love is real for every parent, as in the love you and i and many other parents would agree as a fundamental understanding of love...
our children come first
we would die for our children
we want to protect our children
we want to nurture our children
we hope in our children
Oh waitasec.......please wait a sec...You can put this down to jaded and jaundiced view and/or the reality of minority exception....but OHHHH! Would that what you describe "as a fundamental understanding of love"
BE "real for every parent" and child!!!
I work as an Art&Narrative Therapy Activities Worker with Wards of the State... victims of abuse, neglect, trauma and abandonment.
No. I'm sorry. love is not real for every parent....nor for every child.
For many, many thousands of children-
The children come last behind parental self absorbsion/clinical Narcissism- pleasure, alcaholism, drug addiction.
They would kill for a fix but not die for their children.
They want to posess, use and abuse their children.
They want to have power over and inflict pain upon their children.
They "hope" their children will never reveal the abuse to the authorities.
(And,pre emptive disclaimer, I have and do work with many poor parent addicts who do love as you describe......but also far too many who blow any "
fundamental understanding of love" notion right out of the water)
"
this is the general understanding i am speaking of."
Yes....I hear,understand and agree...and point out the 'exceptions' that break the general rule of "general understanding" of "parental love"....Just as there are exceptions to the general rule of "general understanding" of "Gods love".
And no...I am not compairing Atheists to abusive parents...only pointing out that when it comes to generally held/shared beliefs there are the excptions of those who do not hold such beliefs.
"however there is no fundamental understanding about god,"
No..I'm sorry...but you have gone from a "general understanding" of 'love' to a "fundamental understanding" re God. No "fundamental understanding" for love or God has been established, exceptions for both beliefs/faiths/experiences have been put forward. We are left with a widespread "general understanding" of 'love' and 'God', with exceptions and no proof of either propisition.
Now we loop back to the direct love/God parallel-
that is why there is an array of religions out there, throughout history...
That is why there is an array of notions of love out there, throughout history...and if parental love was a "
fundamental understanding" we would not see in the past common parental behaviours that today we identify as child abuse.
gods have come and gone because it is subjective.
Likewise notions of love.....culturally determined and purely subjective.
if you you get parents together and have them start talking about their kids, you will have a fundamental understanding of what parental love is
ONLY if you select love believing parents...if you take a random community sample you are going to come across those parents who have no idea and do not care and are willfully ignorant (evil) in regard the basic wellbeing of their children- let alone 'love'. There is no
fundamental- across the board- universal "understanding of what parental love is".....in tens of thousands of cases there is not even a "general understanding"....there is the oposite- violence, neglect, torture and abuse.
(And I tell you this with a heavy heart friend...we are not winning...it is not dissipating or decreasing....despite many a best effort, millions of dollars every day, thousands of workers, ever expanding State Care, Foster and Surrogate Family programs and the best the 'sciences' of Psychology/Counselling can provide....the problem is >increasing< in raw Statistics and in severity (forms of abuse).
There is no "
fundamental understanding of what parental love is" and the "general understanding" is decreasing)
you get believers in the same room talking about their god and you have division...no general consensus of who and what god is...
I'm sorry waitasec...but I have to laugh...not only is the same "division" clear and apparent among any randomly selected parents discussing "parental love" but it is amplified when you are in a room/Meeting with the accademics, professionals, agency Managers and experts in the meaning and provision of "parental love"!
If there is a "
fundamental understanding" of "parental love" please, please, please bring it to our next Staff Meeting of Surrogate Parent workers and professionals!
(Endless examples of parent/expert "
no general consensus of what parental love is and what good parenting is" available on request.:sad4
that still doesn't diminish the fact that a parents love is fundamental understanding among parents...
Well....you can keep repeating it...but r
epetition will not make it so...there is endless disagreement among parents and accademics/professionals engaged in childrearing as to what 'love' might mean. Hell....in Welfare Sector you are looked down upon if you even >evoke< the term 'love'...Professionals refer to- "Unconditional Non Judgemental Positive Regard"
not everyone is a parent but for those that are...there is a fundamental understanding.
Nope...there are some parents that do not even understand/care for their childs basic material needs....let alone understand/care for the emotional needs/love that you describe. It is a widespread, common and "general" understanding (just like faith)....but it is not "a fundamental understanding" nor is faith.
not everyone is religious but for those that are..."what is the undeniable fundamental understanding of god that is common among all the religions?"
Among the major living faiths The Golden Rule comes close... but again, that is not among all the religions nor throughout history.
As with love...there is no "
undeniable fundamental understanding" of God.
There is a widespread, general, diverse and evolving understanding of both subjective belief/experiences- love and God.:yes: