a very healthy, deep, lifelong love.

I also think it's clear that there are shorter relationships that consist of love that is both healthy and deep.

Biology provides a sort of 'buzz' that can create attraction between people, but to maintain it for longer than that requires some work and sacrifice.

I certainly do not believe that there is like, a "soul mate" out there for everyone, and that each person has one person that they can be happiest with. With billions of individuals on this planet, I think there are thousands or millions of optimal partners for any given person, and they can hopefully find at least one good match.