What would God need to do for you in order for you to love him above all things? For me, he would simply have to speak clear messages to people so that there isn't so much division and confusion. If God would simply give people understanding, I would have no resentment towards him.
If it is the god of my understanding (since I can't answer because I'm not familiar with the Christian god), I'd say it's what I do within god rather than god for me or me for god. I like my former signature that mention god being a verb and not a noun. Once it's a noun, you seperate god from yourself. If it's a verb, god isn't a seperate thing but moves through you.
I don't see a need to know and understand the mystery of life (god if so be). I'm curious as to what that entails, but we can live in that mystery by learning about ourselves and others. If I personified this mystery and black hole of life, it would probably say:
Be the miracle
I think you'd experience and know what god wants when you act. Instead of people's eyes being blind and people just don't know the truth, I agree with Hindus that each person worships god their own way. And in my words, it doesn't have to be called god nor christian to know what life wants you to do. Many people call it a passion.
There are many ways to ask and get answers to your OP. Especially when you see it beyond the Christian god. Make room for everyone.