What would you do if you found out your boyfriend or girlfriend was bisexual?

[fallenangel101]

I used to be bi-curious,and because of that experience,I wouldn't have a problem with my girlfriend if she was bi.
She'd still be the same person I love,her sexual orientation doesn't change that.

i keep on adding questions to this so here's another one:

would you be at all uncomfortable if she started pointing at girls and telling you how hot they were?

i don't think it would change how i feel about a person but i think it would be something that would take getting used to.

 

[47Wasps]

i keep on adding questions to this so here's another one:

would you be at all uncomfortable if she started pointing at girls and telling you how hot they were?

i don't think it would change how i feel about a person but i think it would be something that would take getting used to.

I admit,that would make me feel uncomfortable at first. But I'd work it out by doing the same thing. We could discuss how hot we thought different girls were,or something like that.This way,we'd be on mutual ground by our mutual appreciate of how attractive different women would be.

 

[fallenangel101]

I admit,that would make me feel uncomfortable at first. But I'd work it out by doing the same thing. We could discuss how hot we thought different girls were,or something like that.This way,we'd be on mutual ground by our mutual appreciate of how attractive different women would be.

That is very open minded of you.
I think that if I was in the situation I would probably do the same thing. But I would make sure that he knew that I thought he was hottest.

 

[whereismynotecard]

He/She still liked you but they also had a slight interest in their same sex.

This hasn't happened to me but im curious to see how some people would react.

As long as he or she wasn't thinking about acting on their desires and cheating on me, I'd be fine with it. But of course, I don't ever really want a boyfriend or girlfriend, so I don't think this will ever be happening to me.

 

[Guitar's Cry]

Since all bisexuals in a relationship secretly need to have a threesome now and then (as I've heard tell) to satisfy their needs, I'd have to go find a girl forthwith.

 

[fallenangel101]

Since all bisexuals in a relationship secretly need to have a threesome now and then (as I've heard tell) to satisfy their needs, I'd have to go find a girl forthwith.

That's what I thought but Storm seemed to disagree.

 

[Storm]

I think GC was being sarcastic.

 

[fallenangel101]

I think GC was being sarcastic.

if GC was, sometimes its hard to tell when typing.

 

[Trey of Diamonds]

well what if you wanted to marry this person and knowing that they think about the same sex sexually, do you think it would be difficult to marry them because you couldn't fully satisfy them sexually because of their interest in the same sex?

Have you heard of Polyamory? I would see if she wanted to explore this type of relationship.

 

[J Bryson]

My girlfriend is bisexual. She's also monogamous. It's fun to be able to compare notes on women.

 

[fallenangel101]

Have you heard of Polyamory? I would see if she wanted to explore this type of relationship.

you would be completely okay with that?

 

[Kathryn]

Well, let's take into accountability age - my husband and I were both in our forties when we met, dated and married. Hopefully we both had our sexual orientation figured out by then. I believe we did. With that in mind, I never would have dated him if he had told me he was bisexual. If we were already dating when he dropped that bombshell, I would have parted ways with him as amicably as possible.

Don't get me wrong - when I was younger, I was attracted off and on to other women, and I can most definitely see how women could love each other in an all encompassing (including sexual) relationship. I don't believe though, that this occasional attraction makes me bisexual. I never explored the sexual side of it very deeply, and I have no regrets or lingering curiousity about sex with women.

I'd say it was a passing thought - and I think that's perfectly normal. I'm ok with that with my partner as well. But I would NOT be ok with acting upon that impulse. And if it was a recurring impulse that they had to fight to keep under control, I'd have no more patience with that than I would if my husband had to constantly fight the recurring impulse to be unfaithful to me with another woman.

I don't need that kind of drama in my life.

 

[fallenangel101]

Well, let's take into accountability age - my husband and I were both in our forties when we met, dated and married. Hopefully we both had our sexual orientation figured out by then. I believe we did. With that in mind, I never would have dated him if he had told me he was bisexual. If we were already dating when he dropped that bombshell, I would have parted ways with him as amicably as possible.

Don't get me wrong - when I was younger, I was attracted off and on to other women, and I can most definitely see how women could love each other in an all encompassing (including sexual) relationship. I don't believe though, that this occasional attraction makes me bisexual. I never explored the sexual side of it very deeply, and I have no regrets or lingering curiousity about sex with women.

I'd say it was a passing thought - and I think that's perfectly normal. I'm ok with that with my partner as well. But I would NOT be ok with acting upon that impulse. And if it was a recurring impulse that they had to fight to keep under control, I'd have no more patience with that than I would if my husband had to constantly fight the recurring impulse to be unfaithful to me with another woman.

I don't need that kind of drama in my life.

so you would only not be okay with it because you don't want to deal with his thoughts about other men?

 

[J Bryson]

Well, let's take into accountability age - my husband and I were both in our forties when we met, dated and married. Hopefully we both had our sexual orientation figured out by then. I believe we did. With that in mind, I never would have dated him if he had told me he was bisexual. If we were already dating when he dropped that bombshell, I would have parted ways with him as amicably as possible.

Don't get me wrong - when I was younger, I was attracted off and on to other women, and I can most definitely see how women could love each other in an all encompassing (including sexual) relationship. I don't believe though, that this occasional attraction makes me bisexual. I never explored the sexual side of it very deeply, and I have no regrets or lingering curiousity about sex with women.

I'd say it was a passing thought - and I think that's perfectly normal. I'm ok with that with my partner as well. But I would NOT be ok with acting upon that impulse. And if it was a recurring impulse that they had to fight to keep under control, I'd have no more patience with that than I would if my husband had to constantly fight the recurring impulse to be unfaithful to me with another woman.

I don't need that kind of drama in my life.

What if it was a recurring impulse that he didn't have to fight any harder than he does when he finds a woman attractive? In other words, I'm working under the assumption that he's male and human, and finds other women attractive, but does not act on it out of loyalty to your relationship and love for you. What if it was the same with men?

 

[Kathryn]

I would not be ok with it anymore than I would be ok marrying someone who had a known gambling problem or a problem being faithful in general, or who battled alcoholism, etc. It's an unnecessary drama in my life and if I can avoid it, I will. Life is complicated enough.

As adults, we can choose which character traits, habits, weaknesses, and predispositions our partner embodies. I chose to keep things as uncomplicated as possible. That being said, my husband is a smoker. This almost certainly means he will have health problems related to smoking.

But the question was, what would we do if we found out our boyfriend/girlfriend was bisexual. There are different deal breakers for different people. For some, the fact that my otherwise adorable, good hearted, faithful, handsome, intelligent, heterosexual husband smokes would be a deal killer.

To some, the fact that I am very career oriented and have short hair would be a deal killer.

To each his own.

 

[fallenangel101]

I would not be ok with it anymore than I would be ok marrying someone who had a known gambling problem or a problem being faithful in general, or who battled alcoholism, etc. It's an unnecessary drama in my life and if I can avoid it, I will. Life is complicated enough.

As adults, we can choose which character traits, habits, weaknesses, and predispositions our partner embodies. I chose to keep things as uncomplicated as possible. That being said, my husband is a smoker. This almost certainly means he will have health problems related to smoking.

But the question was, what would we do if we found out our boyfriend/girlfriend was bisexual. There are different deal breakers for different people. For some, the fact that my otherwise adorable, good hearted, faithful, handsome, intelligent, heterosexual husband smokes would be a deal killer.

To some, the fact that I am very career oriented and have short hair would be a deal killer.

To each his own.

well i think that makes sense.

 

[Kathryn]

What if it was a recurring impulse that he didn't have to fight any harder than he does when he finds a woman attractive? In other words, I'm working under the assumption that he's male and human, and finds other women attractive, but does not act on it out of loyalty to your relationship and love for you. What if it was the same with men?

I guess, having dated him in my forties, if I knew that he hadn't had sex with a man in many years, or maybe even never, maybe it would have been palatable to me.

But no, I really can't see it - because I can't imagine HIM in that situation at all. He's the most definitely heterosexual man that I know. And I like him that way. If he were bisexual, he wouldn't be who he IS sexually, and that's who I love. So maybe it's a moot point. I doubt I would have ever been attracted to him longterm if he had been bisexual.

Honestly speaking, we absolutely revel in each other - the beautiful differences between male and female never cease to amaze and delight us. I can't imagine being comfortable with any ambiguity in that area.

But that's just me.

 

[fallenangel101]

I guess, having dated him in my forties, if I knew that he hadn't had sex with a man in many years, or maybe even never, maybe it would have been palatable to me.

But no, I really can't see it - because I can't imagine HIM in that situation at all. He's the most definitely heterosexual man that I know. And I like him that way. If he were bisexual, he wouldn't be who he IS sexually, and that's who I love. So maybe it's a moot point. I doubt I would have ever been attracted to him longterm if he had been bisexual.

Honestly speaking, we absolutely revel in each other - the beautiful differences between male and female never cease to amaze and delight us. I can't imagine being comfortable with any ambiguity in that area.

But that's just me.

so you are saying that his sexual orientation is part of his personality and who he is as a person and that you like his personality as a heterosexual man?

 

[Trey of Diamonds]

you would be completely okay with that?

Yeah, why not?

 

[fallenangel101]

Yeah, why not?

well personally, i don't like the idea of sharing my boyfriend. so i don't think it would be an idea that i would like.