What would you do if you found out your boyfriend or girlfriend was bisexual?

[fallenangel101]

He/She still liked you but they also had a slight interest in their same sex.

This hasn't happened to me but im curious to see how some people would react.

 

[Storm]

I'm bi myself, so I'd have no problem with it.

 

[fallenangel101]

okay. well then what would you do if you were straight then. i guess i should have been a bit more specific on that.

 

[Trey of Diamonds]

I'd be cool with it, she can help me spot the babes. Seriously, I would have no problem with it at all.

 

[Caladan]

It wouldnt be a first time. and there is certainly no need to make this a dark secret. in some levels it makes me feel more at ease, for example it might balance out a jealousy factor having both yourself and the lady admiring other women.

 

[fallenangel101]

well what if you wanted to marry this person and knowing that they think about the same sex sexually, do you think it would be difficult to marry them because you couldn't fully satisfy them sexually because of their interest in the same sex?

 

[Enoch07]

It depends. If they had the interest before you started dating them its not so bad, because they have probably explored it, and its not a big deal. If it is a recent development after you have been with them for quite sometime it is best to just let them go so they can explore that option. If you don't let them go right off the bat you are just setting yourself up for heartache because they will eventually cheat to explore that side of their personality. I am not giving my opinion from a religious point of view. This is my personal experience speaking. If the relationship is meant to be they will come back to you on their own.

 

[Storm]

okay. well then what would you do if you were straight then. i guess i should have been a bit more specific on that.

Why should that make a difference?

 

[fallenangel101]

It depends. If they had the interest before you started dating them its not so bad, because they have probably explored it, and its not a big deal. If it is a recent development after you have been with them for quite sometime it is best to just let them go so they can explore that option. If you don't let them go right off the bat you are just setting yourself up for heartache because they will eventually cheat to explore that side of their personality. I am not giving my opinion from a religious point of view. This is my personal experience speaking.

i think that is probably a really good idea

 

[Storm]

well what if you wanted to marry this person and knowing that they think about the same sex sexually, do you think it would be difficult to marry them because you couldn't fully satisfy them sexually because of their interest in the same sex?

I'd like to take the oppurtunity to dispel this myth: being bi does NOT mean you can't be satisfied by one person. You'll be hard pressed to find someone more monogamous than I am.

 

[fallenangel101]

Why should that make a difference?

because you are only interested in that one person and they are exploring their sexual desires for other people and genders.

 

[fallenangel101]

I'd like to take the oppurtunity to dispel this myth: being bi does NOT mean you can't be satisfied by one person. You'll be hard pressed to find someone more monogamous than I am.

well yes, i understand that.
but don't you still like the same gender? and if you'll always still like the same gender then wouldn't you kinda still want the same gender too?

 

[Mister Emu]

What would you do if you found out your boyfriend or girlfriend was bisexual?

:drool:



Really, that in itself would make little difference...

 

[Storm]

well yes, i understand that.
but don't you still like the same gender?

Of course.

and if you'll always still like the same gender then wouldn't you kinda still want the same gender too?

Not in the least. It's like asking, "don't you still kinda want other men?" Even if you are tempted from time to time, you don't (I presume) cheat on your partner.

Edited for gender.

 

[fallenangel101]

Of course.


Not in the least. It's like asking, "don't you still kinda want other women?" Even if you are tempted from time to time, you don't (I presume) cheat on your partner.

okay. i get that too.
but there are some things guys can do that girls can't and vice versa. so what if your partner wanted something different and you couldn't offer it because of your gender?

 

[Enoch07]

No because they can still be monogamous like Storm said. I mean they will still look at a beautiful person of same sex and say "dayum". But as long as they have explored their bi side previously you don't have to worry about them cheating because of the sexual preference, that is if you as a couple decided to be monogamous. If they cheat after this point then it is because that person is a douche which has nothing to do with their sexual preference at all.

 

[Storm]

okay. i get that too.
but there are some things guys can do that girls can't and vice versa. so what if your partner wanted something different and you couldn't offer it because of your gender?

Without getting too explicit, I can't think of a single act that couldn't be worked out with a little creativity.

If that's not good enough, my rule is very simple: You're mine or you're not; I'm yours or I'm not. Polyamory isn't for everyone, and it's not for me.

The point is, I'm living proof that bis are as capable of being monogamous (and fulfilled!) as anyone else.

 

[fallenangel101]

Without getting too explicit, I can't think of a single act that couldn't be worked out with a little creativity.

If that's not good enough, my rule is very simple: You're mine or you're not; I'm yours or I'm not. Polyamory isn't for everyone, and it's not for me.

The point is, I'm living proof that bis are as capable of being monogamous (and fulfilled!) as anyone else.

okay.
i agree with you.

 

[Heneni]

I'll send him on his way. Come to think of it....if i dont send him he will be on his way in no time anyway to explore. Better do it sooner than later.

You are very young Fallen Angel. (15) I would say that now is the time for boys to take the back seat no matter what their sexual orientation. Life is more than exploring, its about living it well.

 

[47Wasps]

I used to be bi-curious,and because of that experience,I wouldn't have a problem with my girlfriend if she was bi.
She'd still be the same person I love,her sexual orientation doesn't change that.