Turned Down Empathetically

[The Sum of Awe]

I have a few classmates that flirt with me; in fact one of them were dating a friend of mine at the time she asked me if I wanted to make the Move.

In the past, I would've said yes. But lately I really don't want to.

How can I reply to this without hurting her feelings?

Her: Do you think I'm beautiful

Me: Yes! I think everyone is

Her: Ok, but do you think i'm more beautiful than a lot of other people?


Damn I'd feel bad saying no, but I really don't want to caught up in anything by saying yes.

 

[Valjean]

Tell them you'll go out with them as soon as the herpes clears up.

 

[columbus]

I have a few classmates that flirt with me; in fact one of them were dating a friend of mine at the time she asked me if I wanted to make the Move.

In the past, I would've said yes. But lately I really don't want to.

How can I reply to this without hurting her feelings?

Her: Do you think I'm beautiful

Me: Yes! I think everyone is

Her: Ok, but do you think i'm more beautiful than a lot of other people?


Damn I'd feel bad saying no, but I really don't want to caught up in anything by saying yes.

Dayum.
You hot studs who have to beat the women off with tasers.



Tom

 

[The Sum of Awe]

Dayum.
You hot studs who have to beat the women off with tasers.



Tom

Heh, if only

I personally think these are acts of desperation, no evidence to support it though. Also, I generally only get horny, not really interested in commitments; even if I were, a slight social phobia would probably prevent me. I have been in relationships before, but it always turned out that after it was committed I felt it was more fragile and kept quiet as a means not to mess up.

 

[CynthiaCypher]

Tell her you have a boyfriend.

 

[columbus]

Tell her you have a boyfriend.

Sum of Awe, please don't think we are making fun of you behind your back.


We aren't.

Tom

 

[The Sum of Awe]

Tell her you have a boyfriend.

I was considering something similar actually; telling her that I'm gay, but that's just not the kind of thing to lie about, you'll never know when the lie will expire.

 

[zenzero]

Friend The Sum Of Awe,

Turned Down Empathetically

Lol, there are two options. One is fall in the trap and set your boundaries or like myself remain a bachelor and be free in life!

Love & rgds

 

[CynthiaCypher]

I was considering something similar actually; telling her that I'm gay, but that's just not the kind of thing to lie about, you'll never know when the lie will expire.

How about just criticizing her hair, clothes and makeup and then telling how fabulous Sarah Jessica Parker looks.

 

[zenzero]

Friend The Sum Of Awe,

How about just criticizing her hair, clothes and makeup and then telling how fabulous Sarah Jessica Parker looks.

maybe add how Cynthia Cypher's avatar on RF looks, mystically hidden in red except the well painted lips in red too......
Finally its surrender of freedom to degrees which time will reveal.

Love & rgds

 

[Gehennaite]

Her: Do you think I'm beautiful?

Me: Yes! I think everyone is.

If your intention was to turn her down, you should not have responded with an affirmative yes! You basically told her she was beautiful indirectly. She was fishing for compliments and now you are trapped within the icy grips of her woman logic.

My response would have been: Who am I to judge?

Always respond to questions with questions, especially in situations where interest is not mutual. This is the perspective of a man with absolutely zero interest in either platonic or romantic friendships with anyone bearing XX chromosomes. Good luck.

 

[Gjallarhorn]

I was considering something similar actually; telling her that I'm gay, but that's just not the kind of thing to lie about, you'll never know when the lie will expire.

How long have we been secret lovers?

Too long, I think. :flirt:

 

[The Sum of Awe]

How long have we been secret lovers?

Too long, I think. :flirt:

It's not a secret. It's just a whisper... a whisper that others are free to hear!

-dramatic piano dubstep begins to play-

 

[The Sum of Awe]

If your intention was to turn her down, you should not have responded with an affirmative yes! You basically told her she was beautiful indirectly. She was fishing for compliments and now you are trapped within the icy grips of her woman logic.

My response would have been: Who am I to judge?

Always respond to questions with questions, especially in situations where interest is not mutual. This is the perspective of a man with absolutely zero interest in either platonic or romantic friendships with anyone bearing XX chromosomes. Good luck.

Just a guilt feeling I can't get rid of I guess. Socializing has become really fragile to me ever since I started to think back to some past conversations that really made me a d-bag but didn't know it :cover:

Besides, if someone likes me in any way, I feel obligated to like them in similar manners.


Update though: It went well. I ended up making a reply that didn't exactly make sense, and she asked me for a hug today at school, and gave her one, I don't mind whatever makes people happy.