Trailblazer
Veteran Member
Hello, and welcome to the forum.As a member of the Baha'i Faith, I've learned that our teachings emphasize sex only within the bounds of marriage between a man and a woman. This view aligns with many other religious traditions. For example, Christianity, especially in the New Testament, condemns sex outside of marriage, labeling it fornication. However, I've noticed a disconnect between these teachings and the behaviors of many self-identified Christians on dating sites, where casual sex seems prevalent.
I'm curious about Judaism and Islam's perspectives on casual sex, as well as those of Buddhism and Hinduism. Understanding these different teachings could provide more insight into why casual sex is so normalized despite various religious doctrines. Personally, I've struggled with the pressure to engage in casual sex from men I've met online, many of whom claim to be Christians. Their lack of adherence to their faith's teachings makes it difficult for me to respect them. As a result, I've chosen to stay true to my principles, even if it means staying single.
These days sex out of wedlock is just taken for granted so I don't think it matters what one's religion teaches. I have been a Baha'i since I was 17, but even before that I would never have sex out of wedlock although that was very prevalent back when I was a teenager, with free love having just become acceptable. I was a hippie but never engaged in free love.
I got married when I was 32, and my husband was also a Baha'i, age 42, and neither one of us had ever had sex. I was married for 37 years and have been a widow for two years now. Some people wonder why I would want to marry again at my age. It would be for companionship, love, and having someone to share life with. After having someone for 37 years life feels very empty being alone, although I am not completely alone since I have eight cats!
I do not relish the thought of being alone for the rest of my life, and I am alone since I have no children or other family, and no close in-person friends. I have been on several dating sites and the main issues with men I meet are that they live too far away, I have too many cats, or I won't have sex out of wedlock. I keep thinking there has to be someone who I would be compatible with, but I am leaving that to the will of God. All I can do is make myself available, and if nobody comes along I will accept that. I don't need a man for sex or financial support since I have no desire for sex and I am financially well off. The reason I might want to marry again would be for love and to have a companion to share my life with, although a big bonus would be if he was a handyman!