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When Did You Choose To Be Straight?

Quagmire

Quagmire

Imaginary talking monkey
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Sunstone said:
That's not true! You want more than that! You want to force your marriage laws down my throat thus destroying the sanctity of my secret marriage to my doggie! You monster!
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Of course, that old cliche argument against legitimizing ChaiseLoungesexual unions: "We're just protecting family outings".
 
Etritonakin

Etritonakin

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ButTheCatCameBack said:
I remember when I was little more than a toddler. The apt complex I lived in had an interracial married couple. Though I don't even know if mentioning that means much as I'm not sure what sentiment was in the early 80's on that. But I mention as part of an point I'm making so carrying on...
And a good friend of ours was lesbian whose name I always forget. I remember her and her girlfriend had Shi Tzu dogs and nice white carpeting. I have a pretty damn good memory about most things(names are not one of them) and I don't remember any talk about well ok see it works like this boys like girls, girls like boys got it? I just did..and rather early on. I remember being attracted to girls very early on in grade school.

I don't think that environment doesn't have SOME effect on us and not just on this subject. It's obvious that it does. But I think it's a bit player when it comes to what gender we are sexually attracted to.
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That's sort of my point.... but I actually believe we CAN be attracted to anyone -regardless of gender. We're not attracted to everyone of a certain gender, so it's, at least, not simply the gender which matters.

Some questions, though -if you don't mind answering... just because I'm curious (I promise not to throw anything back at you -in fact, I won't even respond again)

Do you think you are attracted to gender more than persons? Could a certain person -or type of person make the gender thing a secondary issue?

Are you attracted to one gender more than another at least partly due to reasons which are non-physical -as in, women tend to be more understanding/supportive (or whatever)?

Was there anything or anyone in your IMMEDIATE environment which made you feel ashamed or afraid of feeling such attractions -or afraid to acknowledge your attractions to yourself? Did you feel somewhat free to feel that way -even if you might not have felt comfortable expressing those feelings to others?

[Somewhat unrelated, but I have seen people (straight/gay/ whatever) pass over people they are obviously attracted to because the larger group or community would not look favorably on the couple -and those people sometimes couldn't discern the difference between that and not being attracted. I could see their obvious attraction -even disappointment -but they could not.]
 
Smoke

Smoke

Done here.
melissa.white said:
1 John 4:4 Greater is He that is in me, than he that is in the world.
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Romans 10:17 So then faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the word of God
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There's nothing like off-topic spam to let people know what sort of people are attracted to your religion.
 
Erebus

Erebus

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As far as I recall, my decision to become straight was right after a night of excessive drunken-ness and bad mistakes. The very next day I thought "never again" and voila, I was straight.
 
Gentoo

Gentoo

The Feisty Penguin
I chose to be straight after I realized I'd make a terrible lesbian... I like guys too much.
 
Azakel

Azakel

Liebe ist für alle da
Smoke said:
I think most people are potentially bisexual. But most people strongly prefer one sex to the other.
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Agreed. this what I think too. Are you reading my mind again?
And I didn't choose to be straight, I just am. A like the look of a Women ^_^
 
Madhuri

Madhuri

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Smoke said:
I think most people are potentially bisexual. But most people strongly prefer one sex to the other.
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But you get the occasional person like myself who likes the idea of being bisexual but just can't bring herself to feel any sexual attraction for the same sex.
 
Smoke

Smoke

Done here.
Madhuri said:
But you get the occasional person like myself who likes the idea of being bisexual but just can't bring herself to feel any sexual attraction for the same sex.
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I don't think everybody is potentially bisexual. Just most people. :)

It has been years -- no, decades -- since I've had sex with a woman, and I haven't missed it at all.
 
Etritonakin

Etritonakin

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Madhuri said:
But you get the occasional person like myself who likes the idea of being bisexual but just can't bring herself to feel any sexual attraction for the same sex.
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Can you explain why you can not? Just curious.

I was just thinking.. Even if people don't feel sexually attracted to a person, they can still see them as attractive. Most straight guys would never admit to finding another guy more or less attractive than others for various reasons, but it still happens -and not necessarily coupled with personal sexual attraction.

Definitely a complex issue.
 
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Madhuri

Madhuri

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Etritonakin said:
Can you explain why you can not? Just curious.

I was just thinking.. Even if people don't feel sexually attracted to a person, they can still see them as attractive. Most straight guys would never admit to finding another guy more or less attractive than others for various reasons, but it still happens -and not necessarily coupled with personal sexual attraction.

Definitely a complex issue.
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Oh, I can definitely see beauty in women. I check out women all the time, just not in a sexual way. I've thought about life being married to a nice girl and think I would love it. I like the cuddling, the closeness, the partnership. But I am so turned off by the idea of sex with a female. I find vaginas a bit icky. I can admire a girl's body, but I don't want to be involved with it sexually. It grosses me out a little!
 
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Onkara

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Madhuri said:
But I am so turned off by the idea of sex with a female. I find vaginas a bit icky. I can admire a girl's body, but I don't want to be involved with it sexually. It grosses me out a little!
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I think that is probably because you live with one :)

I feel that way about men, all that hair! It wasn't a decision I needed to take.
 
ellenjanuary

ellenjanuary

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Anyone wanna bet, a guy calling himself ellen, has some gender issues? :D

I ddin't know what I was, until thirty years down the road found me sharing an apartment in San Diego with a homosexual male. But, us "defectives" are "programmed" by "sloppy code" in our childhood - isn't that what they all say? That if it wasn't "my" choice, it was a resultant of desultory parenting. But, I made a choice; I made a couple. I realized that being born into a world without love was like "certification to be a hater." I chose not. I looked for love in every little thing, and came to see that the affairs of the heart are far greater then mere biology. I could love another man - but I made a discovery. Men stink. No lie. I made a conscious, olfactorily descision.... :D

But, I never really was attracted to males; I found myself in a dark place, where the most attractive thing, was another human.
 
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