We don't wish to have funerals we we die

[JJ50]

My husband and I do not want funerals, our bodies are to be taken straight to the crematorium when we are dead, after any useful bits have been removed. We are not in the least bit sentimental about dead bodies, which we regard as waste products, if they can be put to good use after death we are all for it. Our family will abide by our wishes. I would be happy if they wanted to have a party to celebrate my death. I have attended very few funerals in my 69 years, not even my mother's , and don't wish to attend anymore, as I don't see the point. I prefer to remember how a person was in life, not in death.

Some elderly relatives of mine died last year, even though they were religious I heard their bodies were taken straight to the crem.

What do other posters think about having a funeral?

 

[A Vestigial Mote]

I feel that the land taken up by graveyards is a waste, even though they are interesting places. Besides... all we're doing by putting a body in a box is making it harder for the rest of nature to do the job of breaking the body down and recycling it into the materials of the Earth. The ultimate dissolution of the body after death is inevitable, so why even try to preserve it? Would anyone advocate their loved ones' bodies being dunked in giant vessels of formaldehyde? If preservation is the goal, then why not, right?

I suppose I have nothing against funerals. I honestly don't care if there is one for myself or not. I understand that there will be no "me" to care one way or the other what happens after my death. People can react as they see fit. but I do desire that I be cremated. Just to avoid being a part of the waste of space, of course.

 

[Altfish]

My husband and I do not want funerals, our bodies are to be taken straight to the crematorium when we are dead, after any useful bits have been removed. We are not in the least bit sentimental about dead bodies, which we regard as waste products, if they can be put to good use after death we are all for it. Our family will abide by our wishes. I would be happy if they wanted to have a party to celebrate my death. I have attended very few funerals in my 69 years, not even my mother's , and don't wish to attend anymore, as I don't see the point. I prefer to remember how a person was in life, not in death.

Some elderly relatives of mine died last year, even though they were religious I heard their bodies were taken straight to the crem.

What do other posters think about having a funeral?

I think it is more about friends and family wanting to show respects and say goodbye, I can't say I'm looking forward to my funeral.

 

[Daemon Sophic]

My husband and I do not want funerals, our bodies are to be taken straight to the crematorium when we are dead, after any useful bits have been removed. We are not in the least bit sentimental about dead bodies, which we regard as waste products, if they can be put to good use after death we are all for it. Our family will abide by our wishes. I would be happy if they wanted to have a party to celebrate my death. I have attended very few funerals in my 69 years, not even my mother's , and don't wish to attend anymore, as I don't see the point. I prefer to remember how a person was in life, not in death.

Some elderly relatives of mine died last year, even though they were religious I heard their bodies were taken straight to the crem.

What do other posters think about having a funeral?

I’m with you @JJ50 , take whatever is useful and burn the rest.
It might be nice to have a little ceremony of scattering my ashes to the wind.

Frankly, in my opinion, having worked with many a funeral home operation, I see them as not much higher than used car salesmen, preying on grieving families, with a lot of overpriced glitz, most of which is junk, for no real purpose.
The whole idea of make-up, and wigs, embalming, and tailored suits etc... just so that people can come and look at a corpse smiling up from the coffin, all to the tune of $10-$20,000, is a complete waste of the family’s resources.

 

[Vinayaka]

My husband and I do not want funerals, our bodies are to be taken straight to the crematorium when we are dead, after any useful bits have been removed. We are not in the least bit sentimental about dead bodies, which we regard as waste products, if they can be put to good use after death we are all for it. Our family will abide by our wishes. I would be happy if they wanted to have a party to celebrate my death. I have attended very few funerals in my 69 years, not even my mother's , and don't wish to attend anymore, as I don't see the point. I prefer to remember how a person was in life, not in death.

Some elderly relatives of mine died last year, even though they were religious I heard their bodies were taken straight to the crem.

What do other posters think about having a funeral?

I believe the trend is going away from funerals. I've an aunt and an uncle who recently opted out. Sometimes a culture is so entrenched in its customs (habits) that people don't even realise there is an alternative. Now that it's getting out and more widely known, people are opting out. I (we) won't be having anything. Cremation, and one of the kids knows what to do with the ashes. It's so much simpler.

 

[Mindmaster]

The funeral is never about you, it's about your loved ones. If you have some type of modern satellite family where half of them are in different states don't bother - such a funeral would cost them cumulatively thousands of dollars to attend. The living need that money more than you, IMHO.

 

[Erebus]

My husband and I do not want funerals, our bodies are to be taken straight to the crematorium when we are dead, after any useful bits have been removed. We are not in the least bit sentimental about dead bodies, which we regard as waste products, if they can be put to good use after death we are all for it. Our family will abide by our wishes. I would be happy if they wanted to have a party to celebrate my death. I have attended very few funerals in my 69 years, not even my mother's , and don't wish to attend anymore, as I don't see the point. I prefer to remember how a person was in life, not in death.

Some elderly relatives of mine died last year, even though they were religious I heard their bodies were taken straight to the crem.

What do other posters think about having a funeral?

I largely agree with you that many of the practices surrounding funerals are wasteful and unnecessary. I would say though that the funeral itself (as in the ritual, the coming together of family and friends, the final goodbyes and so forth) can be a positive thing. Funerals are for the living and some people need that closure. Personally, I'm not one of them but I know many people who would struggle to come to terms with their grief without that final farewell.

 

[FragrantGrace]

I feel that the land taken up by graveyards is a waste, even though they are interesting places. Besides... all we're doing by putting a body in a box is making it harder for the rest of nature to do the job of breaking the body down and recycling it into the materials of the Earth. The ultimate dissolution of the body after death is inevitable, so why even try to preserve it? Would anyone advocate their loved ones' bodies being dunked in giant vessels of formaldehyde? If preservation is the goal, then why not, right?

I suppose I have nothing against funerals. I honestly don't care if there is one for myself or not. I understand that there will be no "me" to care one way or the other what happens after my death. People can react as they see fit. but I do desire that I be cremated. Just to avoid being a part of the waste of space, of course.

One could choose to be buried in a traditional Jewish casked. It has holes drilled in the bottom so that the earth can enter in and decay the body naturally. No embalming.

I've arranged that I'll be cremated . I want to be scattered on the ocean and in the trees on a property I am quite fond of. But it really won't matter if that isn't done. Flush me for all I'll care, right?
No funeral. No wake.
I want the people that love me to be themselves and mourn as they choose. Not gather in a group feasting and talking about who I was over wine and roast beef sandwich sliders.

But there again, it won't matter if they don't follow that request either.
It isn't like I'll be able to object. "Hey you! Put down that Guinness and get out of there! Live your life! I'm dead dummy!" Right?
I'd rather people show me the love when I can enjoy and reciprocate.

 

[JJ50]

Here in the UK burial space is at a premium, cremations are more common these days. I think I am right in saying that after 70 years in a grave, a body can now be dug up and disposed of.

 

[FragrantGrace]

Here in the UK burial space is at a premium, cremations are more common these days. I think I am right in saying that after 70 years in a grave, a body can now be dug up and disposed of.

Do you know how that disposal would occur? Cremate what remains?

 

[JJ50]

Do you know how that disposal would occur? Cremate what remains?

Presumably.

 

[Sanzbir]

Cremation is dumb because it denies you your transformation into your Final Form:

 

[FragrantGrace]

Cremation is dumb because it denies you your transformation into your Final Form:

Ecclesiastes 3:19 For the fates of both men and beasts are the same: As one dies, so dies the other—they all have the same breath. Man has no advantage over the animals, since everything is futile. 20 All go to one place: All come from dust, and all return to dust.

 

[Hockeycowboy]

My husband and I do not want funerals, our bodies are to be taken straight to the crematorium when we are dead, after any useful bits have been removed. We are not in the least bit sentimental about dead bodies, which we regard as waste products, if they can be put to good use after death we are all for it. Our family will abide by our wishes. I would be happy if they wanted to have a party to celebrate my death. I have attended very few funerals in my 69 years, not even my mother's , and don't wish to attend anymore, as I don't see the point. I prefer to remember how a person was in life, not in death.

Some elderly relatives of mine died last year, even though they were religious I heard their bodies were taken straight to the crem.

What do other posters think about having a funeral?

Truthfully, I'm thinking about donating my cadaver, for science or school or whatever.

 

[Brickjectivity]

I'd probably have an empty casket service and have my name added to a register, also have a note put into the newspaper. There is no need to mark the location or store the ashes. I'm in favor of burial at sea.

 

[ChristineM]

My husband and I do not want funerals, our bodies are to be taken straight to the crematorium when we are dead, after any useful bits have been removed. We are not in the least bit sentimental about dead bodies, which we regard as waste products, if they can be put to good use after death we are all for it. Our family will abide by our wishes. I would be happy if they wanted to have a party to celebrate my death. I have attended very few funerals in my 69 years, not even my mother's , and don't wish to attend anymore, as I don't see the point. I prefer to remember how a person was in life, not in death.

Some elderly relatives of mine died last year, even though they were religious I heard their bodies were taken straight to the crem.

What do other posters think about having a funeral?

I'm with you, no ceremony needed. Have a wake for me if family and friends think it appropriate, i sure wont care.

The last wake i went to was my grandfather's. Before he died he hired a pub and put £1000 behind the bar for drinks.
No ceremony, he was cremated the week before he was interred in a niche in a wall in a graveyard (uk law insists) then everyone went to the pub.

Since then i have moved to france and been to more funerals in the last three years than the the previous 45 in the UK. People here think i am weird not wanting a funeral.

 

[Eddi]

I want a funeral

I don't know why, when I think about it it seems totally irrational

But I still want one!

Because...? I don't know. Just do.

It's not as if I'd be able to appreciate it at all, or anything...

 

[PoetPhilosopher]

I'll take a funeral if they can actually play the music I want played. But then again, no one would stay as the song "This Is What They Do To Guys Like Us In Prison" starts playing.

 

[Deeje]

Funerals are so expensive....and burial plots are like buying a block of land....what a waste of space!
In Australia to be either buried or cremated costs thousands.

Donating your body to science also makes sense when you don't need it anymore, some young surgeon will get to practice on a real body in order to save someone else's life.

When my husband died, we took his ashes and scattered them where he wanted to finish his life.
We put a small unobtrusive plaque on a rock near a river to mark his final resting place. We have a little anniversary lunch each year to remember him, and place flowers at his little marker. Its not for him....its for us. Its a time to bring family together and to include him.

 

[Trailblazer]

My husband and I do not want funerals, our bodies are to be taken straight to the crematorium when we are dead, after any useful bits have been removed. We are not in the least bit sentimental about dead bodies, which we regard as waste products, if they can be put to good use after death we are all for it. Our family will abide by our wishes. I would be happy if they wanted to have a party to celebrate my death. I have attended very few funerals in my 69 years, not even my mother's , and don't wish to attend anymore, as I don't see the point. I prefer to remember how a person was in life, not in death.

Some elderly relatives of mine died last year, even though they were religious I heard their bodies were taken straight to the crem.

What do other posters think about having a funeral?

I do not care much about having a funeral for myself and there probably won’t be anyone else who will care either. My husband will probably die before me because he is 10 years older and we have no children or any other relatives. I do not have any close friends at present, because I keep to myself, except on forums.

I do not like funerals. I cannot recall ever having been to a funeral. My dad died when I was 12 years old and I did not go to his funeral. I do not really remember why, it was all a big blur. He died quite suddenly of a heart attack and my mother was in shock, so we immediately moved from Wisconsin where we were living at that time to upstate NY where all my mother’s sisters and brothers lived. There was no talk of my father’s death.

Then my only sister died in 2004, I did not want to go to her funeral. It would have been a plane trip so I had a legitimate excuse not to attend. It was a big funeral and my brother made the arrangements and my mother was there, so she had plenty of people there and they did not need me. My sister wanted a fancy funeral and she got one.

Then in 2007, my mother died and I lived nearby, but I did not go to the funeral. I did not even go to the memorial service. I was supposed to be there but I arrived after they were over.

I do not like funerals, dead bodies and graveyards. I do not like the idea of death. I know death is not final but it still gives me the creeps. I am a Baha’i so I will not be cremated since that is against Baha’i Law. I would not want to be cremated anyhow, and I would NEVER even cremate a beloved pet. The whole idea of burning a body seems so disrespectful. It will decay on its own and that is a natural process. The whole idea of cremating a body, animal or human, just to save money or to save space seems really odd. I guess in countries where space is limited it might make more sense, but in my country there is plenty of space.

On the other hand, I would not want much money to be spent on a casket or a funeral because that seems like a waste. All I need is a pine box. No money was even spent on my wedding and I never had a wedding ring until five years later when my mother bought my husband and me matching wedding bands. But the thought of a diamond ring seems so extravagant. To each his or her own, but I would never spend my money that way. All I have is a cheap watch and a Baha’i necklace.