What Makes People Think It's Ok To Do This?

[Melody]

i'm sorry C1 sometime people just need a swift kick in the gluteus maximusKnockout

What he said. If you want to learn where they learn to be mean....look at their parents. You'll probably find the answer.

 

[Circle_One]

Thank you everyone. I just wanted to let you all know that I took everyone's advice and instead of getting angry, I instead took pity on the girl. This is the letter I wrote to her after my friend received a particularly mean letter from her. I took the initiative to respond, allowing my friend some time to breath and calm down. So here's the letter and I'm hoping that perhaps, if there are people on this forum, or even lurkers who read the posts, who are just as closed minded as she is, they will read this and maybe get something out of it.

Darling child,
I feel for you, do you know that? I really do.
I know you added me and messaged me in order to get the dramatics and fights and anger you
so crave, because somewhere, something in your meaningless little life won't allow you to
have that on your own and so you must try to get it from others, but you've got none of
that from me. I got over those dramatics when I was 16, still in highschool. I've more
important things to expend my energy on now.

The only thing I really feel for you is pity. Pity that you are so lost and alone that you
need to create drama in the lives of people you don't even know to fill the void you have
in your heart. Pity that your heart is so closed you need to make fun of others because
they are different from you. Pity that, even at the age of 21, you've still yet to mature
into the young woman you should be. And most of all, pity that you obviously feel so bad
about yourself and who you are, that you need to bring others and their happiness down as a
means of enhancing the way you feel about your own self image.

You can continue to try and rile me up if you wish, continue to message me with these inane
messages, trying to **** me off or make me feel something you wish I would; I understand
you need to do this in order to bring up your own self-confidence, I understand that your
life must be so empty that you need to involve yourself in any way you can in the
relationships of others. This phase in your life will pass eventually, don't worry, but
until it does, by all means, you may continue with your dramatics, I get it.

I pray that the Goddess will one day fill your heart with love for yourself and others so
that you may stop with these childish games and live a happy life, while allowing others
to be happy as well.

Open your heart and your mind, it works wonders.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

That's a good response.

 

[Fluffy]

Nice one. That is perfect.

 

[EnhancedSpirit]

Your friends are fortunate to have people like you in their lives.

I agree with Pussyfoot, the anger you feel towards this injustice for someone else shows how much you really care about your friends and how they are treated, and hopefully they are surrounded by big hearts like yours to protect them from the mean people of the world.

I also agree that this girl must be very miserable to resort to going out of her way to hurt someone like that. It's not as though she just made some snide remarks in public, she has actually invaded their privacy and purposely tried to cause harm. C1, I can understand why you would be so defensive. Here is a part of my teaching on 'Judgement'.
Preventing Harm While Recognizing Divine Essence. What if we see someone doing something that is clearly wrong, or is causing harm? In this case, you can be firm and take whatever action you feel is best to stop harm. Enforcing a serious consequence with someone who has acted grossly out of self-interest may be the most loving, empowering action you can take.

Yet even as you take firm action, try to understand what has brought the person to do this. Be open to seeing their inner clouds. Then choose to look beyond those clouds, beyond the inner turmoil that causes people to do harm. In this way, you can act from a place of love and support for their deeper essence, even while firmly stopping them from doing wrong or causing harm. Through choosing to see beneath all of the pain, suffering, and hatred, and to recognize and connect with the divine essence within even those who would do us harm, not only do we heal the world, we heal ourselves.

 

[standing_on_one_foot]

Mean people do suck. Just being unpleasant for its own sake, I guess. He's just as well not to have her as a friend anymore.

Now, to clear up some of my own ignorances, I have a few questions. If a female is surgically altered into becoming a male, does this new male have the ability to ejaculate? To bear children in the traditional sense? And if a male is surgically altered into becoming a female, does this new female have the ability to menstruate? Can they have children?

Nope, the surgery doesn't work nearly that well. And yes, transmen can bear children, provided they haven't had a hysterectemy or become sterile by the testosterone they're on (if they take hormones, that is, which stop menstruation while you're on them). It happens.

And no, transwomen don't have the ability to menstruate or bear children. Surgery's considerably better for them, but still not that good.