What if You Loved Someone...Would You Let Them Read Your Mind?

[Acim]

What if you loved someone but you loved them in a way you had no words to express: Would you let them read your mind if only just once so that they could find out exactly how you felt about them -- even though they would then be able to read the entire contents of your mind? Or would you not?

I let Spirit do it often enough, though I'm thinking that's not what you mean by 'someone.' Yet, given the type of Love, I have zero problem with the idea that there are no hidden thoughts from this Being.

From human perspective, I would let it happen. I would half expect a whole lot of judgment, but I'd see that as entirely on them. Some of that I might agree with, but I'd then be as familiar as they are with what those self-judgments may look like.

I actually think it would be a good test of Love. Though, with actual Love, I imagine such a thing would be a feeble test that is so super easy to pass it was funny to think of it as a 'test.' With the physical love, that could change tomorrow depending on mood, I think it would be an interesting test. I imagine I would fail big time, and I'd be single. Happily single.

 

[LuisDantas]

Why?

To be truly understood is a precious gift.

Of course, I am making a few assumptions there. The scenario you describe may not conform to all of them.

Let's pretend for the sake of having some fun that that just ain't so! And that there are no obstacles that would prevent a mind reader from reading both thoughts and emotions. Ok?

That is essentially making love at the subtlest level. Can it be reciprocal?

 

[Nietzsche]

What if you loved someone but you loved them in a way you had no words to express: Would you let them read your mind if only just once so that they could find out exactly how you felt about them -- even though they would then be able to read the entire contents of your mind? Or would you not?

So we're talking all memories and such, right?

Let's not.

 

[YmirGF]

What if you loved someone but you loved them in a way you had no words to express: Would you let them read your mind if only just once so that they could find out exactly how you felt about them -- even though they would then be able to read the entire contents of your mind? Or would you not?

Human animals are not quite ready for this stage of interplay, Phil, no matter what their motivations are. To do this would be akin to sticking your finger in a light socket as the average person simply would not be able assimilate the raw data, let alone interpret it.

That said, we already do this on a non-verbal level as much of interpersonal communication is body language. Obviously we can never quite tell what we are perceiving is accurate but a lot of intent is conveyed so that we often do recognize when somebody feels strongly about us. There's that weird non-verbal spark that leaps between lovers where both know there is something very interesting afoot. But "to read the entire contents of your mind?" Nope. Never gonna happen. Not should anyone want it. Again, our brains are not trained to handle that amount of data. An interesting idea, nevertheless.

 

[RRex]

Exactly how would it cause you to go mad?

If you'd ever had psychosis you'd know the answer to that question.

When there is another voice in your head you tend to spiral into despair.

 

[Saint Frankenstein]

Sure. She already knows more about me than anyone else, including dark stuff that I've never told anyone else. Dark stuff I've felt towards her, too.

 

[Twilight Hue]

Naw. No point.

"Everyone is a moon, and has a dark side which he never shows to anybody.” ― Mark Twain.

 

[jeager106]

What if you loved someone but you loved them in a way you had no words to express: Would you let them read your mind if only just once so that they could find out exactly how you felt about them -- even though they would then be able to read the entire contents of your mind? Or would you not?

NO!
I have never had any problem expressing my thoughts.
Random thoughts that run through peoples minds could easily be misinterpreted.
Like if you see a really good looking babe and you mind says " man I'd do HER in
a flash" but you know you would not.
The "reader" might get really ticked.
My mind is a dangerous neighborhood and I should never go there alone.

 

[Kent856]

Well there's positives for Yes and No. If I did allow someone I loved to read my mind, then she would have the opportunity understand me better than anyone else. It would be nice in that sense.

But on the other hand... I do think in some way the mystery of another sentient creature apart from ourselves is something that helps draw us together, trying to understand each other using our limited senses. I also agree with @jeager106 that random thoughts do run through our heads. Do our subconscious thoughts and feelings determine who we really are? Or is it only those thoughts and feelings we choose to act upon and manifest in our lives that determine who we are?

If the latter is true, (I believe so) then I would not want someone reading my mind in its current state

 

[Sw. Vandana Jyothi]

Fun thread, Sunstone, fun and perceptive replies, too, IMO!

~ No need to dispute
He said.
She thought.
They did or they didn’t.
Akasha keeps a record.
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The repository is basically a cesspool these days and I've certainly contributed my share over the years, so my answer would be 'no.' Those who can don't usually do so uninvited and lovers discover and communicate on so many levels, it almost feels like mind reading, anyway, doesn't it? The hard part, as someone else intimated, is discriminating whether the connection/transmission is real or illusion. Heh heh, nothing new there, it's just like 'life' itself!!

 

[gnomon]

What if you loved someone but you loved them in a way you had no words to express: Would you let them read your mind if only just once so that they could find out exactly how you felt about them -- even though they would then be able to read the entire contents of your mind? Or would you not?

Yes.

The favorite phrase of my girlfriend is "what are you thinking?". She asks me constantly. I have actually found it refreshing to tell her exactly that. And I ask her the same.

So here is what I believe. If you cannot share with the one you love what it is going through your mind you cannot have a healthy relationship. I hide nothing from her. I have shared with her the most depraved aspects of my humor and found her sharing with me exactly what she feels. When I falter in my drinking and she asks me I absolutely tell her.

Maybe it's because on our first date just staring at each other's eyes and feeling so confortable.......let the sap from the trees bleed out now with what I'm about to say.......I offered up verbally everything about myself that I thought would turn someone away that night and felt completely accepted.......if you actually love someone to the extent that you hide nothing......the mind is completely open as well as the heart.

There is your sugar overload for the night.

To be more specific on our first date I told her I was a relapsed alcoholic ready to quit my job and just ........ quit. I laid out every reason why someone would not be interested in me. And she simply accepted all of me. And she offered up so much of herself to me that night......

It's when two people recognize that they can offer up all of themselves, heart and mind, that you have a meeting between two shared souls. If you can't do it......then why bother other than being selfish and using the other?

I hope that I can read her mind and offer mine up to hers. All of our pain and regret. As long as we accept each other than their is nothing to fear.

That is what it means to love.

 

[Silent Screams]

Simply put, yes I would.

 

[Kilgore Trout]

What if you loved someone but you loved them in a way you had no words to express: Would you let them read your mind if only just once so that they could find out exactly how you felt about them -- even though they would then be able to read the entire contents of your mind? Or would you not?

No, I wouldn't. Apart from strong feelings of personal privacy, I think if someone absorbed the entirety of your psyche, they would see that you aren't the person they thought you were, and probably wouldn't want to be with you anymore anyway. We basically love someone, not for "who they are," but because of how they make us feel. I think much of this is based in what image of us they've built in their mind.

 

[Milton Platt]

What if you loved someone but you loved them in a way you had no words to express: Would you let them read your mind if only just once so that they could find out exactly how you felt about them -- even though they would then be able to read the entire contents of your mind? Or would you not?

Would they read my thoughts or feelings....or both????? I do not care for the thought of mind-reading. Very invasive. If I am utterly unable to express my thoughts and/or feelings to this other person myself, then I would make a very poor partner in life.