What Kinds of Differences in Worldview or Moral Values Would You Consider Unacceptable in a Partner?

[VoidCat]

They exist.

Key point: I don't want to marry anyone.
I may change my mind but I don't want to date or marry. I'd rather be single
I just aint attracted romantically to anyone. I used to think I was pan/biromantic but I think i was wrong. Im probably actually aromantic

Unless...can I answer your as what i want in a plationic partner instead of a romantic one? Like a QPR? From Queerplatonic

A queerplatonic relationship (or "QPR") is one which is more intense and intimate than what most people regard as a friendship, not fitting the traditional romantic couple model or the traditional bounds of friendship. It can be characterized by a strong bond, affect, and emotional commitment not regarded by those involved as something beyond a friendship. It is a so-called platonic relationship, so it does not comprehend sexuality/eroticism or romance, although some people involved in light or non-traditional romantic relationship might also categorize themselves as being queerplatonic. As a non-romantic relationship, people in a queerplatonic relationship are not restricted to have just one queerplatonic partner ("QP" or "QPP").

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In some situations the people involved can show physical affection such as cheek kisses, pecks on the lips, holding hands, sitting on each other's lap, seeing each other naked, cuddling and sleeping together (not euphemistically). To QPPs, these activities are not necessarily romantic nor sexual/erotic.

QPR despite the name aren't just for LGBT folk. Anyone can be in one...you would call a QPR partner a zucchini.

 

[PureX]

The differences wouldn’t be the problem so much as basing them on dogma would be. Turning one’s mind and heart over to some ordained authority outside oneself is unacceptable to me.

 

[Gargovic Malkav]

What kinds of differences in worldview or moral values would you consider unacceptable in a potential or future partner? For instance, if you're pro-LGBT rights, would you marry someone who was against same-sex marriage? If you're deeply religious, would you marry someone who supported anti-religious state laws (à la the USSR)? Just a couple of examples among many.

Where do your red lines lie?

Hard to tell.
My own red lines may get blurry when I fall in love with someone, emotions can make people "drunk".
And people who mean a lot to me are more likely to influence my opinion on things.
Besides that, I'm reluctant to be in a romantic relationship or even have close friends because I notice I've inherited some personality traits from my not so nice father.
I fear I'll either become a self-centered control freak, or that I'll become depressed again because I feel I have to sacrifice too much for the sake of a good relationship.

 

[Secret Chief]

What kinds of differences in worldview or moral values would you consider unacceptable in a potential or future partner? For instance, if you're pro-LGBT rights, would you marry someone who was against same-sex marriage? If you're deeply religious, would you marry someone who supported anti-religious state laws (à la the USSR)? Just a couple of examples among many.

Where do your red lines lie?

A meat eater, someone that didn't care about animal rights or a tory. Yuk.

 

[Debater Slayer]

A meat eater, someone that didn't care about animal rights or a tory. Yuk.

Do you view anyone who eats meat as "yucky"? That seems too broad of a brush, unless you were being facetious there.

 

[Mock Turtle]

What kinds of differences in worldview or moral values would you consider unacceptable in a potential or future partner? For instance, if you're pro-LGBT rights, would you marry someone who was against same-sex marriage? If you're deeply religious, would you marry someone who supported anti-religious state laws (à la the USSR)? Just a couple of examples among many.

Where do your red lines lie?

My no-nos are basically about those who have serious problems with empathy towards others or other life, in treating these differently because of some aspect upon which discrimination can take place, or treatment with regards non-human life. Can be difficult though when we all tend to react towards the many we all consciously or subconsciously categorise as 'other', especially those in the criminal category. I tend to find friends rather naturally and probably have an internal filter set quite high, even if I might not pass such myself.

It's a bit late for me so likely will never happen (as to partners), but the above tends to override any religious beliefs - but not political ones.

 

[Secret Chief]

Do you view anyone who eats meat as "yucky"? That seems too broad of a brush, unless you were being facetious there.

Hmmmm maybe not yucky but it would never work.

 

[Aštra’el]

If trust, love, loyalty and respect develop between us, those are the things that matter most to me in our relationship, and I will seek to preserve those things. Your life is your own, your choices are your own.

I have not done only that which is perceived as “good” in my life, and I would not expect that in you. If a bond forms between us, and your choices and actions strengthen and preserve that bond, I will value you in my life no matter who you are to other people, or how different our Weltanschauung.

 

[JustGeorge]

A meat eater, someone that didn't care about animal rights or a tory. Yuk.

I married a meat eater... Though I never pressured him in the least, he went vegetarian within a few years, and now we've got vegetarian kids. Strangely, it seems to be contagious... my father(who was my biggest adversary when I went vegetarian at 12) is giving it a shot, and so is my youngest sister(along with her young kids and boyfriend).

Yesterday, my dad and wife came over for a meal, and we were in the strange place of asking what his wife would eat(who is not vegetarian, and more picky than a small child).

Do you view anyone who eats meat as "yucky"? That seems too broad of a brush, unless you were being facetious there.

Honestly, I see where he's coming from. If one is vegetarian from an ethical standpoint, it can be hard to 'stomach' another person chowing down on flesh next to you on a regular basis. To some, animal rights are just as important as human rights. Also, it becomes costly to prepare separate meals, and that friction causes discord over time(been there, done that).

 

[Secret Chief]

I married a meat eater...

Me too. Got divorced 10 months later.

 

[JustGeorge]

Me too. Got divorced 10 months later.

I don't think I ever had the opportunity to date a vegetarian. I had some that were more or less tolerant.

I'd originally wanted my eldest son to be raised that way. My ex's family fed him meat while I was at work. Because, they said, "men eat meat."

Like that's what being a man is all about...

 

[Secret Chief]

I don't think I ever had the opportunity to date a vegetarian. I had some that were more or less tolerant.

I'd originally wanted my eldest son to be raised that way. My ex's family fed him meat while I was at work. Because, they said, "men eat meat."

Like that's what being a man is all about...

A work colleague saw my lunch one day and declared "That's no meal for a man." I manfully ate it anyway.

 

[JustGeorge]

A work colleague saw my lunch one day and declared "That's no meal for a man." I manfully ate it anyway.

If anyone wants to debate the manliness of a vegetarian meal, they can come over and I'd be happy to kick their butt.

Upon further reflection, I don't think I could marry a man with a cat allergy, either. That just wouldn't work.

 

[Secret Chief]

Upon further reflection, I don't think I could marry a man with a cat allergy, either. That just wouldn't work.

When we took one of our cats in (I reckon the vacancy sign had been accidentally-on-purpose left up) I had an allergic reaction - terrible runny nose, sore eyes, sneezing...
My partner was clearly concerned because she asked me "Where are you going to live?"

 

[Yerda]

Never kissed a tory.

All the usuals, like bigotry is a no-go.

There was a story recently about people trying to stop the lifeguards (RNLI) launching boats to save people drowing at sea. Because the people drowning weren't UK nationals. I couldn't have anyone like that in my life. Motivated by hate. Nope.

So lack of humanity is no. 1.

 

[syo]

What kinds of differences in worldview or moral values would you consider unacceptable in a potential or future partner? For instance, if you're pro-LGBT rights, would you marry someone who was against same-sex marriage? If you're deeply religious, would you marry someone who supported anti-religious state laws (à la the USSR)? Just a couple of examples among many.

Where do your red lines lie?

Isn't this approach philosophical? Why care about philosophies???

 

[David Young]

I could imagine being married to a person whose views on almost everything were the diametric opposite of mine. The one exception is theism. For me, marriage is the one relationship with another person where it would be unrealistic for an atheist like me to be partnered with a theist. With all other human interactions I don't see it as a barrier.

 

[Yerda]

For me, marriage is the one relationship with another person where it would be unrealistic for an atheist like me to be partnered with a theist.

Are you bitterly anti-theist or something?

 

[David Young]

What on earth would make you think that?