Which do you dislike more: being hated or being pitied?
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What's Worse: Hatred or Pity?
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dyanaprajna2011
Dharmapala
I'm weird, because I think hatred is worse than pity. Hatred is born of anger, which comes from fear. Pity can either come from sarcasm, which comes from being egotistical, or it can come from genuine compassion. While I think that hatred is worse than pity, alot of times, I feel like I'd rather someone hate me than pity me. But, I recognize that I do think I feel this way due to some sort of pride on my part, which is another quality not good to possess.
I don't dislike neither by default. It depends on whether or not i think the feeling is warranted. If i see myself in a rough situation, and others are pitying me, i don't see why i would have any problem with that. Same story if i felt that a person had good reasons to hate me. I would actually understand it quite comfortably.
On the other hand, i would really dislike both of them, if i feel that they're unwarranted. I would equally dislike them in that case, or pretty close. I don't see any one of them as worse than the other.
On the other hand, i would really dislike both of them, if i feel that they're unwarranted. I would equally dislike them in that case, or pretty close. I don't see any one of them as worse than the other.
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Me Myself
Back to my username
Hatred, but mostly because of thinking of the other person. Friends don´t hate or pitty me. Those who are not my friends may feel about me however they want. It´s not like it will damage MY autoesteem. (well, colective hate or pity may but that´s another story).
The thing is if they hate they would suffer emotionaly from it and if they feel pity they´ll just think for a little whil and then not think about it that much. Pitty can´t screw your mood as much as hatred can. At least in my opinion.
:yoda: to the dark they lead you.
The thing is if they hate they would suffer emotionaly from it and if they feel pity they´ll just think for a little whil and then not think about it that much. Pitty can´t screw your mood as much as hatred can. At least in my opinion.
:yoda: to the dark they lead you.
dyanaprajna2011
Dharmapala
Yoda FTW!
Gjallarhorn
N'yog-Sothep
Hatred may be pretty bad, but pity is demeaning and ego-feeding. Hatred doesn't build you up. It puts you weaker than the hated. Pity is pushing yourself over them while pushing the other person down.
Now, hatred may cause more harm than pity (at least, as far as appearances go) but pity is a complete disregard for the other's dignity and humanity.
Now, hatred may cause more harm than pity (at least, as far as appearances go) but pity is a complete disregard for the other's dignity and humanity.
Pity can get you things. Hatred most time won't get you anything positive. Therefore, I'll take pity
Circle_One
Well-Known Member
I much prefer to be hated than pitied.
Pity makes me feel weak, and I absolutely hate feeling weak.
Pity makes me feel weak, and I absolutely hate feeling weak.
Kilgore Trout
Misanthropic Humanist
Neither really. Either of those attitudes towards me indicate a problem with the other person that has nothing to do with me.
Viker
Your beloved eccentric Auntie Cristal
I don't like either. Both are pathetic so I can't choose between them. I know I'll incur them both at some point in life.
Hermit Philosopher
Selflessly here for you
Being hated would feel very bad; unless it was unjustified, as then it would be the hater's problem. But if I was hated for something I truly had done [personally] to someone, I would very much try to compensate persons involved. Then, I would like to be forgiven but if for some reason, this were not possible, I would forgive them for not wanting to relieve my suffering, move one and certainly try to learn something from the experience.
On being pitied: I am often pitied, haha! I feel this is because some misunderstand my reasons for choosing to live as I do. When I was younger, I felt a need to explain myself. Now a days, I do not: people do not have to understand why I do what I do. I don't pity myself.
If you believe in people's ability to create inner peace and happiness for selves, you seldom pity them.
Yours humbly,
Hermit
On being pitied: I am often pitied, haha! I feel this is because some misunderstand my reasons for choosing to live as I do. When I was younger, I felt a need to explain myself. Now a days, I do not: people do not have to understand why I do what I do. I don't pity myself.
If you believe in people's ability to create inner peace and happiness for selves, you seldom pity them.
Yours humbly,
Hermit
Koldo
Outstanding Member
The former. It is easier to lead the latter to a desirable consequence.
Katzpur
Not your average Mormon
I just think you're hot. Is that okay?I hate being pitied. That's why I had some arguments with Seej before because of what she has posted about me(and I think you guys know what it's about). I don't want people to go like "Aww, poor boy!" and be sad.