Belief can be misguided. Sometimes it must be opposed. Some (few? most?) of us are antitheists because we feel that the belief in God's existence is itself at least potentially dangerous, so we feel honor-bound to advise against it.
I understand your position though I do think it is a little patronising, in some ways. Many theists can and do question their beliefs, after all. Many of us go through a period of questioning, often for a long time, as you know.
I'm sure there are also people who think that interracial relationships are dangerous. That doesn't mean it's true, or a good position.
Of course, there are many ways of doing it, and some are indeed too disrespectful. I would like to believe they are rarely used, but you seem to know differently and I must assume you have your reasons.
Honestly, I wish I could say it was rare or it was just a ********* thing. I wish I could believe it, but I can't pull the wool over my eyes. Sadly, it is far more frequent.
Your sentiment is appreciated. It is something of value in what seems to me to be a rather miserable situation of clashing perceptions.
Ultimately, Luis, I just want to live in peace as much as possible. I don't want to force my views on others, and I don't want others to force their views on me. Hating people based on race, creed, gender, sex, etc is not conductive to this, which is why I do not consider antitheism, the opposition of theism, to be a good thing.
I consider myself an anti-theist, simply because I advise against belief in God. It seemed to be reason enough...
So what is my mistake? Am I misunderstanding or misrepresenting anti-theism? Am I being disrespectful without realizing it? Am I somehow a "wannabe", perhaps?
Personally, I don't consider you to be an antitheist in the way that I understand it. If you are an antitheist in your mind, then I must say that you are the exception to antitheists I have encountered, rather than the majority.