I would not want too much fuss and no tears, black clothes or wreaths. I would like the hymns 'The Lord Is My Shepherd' (Crimmond) and 'Immortal Love'. I would like Elgar's Nimrod played by the organist. An environmentally friendly coffin would be good. My husband reckons that my ashes should be put in an egg timer so I can be useful after death!
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What Sort Of Funeral Would You Like?
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mrscardero
Kal-El's Mama
I have informed carrdero that I want to be cremated.
No coffins. It's cheaper to be cremated.
No coffins. It's cheaper to be cremated.
FyreBrigidIce
Returning Noob
I would want all my friends and family there but I would want them to be told not to mourn or grieve for too long because I would be watching over them and that my suffering was over. I would want them to remember the good times and the achievements that I made in my life and the people whose hearts I have touched and who have touched my own heart.
FBI
FBI
cardero
Citizen Mod
I will rent a theater and premiere (one night only) a 90 minute feature complete with home movies and photograph collages of my crowning achievements to my most embarrassing moments and there will be a concession stand where people can get popcorn and goobers and sweet tarts and soda.
Green Gaia
Veteran Member
Something very simple, and low-key... kinda like me, lol. And I've already said how I want to be buried in another thread. Most of all, I would hope that my family and friends would be happy for me, not only for a life well-lived, but for having finally made it to the next journey.
This may be more answer than was intended, but I found the question to be both important and complex ...
As some of you know, my daughter died a few summers ago and I suddenly found myself dealing with funeral preparations - something not taught in school and immensely difficult to deal with emotionally. To make matters worse, being an atheist I did not have the support structure typically provided by a Church, Mosque, or Synagogue. I was left with selecting a cemetary, purchasing a casket, deciding on the location of the service, its character, its agenda of speakers, even such things as the type of music and the presence or absence of religious symbols in the room.
After some thought, it became pretty clear that I needed to do something more than honor my daughter. I needed to honor my own grief as well as the grief of other relatives and friends. Many of these were theists (Jewish, Christian, and Hindu).
I tried to focus on simplicity while honoring those in attendance. I asked one relative to recite the Mourner's Kaddish and a friend to read the 23rd Psalm. I spoke and then offered the podium to others. Having no experience in such things, I did my best, and I think I did OK.
What I learned from the experience is how very much the funeral is for the living. As a result, I've already purchased plots for my wife and I. When I die, the sort of funeral I would like is one that places no financial burden on those left behind, yet one which helps them to deal with what lies ahead - and that needs to be largely up to them.
As some of you know, my daughter died a few summers ago and I suddenly found myself dealing with funeral preparations - something not taught in school and immensely difficult to deal with emotionally. To make matters worse, being an atheist I did not have the support structure typically provided by a Church, Mosque, or Synagogue. I was left with selecting a cemetary, purchasing a casket, deciding on the location of the service, its character, its agenda of speakers, even such things as the type of music and the presence or absence of religious symbols in the room.
After some thought, it became pretty clear that I needed to do something more than honor my daughter. I needed to honor my own grief as well as the grief of other relatives and friends. Many of these were theists (Jewish, Christian, and Hindu).
I tried to focus on simplicity while honoring those in attendance. I asked one relative to recite the Mourner's Kaddish and a friend to read the 23rd Psalm. I spoke and then offered the podium to others. Having no experience in such things, I did my best, and I think I did OK.
What I learned from the experience is how very much the funeral is for the living. As a result, I've already purchased plots for my wife and I. When I die, the sort of funeral I would like is one that places no financial burden on those left behind, yet one which helps them to deal with what lies ahead - and that needs to be largely up to them.
mrscardero
Kal-El's Mama
In the Philippines we would have a celebration. Gambling, eating, music, and more. That's how they did funerals.carrdero said:
mrscardero
Kal-El's Mama
I chose to be cremated so that there are no financial burden on anyone.Deut. 32.8 said:
It is very good to be prepared and that goes for everything.
This reminds me. I should get life insurance.
SK2005
Saint in training
I want to have a traditional Catholic funeral. I would also like to be buried next to my husband (no I'm not implying I will kill my husband before I die!) I love Catholic funerals, they are great. I want my friends and family to be telling great memories with each other. But, fortunately I don't have to worry about this for a while! 
I was ever so sorry to learn that you lost your daughter, Deut. I think that for a parent to have to see child 'go' before them must be unimaginably aweful.
Whilst I agreed with the other posters, in that I would want the simplest of ceremonies, I was going to add that there should be some input from those left behind. If a ceremony would help the grieving and the 'letting go', then I think it would be selfish to leave a 'living will' as they call them here, stipulating what is to happen upon death. Perhaps an answer would be to make clear what our preferences would be, but with allowance made for the grieving.
Again, I am so sorry about your daughter; please accept my condolences.
Michel
Whilst I agreed with the other posters, in that I would want the simplest of ceremonies, I was going to add that there should be some input from those left behind. If a ceremony would help the grieving and the 'letting go', then I think it would be selfish to leave a 'living will' as they call them here, stipulating what is to happen upon death. Perhaps an answer would be to make clear what our preferences would be, but with allowance made for the grieving.
Again, I am so sorry about your daughter; please accept my condolences.
Michel
Lightkeeper
Well-Known Member
I will leave money to take care of it. I still say "surprise me" because it is for the living.
Joannicius
Active Member
Sounds as though you did a great job.Deut. 32.8 said:
Very thought provoking
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As you, I have everything prepared and ready except for my coffin (you know with the sides not straight), not a casket, which I have already designed and a friend of mine will build it for me...........we Orthodox don't cremate normally.........and I will have the typical Orthodox Funeral in which we have an all night vigel, and a funeral the next day. I'm 62 so it can be some time or tomorrow, as for any of us. Our Priests prepare the body for burial (no formaldihyde etc. just moisten the body all over with oil, dress it and put it in the coffin.
Quite reasonable........
Yerda
Veteran Member
Strangely my only experiences of funerals are from watching televesion...
In my ignorance then I've decided my funeral, or wake more importantly, will be later than is considered normal. I'd rather people had fun, none of that grieving business.
With whatever money I have left (which wont be much if it's soon) my friends are instructed to buy copious amounts of alcohol, rent a nice place and throw a *$£&"! good party. Live band (punk), good food (veggie), good people (whoever's on the street), strippers (well, maybe).
I've already started on a cunning plan to fake my own death in order that I should be able to attend this shindig. Alive that is.
If I can't make it in one piece I ask that my organs of no use to medicine are placed in a shiny box with a party hat on, and then fed to the worms.
In my ignorance then I've decided my funeral, or wake more importantly, will be later than is considered normal. I'd rather people had fun, none of that grieving business.
With whatever money I have left (which wont be much if it's soon) my friends are instructed to buy copious amounts of alcohol, rent a nice place and throw a *$£&"! good party. Live band (punk), good food (veggie), good people (whoever's on the street), strippers (well, maybe).
I've already started on a cunning plan to fake my own death in order that I should be able to attend this shindig. Alive that is.
If I can't make it in one piece I ask that my organs of no use to medicine are placed in a shiny box with a party hat on, and then fed to the worms.
[PART QUOTE=truthseekingsoul]Strangely my only experiences of funerals are from watching televesion...
In my ignorance then I've decided my funeral, or wake more importantly, will be later than is considered normal. I'd rather people had fun, none of that grieving business.
With whatever money I have left (which wont be much if it's soon) my friends are instructed to buy copious amounts of alcohol, rent a nice place and throw a *$£&"! good party. Live band (punk), good food (veggie), good people (whoever's on the street), strippers (well, maybe).
I've already started on a cunning plan to fake my own death in order that I should be able to attend this shindig. Alive that is.
If I can't make it in one piece I ask that my organs of no use to medicine are placed in a shiny box with a party hat on, and then fed to the worms.[/QUOTE]
Am I invited? If You are there, I'll bring the 'grub':jiggy: for the worms!
In my ignorance then I've decided my funeral, or wake more importantly, will be later than is considered normal. I'd rather people had fun, none of that grieving business.
With whatever money I have left (which wont be much if it's soon) my friends are instructed to buy copious amounts of alcohol, rent a nice place and throw a *$£&"! good party. Live band (punk), good food (veggie), good people (whoever's on the street), strippers (well, maybe).
I've already started on a cunning plan to fake my own death in order that I should be able to attend this shindig. Alive that is.
If I can't make it in one piece I ask that my organs of no use to medicine are placed in a shiny box with a party hat on, and then fed to the worms.[/QUOTE]
Am I invited? If You are there, I'll bring the 'grub':jiggy: for the worms!
jewscout
Religious Zionist
Something traditionaly Jewish and then a massive kegger afterwards.
And then have Metallica enscribed on my tombstone:
"Rover, wanderer, nomad, vagabond call me what you will
anywhere i roam, where i lay my head is home,
carved upon my stone, my body lie but still i roam":jam:
And then have Metallica enscribed on my tombstone:
"Rover, wanderer, nomad, vagabond call me what you will
anywhere i roam, where i lay my head is home,
carved upon my stone, my body lie but still i roam":jam: